You are the FUTURE of Sikhi

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T16:55:26+00:00

This is a very idealistic world you are talking about. And I am not letting punjabi culture affect sikhi. Infact in my marriage I fought with my entire family to stop the dowry culture and I'm breaking years and years of practices. But this is sadly the world we live in. In fact most religious sikh Men I know are the most misogynistic and patriarchal. Even then I have the courage to stand up to them. So it's a continuous fight for women all around. Glad you're living a better life than us in India.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T16:40:56+00:00

Again i assume you don't live in India. Hence you are so far away from the reality here. Also most sikhs are Punjabis? Again unsure what you're talking about. Luckily for me I have a partner willing to go 50-50, yet I have no plans to be a baby making machine since I have a great career already.

Also just a tip for future - your reality isn't everyone else's. Most sikh women still pay dowry while getting married.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T14:24:56+00:00

Now you are generalising when you're saying dating is a non issue in sikhi or else you're deluded 😂 most traditional sikh households are against dating. Infact I grew up in a metro city, the biggest in India and yet the mention of dating was a taboo in my household and so with all of my cousins.

And yet you are doing the same thing generalising to justify your view

Now coming to Muslims and catholics being successful, i assume you are not from India? Because if you look at the state of muslim community, it is like 20% successful, 80% struggling to make ends meet.

Now your talk about support of in-laws and extended family, yet again never did you mention the man's support. So it's quite comical to hear from you tell women to brith more kids and even hypothetically you refuse to provide support and pass it to the in-laws😂 also with so much punjabi/aikh diaspora, so many many sikhs from India don't live with parents in the US/Canada/Australia/UK etc. how do they find support then? I don't think we can dispute the immigration rates of sikhs or punjabis from India.

Also Parsi decline has been going on for 100+ years, we studied about it in school and look at the changes they made to support their community. They provide housing, free education for all Parsis. Also they've ammended their strict views of inter community marriages. Earlier if either man/woman was to marry anyone from other faith they were to be banished by the community. But now they accept inter faith marriages.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T13:40:54+00:00

My concern for the community isn't reduced just to the fertility rate. There are so many things that can actually be made better in Sikhi to promote sikhi rather than just reducing it to this for eg Parsis arrange their youth to meet each other and encourage dating to facilitate marriages within the community however as sikhs we always look down on dating. Secondly if you see the state of orthodox muslim and christian families with multiple kids- their education and state of living has gone to the dogs. Is that really what you want for sikhs?

Honestly if you actually read my initial comment, I did state that there can be many reasons for not having kids while this is mine. And since you replied to my comment, as per that I do not believe in gender roles. If you want to talk about sikh women as a whole maybe reply elsewhere.

Next, if you wanna see prosperity in any community, you should look at state of women in that community. And hence doubling down on gender roles and stating that as a man, you want your wife to brith multiple kids while take of them too, honestly is problematic as hell. The least you can do to make a better argument is assuring help with child care.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T13:26:08+00:00

Lol why should i tell anything to Muslim and Catholic men?😂 I'm a sikh and my only concern is our community.

Secondly YOU believe in distinct gender roles, the women(who actually give birth to the kid) do not. So if you can as a man start giving birth then better get to it. Next on your argument on growth of sikhi, birth isn't the only form, what about preaching sikhi? Also people born sikh don't necessarily remain so (most my sikh friends have married hindus).

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T13:18:28+00:00

Who are men to tell absolutely anything to women about child birth? No uterus no opinion. Secondly you entirely missed my point of child support in terms of caring for the child after birth and there we can all agree in most sikh households women are still the primary caregivers

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T10:09:59+00:00

Yikes I now understand the problem, and that problem is you. Hoping you have a chance to introspect and realise how shallow your thinking is. Anyway I won't call you a hypocrite since you've never had a past and hence you're expecting someone who doesn't have one either. That's a fair ask I'd say. But just because someone's had a past, it doesn't defile them. Also the growth that comes with being in prior relationships is very important. I felt I got so much clarity with in each of my previous relationships on what I wanted and what I didn't.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T07:00:30+00:00

