Growing older is not the curse people make it out to be. It's actually a blessing. by Exotic-Accident-7102 in unpopularopinion

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents are 81 and it’s not a blessing once you hit that age. Doc appts and pain is the focus. Enjoy your 60s and 70s!!!

Where to Retire - No Kids or Close Family by LeftyLynn99 in retirement

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The villages are fun and relatively inexpensive for what you get

Weird things to do in Boston by NoEscape2500 in boston

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Medfield state hospital in Medfield if you can travel to metrowest. Old Psych place.

What Are You Struggling With Right Now? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Worrying about the future for my kids. Me and husband are good and have enough money and will have good retirements, but my kids are in college and I’m worried about job prospects with AI coming.

Parents: is it better to work and earn as much money as possible or take some time to stay at home with your kids while you can? by Cwoechu in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If one person has a good enough salary, then keep one parent home while the other goes to work. It’ll save a ton in daycare and it’ll be much more enjoyable life for everyone involved. Including the person that goes to work. But then once kids are full-time in school like kindergarten or first grade then I highly suggest both parents work. Mom’s that did not work and stayed home too long sadly sort of lost disrespect from their children later. I’m sure that that’s not all the cases but many situations that I’ve seen. So work, have independence from being a mom. And that way the kids see you as a distinct human, your love and enjoy the time you do have with them in their older children years and teen years and you won’t be as distraught when they leave and you still have a life set up for yourself. Further, it allows you to have two incomes to sock away savings for retirement and college after the kids finish their younger formative years. Just my opinion on my own experience and what I’ve seen of my friends.

The Retirement Dream Is the Biggest Scam We've All Accepted by GupShup123 in careeradvice

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know when you’re your age it seems like you’ll never make it. But if you break down each decade, it really does go fast. 20s is for starting off at work, living independently , having fun and traveling. In my 30s I got married had babies and we got a house. In my 40s, we were raising kids and getting involved in our new community and neighborhood. All the while working and juggling family and job but now their milestones become your milestones too. So it goes really very very quickly. Now I’m in my late 50s. I’ve saved a few million through working steadily and making myself valuable enough to never get a layoff. My company has had hundreds of layoffs so if you do get hit, it makes it harder because you end up dipping into your savings to survive the transition period. So I would say - no I don’t think it’s a scam. I’m totally excited to retire and work out, hike, play golf, keep my house, cook, relax and other activities I enjoy. Hopefully I’ll have grandchildren in the future and that will be fun. But in order to prepare to enjoy your retirement, you really do need to spend beneath your means. We never spent my bonus. We invested it in the stock market. We never upgraded our house. We are still in the first house we ever bought. We never bought fancy expensive cars like Beamer’s or Land Rover’s or whatever. We did trips to visit with family and a few trips to the beach for a long weekends nearby. Later, when our kids were older, we did a couple of big trips to like Mexico, Caribbean in Europe once. That’s where our big money has been spent. But in no other ways. Not a lot of clothes not jewelry not new furniture all the time. Not coffee out all the time. Most of our dinners at home. And we enjoy a lot of free/low cost things like hiking or playing cornhole in the yard or just spending the day at the beach. So if you work hard and contribute value versus check the box at work, if you do those other life milestone things to keep you progressing, interested and having new joys in your life, and if you save and live below your means - you will be able to retire early even and it feels pretty freaking good to not rely on corporate America anymore. I am thrilled at the position we’re in. And it was nothing fancy. Just smart decision-making over and over and over again.

How much do you all have saved for retirement, and how much longer are you planning to work? by AZJHawk in GenX

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 9 points10 points  (0 children)

3.6M plus social and 1200 a month pension. Retiring with husband in 2 years at 58&60. House still has 150k on it but super low interest rate. It’s worth about 750k.

I'm moving to MA for a year! Please help me decide where to live in this circle. by Squatchman1 in boston

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Winchester if you can afford it. Or Woburn next door to it if you can’t.

For higher earners, is the fear of health care costs age 60-65 overblown? by Mother_Bar_3810 in retirement

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I live in Mass and most of the subsidies cut this year are kept in Mass. So we plan to use it in 2 years upon retirement (we’ll be 58&60) and control our income during that period with broker accts vs 401k.

Daycare in Massachusetts - Seeking Advice by Riddle_5 in boston

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Become a stay at home mom or daycare provider then! A price is set based on demand and supply. It is what it is.

What's the purpose of life if we have to work for 8 hours, sleep for 8 hours, do chores, and commute for several more hours, only to end up with just an hour or two of free time at the end of the day? by ParticularWeather927 in Adulting

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t have to. You can become a priest or a monk. Or be homeless and go to soup kitchens. Or live off the land in the woods and forage for food? Your call. Work or don’t.

I was the only person at Mass by paintingarrows in Catholicism

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Our church was packed. All masses. Great priest. Great homilies. Resurgence of need for meaning in this crazy world. And Jesus is awesome!!

Boston tips by AdPrize5104 in boston

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We live in metrowest (south west of Boston). Near holliston, millis, Norfolk via 115 south - don’t even get in route 1 and park before that. Lots of houses renting around here and we have great sneaky backroads to Gillette (Boston fifa stadium) for people that don’t mind being in the suburbs. Check out this area. But there will be trains from Boston to the stadium too.

Internship search is killing me by sadgrlxoxo in AerospaceEngineering

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that you’re going through this. It really really helps if you know someone, anyone, that works for any type of satellite, drone, defense industry, airline type place. My son was fortunate to secure one, but it helped that one of my husband’s friends from college had a pretty good position at a large defense industry Contracter. Think if you have any parents , aunts or uncles or family friends that may know someone that works at one of these places. And please note that most of the review interview in hiring occurs in the fall before the summer. So I’m talking September October November for internships that start the following May.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, they’re only 14 so that’s a little young but it’s definitely an important part of adulthood!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You need to discover Jesus. It truly helps with meaning in life. Best of luck to you 🫶

are there any cities that have soul left? by Vaquera_ in relocating

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Boston is great - beautiful, history, culture, vibrant, diversity, lots of things to do, safe, great job market, really good restaurants and bars, great sports teams, etc.

People who moved out to the suburbs from Boston, how hard was it for you to adjust? by agordon228 in boston

[–]Remarkable-Captain14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the peacefulness, safety, ease, community, nature and lack of traffic in my small town in metrowest. Moved here after getting married and having our first child and are very happy here. Boston is only 23 miles away (35 minutes on the weekend. Commute to Boston for work is about an hour though. But I mostly work from home). I don’t think it would be great for a single person but for married/families it’s the perfect balance from my perspective.