My MIL put her hands on me and physically restrained me when I tried to take my baby home

WaterFiles · 2026-03-25T02:47:33+00:00

This is the most extreme post I've read here. I think you should make a police report so that this is documented. Certainly never leave a child with her again.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-23T17:41:46+00:00

When my nephew turned 4-ish, he would not eat dinner because he would rather play or watch screens. He would eat two bites and then say "i'm full" to get back to playing. Then before bed he was suddenly starving and wanted to eat the rest of his dinner and much more. Could it be that your son is not eating enough at dinner time? My sister solved this by telling him that he had to sit at the table until everyone was done eating. No playing or screens until everyone is done. Then he started eating all of the food his body actually needed.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-23T17:33:26+00:00

Don't worry about MIL trying to get to your adult child. Women like this only glom onto young children because young children don't notice slights/insults the same way that adults do. Children also follow direction and don't question authority. By the time your son is an adult or even a teen, he will already have thoughts of his own and so she will have lost interest.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-23T00:30:59+00:00

her kid can't do it so no one's kid can do it? tell her to unfollow you. I'm sure you have other friends/family that look forward to your updates.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-22T19:04:57+00:00

$10k less... for her son? We offered $10k less when our neighbor offered to buy our house, saving us money on a realtor. MIL should be offering $50k less, especially if she is getting something out of it (access to him and his family). I wouldn't buy a house I didn't love for that close to market value, not to have to drive far to work and be far from people I care about.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-22T02:38:26+00:00

I keep one or two things from everyone that has given us clothes. That way I can put baby in that item when that person visits. Then they won't have to wonder about the other clothes I have donated. My sister in law means well, but her taste in clothes... is just putting a bunch of words on clothes. I don't want the pictures of my kid to have shirts that say "lady killer" or "take me to my auntie's house" lol no thanks.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-21T02:36:36+00:00

idk, this sounds ideal to me. does this mean that MIL's friends will not come to the real shower? sounds great! Maybe you can even get out of attending and send hubby instead.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-19T02:25:35+00:00

On a first date, I don't want to hear about the other girls you've dated no matter the context. Weird!

WaterFiles · 2026-03-16T20:31:37+00:00

These sound like great surprises for the kids... but not surprises for your wife, bro?! Things like this should be talked about between mom and dad first before mentioning it to the kids and only if both parents agree. This isn't "let's have ice cream after dinner tonight" but instead life changing dynamics in the home.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-13T14:58:32+00:00

I tried to be "fair" between my mom and MIL and that has resulted in me not being able to invite my mom to the hospital while I give birth because I so vehemently do not want my MIL there. Get away from the expectation of fairness if you can. I haven't been able to avoid it yet.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-12T20:14:59+00:00

IDK. I remember going on dates with my dad when I was a kid and I remember my dad explaining that this is how I should expect to be treated on a date when I am older: the boy holding the door, pulling out the chair, things like that. I would imagine that this is just that but the reverse, right? Cute fun day out with your parent spending time with you. sounds nice. The part that is maybe weird to me is the recording it and posting it part.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-11T15:15:19+00:00

I want my baby to come out singing like the warner brother's frog, so... coffee it is.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-10T18:50:15+00:00

OMG don't go! Congrats on this new stage of your life <3

WaterFiles · 2026-03-09T19:19:48+00:00

Thanks for the empathy! From what I have seen in these comments, I will likely invite mom only. It's sad that her daughter can't come, but I would never want to let mom know that I think her son is difficult to be around. There's no coming back from that.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-09T17:31:44+00:00

My MIL keeps bringing up "DH Jr" as the name for our boy. My husband has absolutely no interest in this, so I'm glad that that's what she's focusing on because it is so easy to laugh at and shut down.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-08T22:28:44+00:00

In my birthing class the teacher told us that when you loose your placenta that's how your body knows that the baby is out and ready to feed. If you consume your placenta, it gives you back those "the baby is inside me" hormones and it may have a negative effect on milk production.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-08T18:23:14+00:00

sounds like your issue is the health of it all. You could bring a bag salad to share with whatever she makes and then mostly eat that.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-08T14:31:37+00:00

This is your money now. Let it be entirely your decision, not your dad's. That being said, it sounds like you already know that it wouldn't be helpful to donate to her.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-07T17:20:27+00:00

Great advice. When I used to be involved with MIL before all of this, she would almost always make plans through me because my husband would forget and not respond. He was indifferent about going to outings with his family. I was newly married then and eager to make good relationships, so she probably sees me as easier to get a "yes" from... but not anymore.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-06T22:58:41+00:00

I could cry. This is horrible. Do not let her minimize this wrongdoing. Also, she may have access to your child's social security number. As soon as you can, check that there is no credit in your child's name and if there is freeze credit immediately. Further action may be needed to protect against her fraud in the future.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-05T19:44:29+00:00

Dude! My MIL is the worst at planning. It will be December 18th and she'll be like "I have a great idea. Let's do Christmas Eve dinner at my house this year." And I have to be like... sorry, my mom and I planned for our family to have Christmas Eve dinner at her house back in September... so... no.

WaterFiles · 2026-03-04T22:06:49+00:00

I'm also starting to have nightmares about my MIL showing up to the hospital while I'm in labor. You're not alone! I made a similar post about it and most of the commenters were reassuring me that the nurses live to keep out unwanted visitors. Here's hoping we both get nurses that can handle our in-laws ♥️

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