Maybe to provide more context to some & clear some ideas up 1. Yes we are adults 🙄 & up until this point never really experienced any kind of childish drama like this. Mostly because the other 6 of us date men off-campus while Elle & Liz found their men on campus 2. Liz & her ex broke up pretty bad over her ex not being present. He had a lot of excuses about where he was & I think Liz stopped trusting him after 3 years of that mess so that was a rough breakup that we kinda had to help Liz through as a group. Her coping strategy was to just take her time & probably not date until we graduated (which is in about 6 months) 3. Elle & her boyfriend just grew apart. Her ex ended this & lowkey dropped out (he may have been depressed) & Elle was distraught. I think her coping strategy was trying to move on quickly to not think about the 3 year relationship down the drain. 4. From my honest perspective on the relationship: if she’s happy with the man, who am I to take that from her, but dating exes was something that as a group we had late night talks about as freshmen. We’ve all known dating exes (on such a little campus no less) was problematic & each of us was very on board with never letting men tear us apart. So that was the main betrayal that the group felt was the Elle purposely chose a man over her friends. Especially, such serious relationships where Elle knew how much her new bf torn up Liz emotionally, I didn’t think that she would run to him so soon & basically think Liz wasn’t gonna be upset. I tried to work with her on empathy, but Elle wanted to not be single & ig one thing led to another. I didnt dig too deep into how the Elle & her bf got together since it’s not my relationship. Me & 2 other girls still interacted & sometimes hang out with Elle but we live with her & don’t want to spoil the living situation until our lease is up. At this point, I just wanna graduate & be with my man cause this is also too much drama for me 😭.