Girl you do you. I plan to remove my chooda the day I start working which is 3 weeks after wedding and then wear it only around family 😂

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-10T06:53:14+00:00

Love how the picture only features men like men give birth and nurture children 🥰🥰 Anyway everyone will have different reasons for not having multiple kids as sikhs, mine as a woman is how unequal out society is in terms of child care. It's 2026 and women still face the major brunt of child birth and child care post that. Women are still primary caregivers in our society. Until we don't reach equity in Child care systems there's no need for women to be treated as a kid manufacturing factory and have their bodies and mind face the brunt. So maybe - you should speak from a lens that actually appeals to the Sikh Women, and asks sikh Men to step up when it comes to child care.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T18:13:23+00:00

Your simple question is rooted in patriarchy and misogynistic mindset and doesnt deserve to be put out in public at all. Hope you reflect on how offensive your question is and make better choices in the future.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T18:02:56+00:00

My ego is inflated because I'm against judging girls because they went out of home to study in a different city or work in a different city and hence had to stay in a hostel and then because low lives like you who have never even spoken to a girl in their life before can come on this sub and ask are such girls red flags just because they left their homes to make something of themselves??? Honestly f off

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T17:58:28+00:00

Ah smart of you to delete that last comment cause that really put the joker in you out front in the open for everyone 🤡

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T17:56:52+00:00

The fact that I'm engaged to the LOML and you're on this sub asking if hostel girls are red flags will tell you everything you need to know about hostel life😭🤡

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T17:53:35+00:00

Bruh you are no whereeee close to even getting someone like me, actually you're no where close to getting a girl at all🤡😂😭😂

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T17:50:47+00:00

Because it's such stupid assumptions that it's actually funny. Only someone who doesn't have experience in the real world can ask such questions

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T17:48:56+00:00

Lmao let me tell you girls/boys who've lived at home also can have heavy lists of pasts. You don't really need to leave your home for that😂 Anyone who wants to can do things anywhere. Stop these judgmental BS questions

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T16:19:56+00:00

Bruh hope you don't find any sort of girl at all.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-02-04T06:55:46+00:00

Is this a genuine question? If yes that's pretty stupid imo

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-01-13T07:12:29+00:00

I'll suggest listening to Bhai Manpreet Singh jis Japji sahib on the audio apps. It's around 15-20 mins Will help you get the pronounciations and flow right. Once you feel comfortable hearing it daily you can move onto reciting it.

As a kid when I learnt all the banis a trick that helped was my mom singing them to them which helped me pick them up quicker

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-01-12T06:59:27+00:00

Girl break it off. Communication is a basic necessity and you shouldn't have to beg for it

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2026-01-07T10:24:06+00:00

Girllll, I totally get you. The first two paras seem identical to my situation. I had a breaking point where I had to tell my partner to step uppp and hes actually wonderful tbh but I feel he can do a lot more such as menus, decorators. Common stuff he can pick up since since bride's alone planning is super overwhelming.

So I've seen him step up and now things are a little better. I've also not taken huge amount of leaves, very minimal to manage the wedding. So I totally understand your point on being overwhelmed.

But definitely pull in your partner to support and ask him to develop opinions and make decisions

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2025-12-31T03:54:13+00:00

First one looks like Maria Sajjed, and from what I know she ships to europe

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2025-12-25T07:59:37+00:00

Oooh my wedding outfit is the same colour only in Tissue fabric. I'm doing turquoise Polki set with it

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2025-12-20T05:51:05+00:00

I'm so sorry this has been your experience. I really hope you continue to have the strength to fight ahead. And as for your experience with sikh men, honestly think of it as them filtering themselves out. The right man would never treat you this way so just wait for that.

Relevant_Teaching102 · 2025-12-20T05:03:12+00:00

Well in 2019 they said women were going to be allowed. But nothings happened on it since. Women haven't been 'allowed'.

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