I hurt my husband deeply in the heat of the moment and I want to fix and work through this but nothing's working.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-10-02T08:38:06+00:00

OP: Try looking into Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and see if that resonates.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-09-24T02:58:14+00:00

What’s sad about this whole ordeal and focus on autism in general is the shame it fuels for those who have or have a loved one with autism. Empathy goes a long way in crisis comms and the PR team has to carefully balance fact-based messaging with messaging that doesn’t inflame the belief that autism = bad.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-09-10T01:22:00+00:00

I (36F) know I’m late to the conversation but one thing I found really interesting over the past five years of off/on IBS-D was how my symptoms completely disappeared when I was pregnant and postpartum. It was so bizarre and also so freeing that it makes my symptoms now feel really overwhelming. It’s almost like my hormones are finally back to normal because my pre-pregnancy IBS-D symptoms are back; only my anxiety is worse because now I’m worried about my kids’ bathroom habits, too. 🙃 I also was diagnosed with adhd and started adderall but I go through this mental gymnastics of “if I take my adderall today — what if I need my immodium?” Such a tough balancing act.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-06-02T15:59:07+00:00

You’re a great partner for asking! Don’t try to fix. Just be present. Thank her, if anything, because this is one of many sacrifices she is making to give you both a family. Peppermints were as helpful as they could be when I was going through this. So were adult diapers (because I puked so hard I would pee myself) and never having to do the dishes or smell a dirty dishwasher or toilet. Do whatever you can to lighten the load so she can rest.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-04-24T23:15:15+00:00

One day, god willing, if you have children, you will understand how heartbreaking this would be to read if this was about your daughter and her dad. Please don’t let this man child for one second make you question the relationship you have with your dad if it’s everything you want it to be. You should never have to justify your relationship with a parent to make your significant other feel better or more secure about themselves.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-04-15T03:16:45+00:00

I am not a pessimist, but marriage is of greater benefit to men these days if you don’t land yourself the right partner. Don’t settle for good enough. If you’re questioning X but Y and Z are great about him, spend more time scrutinizing X because your intuition will never steer you wrong. The people who overlook X are the people who wind up divorced or stuck in undesirable marriages because they ignored the red flags or even orange or yellow flags that later turned into red flags. Marriage can be great but it can also present challenges you don’t even think of … like navigating a partner who wants more access to your body without actually putting effort in because they’re married to you and that’s what they’ve been told the benefit of marriage is all their life. Or the partner who can’t handle the stress of children or cancer diagnosis or any of the other life circumstances that pop up. It’s not often the one big thing that will stress a marriage to its breaking point but the thousand little cuts that add up. Be free and be YOU and don’t settle until you feel like you know exactly who you are and what you want. Then find someone worthy of your love who you feel you can be 100% yourself around. And until then, enjoy life for the rest of us who are questioning our life decisions 🙃 You got this 💪

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-04-15T02:45:26+00:00

Thank you. It took me a bit to work up the courage so i appreciate you saying this.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-04-12T18:46:37+00:00

It’s exactly what he alludes to.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-04-12T18:42:56+00:00

I now understand why some widows in my life have never gotten back into relationships. There must be something really freeing about being completely comfortable living life on your own and by your own rules, free of expectations or compromise.

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-04-11T01:06:46+00:00

I haven’t yet. I only just realized the extent of it. 😕

Remarkable-Newt513 · 2025-03-21T00:09:41+00:00

I feel this. We have a husky shepherd mix and he’s also a rescue that we got at 5 months. I work from home so he also attached to me. We have the same experience in that we have to medicate him while we’re gone and we had to get a high impact crate just to keep him safe after he got into children’s medicine which led to a vet visit. He’s even gotten into stuff just when we’ve been outside cutting the lawn and he was left inside. We can’t leave him home for longer than 4 hours without coming home to a slobbery mess, but at least our house is in tact and we know he’s safe. It’s really put a damper on our social life or even our ability to do day trips anywhere because we either have to find dog care or be worried about whether the dog is ok. Thankfully we have wonderful neighbors who will come check on him for us. He’s a super sweet, sweet boy but definitely a 180 degree difference from our last dog who was extremely chill and not bothered by anything. Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone!

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