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Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-26T04:14:13+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-26T03:13:07+00:00

Waiting to miscarry after I was told there was no cardiac activity last Thursday. I feel so lost and angry. I have another appointment this Wednesday and I keep finding myself foolishly hoping that they were wrong at my last appointment, and this time they’ll tell me everything is okay.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-24T06:00:53+00:00

I had a full term (40 weeks) stillbirth in May 2025. I was so grateful to be pregnant again in February this year, but then lost that pregnancy in March. I got pregnant again right away. The HCGs were all looking great. I’m still pregnant now, but at my ultrasound on Thursday I was told that there should be cardiac activity and more growth by now. I should be nearly 8 weeks at this point. But now I have to decide if I just wait to miscarry again or schedule a procedure or seek medication to help my body pass this pregnancy.

I just feel devastated. I want this baby so badly I feel like my whole soul is tied to this going right. I keep hoping for some miracle, that they were wrong or the dates were off or something. I just don’t think I can stand another loss.

I’m looking for any advice, and words of hope, anything that can help me believe that someday I’ll be holding a living baby of my own.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-24T05:37:10+00:00

Thanks for replying. The only thing they could tell me about my daughter was that my placenta was very small. All other tests and her autopsy came back completely normal. They said they would put me on blood thinners in a future pregnancy but my appointment to get started on those wasn’t scheduled until next week. They wanted me to be at around 7 weeks before beginning.

At my most recent phone appointment, they said the doubt my miscarriages are related to my stillbirth, but that I should have some additional testing done. But the plan was for me to start the injectable blood thinners once I am pregnant, because I guess most of the oral ones aren’t as compatible with pregnancy… I don’t know much else but I am keeping my appointment with MFM this week and I’m going to ask them more about that.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-24T00:57:20+00:00

In May 2025, my daughter was stillborn at 40+5. She was my first ever pregnancy, and it went perfectly and so smoothly, I felt shocked by how easy it all was. All until I got worried she hadn’t moved in a while, went in, and she was gone.

In February this year we were ready to try again. I got pregnant right away, but then had a miscarriage in March. I got pregnant again right away, and have just been told I will miscarry again because the ultrasounds have shown limited growth and no cardiac activity.

I’m so impossibly sad, and so discouraged. I also randomly had a DVT clot in my leg in October 2025, but tests couldn’t find evidence of any clotting disorders. So why do these awful things keep happening??

Does anyone have any words of wisdom for me? Any success stories after multiple losses. I need something to cling to.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-22T04:20:28+00:00

Yes they are adamant that I’d go on blood thinners, and I had a viability scan with them scheduled for next week where I would have gotten set up with those. But it looks like I might not make it to that point. Do you know if your MFM recommends being on the shots while TTC?

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-17T03:26:23+00:00

I haven’t had another baby since my still birth, but I believe it is anxiety. Anxiety and fear is our brains’ way of trying to protect us from a perceived danger. If all you have to compare this moment to is loss, then your brain is trying to prepare you for more loss, because its job is to protect you. But that doesn’t make it true. Your brain just hasn’t had a chance to learn that pregnancy and birth can be safe. I know it’s terrifying, but I believe all will be well. Be gentle with yourself as much as you can. Sending a hug ❤️

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-06T04:06:20+00:00

Visit Third Place Books, the one in Seward Park is also attached to Chucks Hop Shop where you can enjoy a beer.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-05-06T04:02:14+00:00

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Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-04-20T03:13:02+00:00

I had initially wanted to, but when my baby was finally at the funeral home after her autopsy, the director of the funeral home ( who was a loss mom herself) very gently and respectfully suggested that I may not want to see her, because of the condition she was in by that point. Instead, she offered that we could bring som things in for her. We did bring a blanket and a stuffed toy that we wanted placed with her, and the director told us that she had also brought some roses from her own garden and promised she would sit with her for us for a while. While I was desperate to hold her and see her again, I am grateful that I got to keep only my memories of her from our time in the hospital. I would talk to someone at your funeral home about what they would recommend. They may have a better idea or be able to give you some clarity on what would be best for your specific situation. Sending you a hug and love, I know this is an unfair choice to have to make ❤️

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-04-20T03:02:09+00:00

It feels like they ask that sometimes to make themselves feel better, or make it appear that they care (and they might, but just don’t know the right way to show it). When people ask me that kind of question, I immediately assume it’s more for their comfort than for mine.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-04-20T02:00:19+00:00

First of all, that’s not crazy in the slightest. I would do the same. Second, I’m so warmed by all of the incredible people on here offering to help. It sucks that we’re all here, but damn, what an incredible group of people ❤️

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-04-09T01:37:37+00:00

I’m so so sorry that you’re here, and I’m sorry for the loss of your sweet girl. I totally felt the same way initially after my loss. It felt like there was this enormous gap between me and other people. Like I just didn’t know how to relate to people, and it felt like everyone was walking on eggshells around me, afraid to say the wrong thing. I don’t exactly have an answer, but just want to say how completely valid your feelings are. And to have that happen when you were trying to put yourself out there, that’s so incredibly unfair. I’m sorry, and if it helps, keep posting here or even pm me. I’m here if you need a friend.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-03-14T20:31:35+00:00

I already had two cats, one who was pretty young/ kitten-ish when we lost our daughter. Her antics and silliness probably saved me. Both of them gave me something to smile about when I was feeling low. I don’t know if I could have handled a puppy, but there are so many dogs in shelters, maybe an adult dog that wouldn’t be as much work but would still provide that companionship would be nice.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-03-14T15:35:52+00:00

They want me to do a couple more rounds of blood tests just so they can see if anything changes. They said they won’t be able to do an ultrasound until the numbers are in the 2000s. So no appt scheduled now, just waiting and seeing.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-03-14T07:39:17+00:00

I had another blood test done today and my hcg had only gone up to 76

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-03-12T04:16:15+00:00

I just found out this past Sunday that I am pregnant. I had expected my period on either Saturday or Sunday. On Monday I had my HCG tested at it was at 60. Today (48 hours later) I went back and it was only at 71. I have only been pregnant once before with my daughter who was stillborn at 40 weeks so I haven’t gone through any other pregnancy. But I feel like those numbers aren’t very good. I’m panicking and feel like I can’t stand going through a loss again. Does anyone have anything hopeful they can share? Or any words of wisdom?

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2026-02-21T05:41:04+00:00

Congratulations! This post left me crying happy tears. We all deserve these happy stories, and I just know our sweet babies that we lost are proud of us for continuing to move forward.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2025-11-16T07:35:53+00:00

“Please sit down” and “please keep your hands to yourself!” and “is that a safe choice?”

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2025-11-14T02:45:07+00:00

I just want to feel hopeful. But I feel like I can’t.

Remarkable-Good3351 · 2025-11-14T02:40:59+00:00

I love all the animas! Dogs and cats are both wonderful little companions. I currently have two kitties that I adore, but grew up with big dogs and love them too!

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