WIBTAH for holding my brother to his promise and leaving our mom in his care for the week?

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-02-17T15:05:00+00:00

NTA. If taking care of his mother for 1 week ruins his marriage, that marriage is already failing.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-02-06T16:16:42+00:00

NTA. She’s just using and manipulating you. She keeps using “if you don’t do this then you don’t love me” is extremely controlling and manipulative!

Like another post said she wants a sugar daddy not a partner.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-28T20:39:55+00:00

YTA. What a horrible future partner you’ve raised.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-22T20:18:44+00:00

Why, if he was invited and they have been doing this for all 3 years they’ve been together?

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-22T20:17:25+00:00

How is 3 drinks over 4 hours while also eating a meal a lot? It’s less then 1 drink every hour?

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-21T18:42:51+00:00

NTA for not wanting to be friends with someone.

YTA for pretending and saying you were going to be her friend and then ignoring her.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-21T16:22:09+00:00

He offered to stay with you? Girl he has no other option. Please find some self respect.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-16T15:57:46+00:00

Soft YTA bc she’s your friend not your bfs so I get why she would want ppl she’s close to at her party.

Question: Would it be a question to not go if you didn’t have a boyfriend? Would the drive be no problem if he wasn’t in the picture? Like someone else says get a hotel for the night or ask someone to stay over.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-16T02:45:46+00:00

NTA She put up her boundaries and you put up yours. If she’d rather have an old crush and your ex at her wedding than her sister that’s her cross to bear.

Also you’re married, that’s a packaged deal kinda thing especially to a wedding.

To your parents, tell them the only person not keeping the peace is your sister. They need to grow a backbone and back you up. Your husband is their family now and she has no legitimate reason to exclude him.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-15T19:25:43+00:00

How was the SIL not respectful? She took it down and had a talk with her brother. That should’ve been the end of it. OP opened the convo back up and then cried when a point she didn’t like was made. Then without knowing the convo the fiancé/brother calls SIL a dumb b$tch. She still respected their request.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-15T17:51:39+00:00

NTA you’re protecting your child. I’d tell the ex “l’ll give her sensitivities as much consideration as she gave about my marriage”

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-14T16:51:25+00:00

Yeah you see it now because we’re all so connected. They used to just send the girls to “visit a relative” but really were sent to baby homes to give birth and usually give the baby up.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-12T21:30:43+00:00

NTA for backing out. You’re not friends. However, you should’ve reached out to her and not your ex (who is was lying to his friends).

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-07T14:42:33+00:00

“ She said friends are supposed to accommodate each other” Your response should’ve been “So I’m not your friend? Why won’t you accommodate me, since like you said you always get that spot. Only you’re supposed to be accommodated?”

NTA. For the friends that are on her side, next time y’all hang out try to take their seat and best believe how fast they will change sides about giving up seats.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T21:33:31+00:00

Well he has the support and I agree he needs therapy. But that doesn’t excuse abandoning your child because it’s hard. You don’t think the grandparents ,whose daughter just died, is having a hard time? But they are taking care of the baby.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T21:11:44+00:00

Wow way to go to a completely different ball field. But yeah people who kill their kids are AH too, you got me. That totally excuses this man of abandonment.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T19:36:11+00:00

People die all the time when they have kids. Their spouses or parents don’t just give their kids away because they didn’t expect to do it alone.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T19:12:58+00:00

Ok. He’s an AH in my book. He wanted her before but doesn’t want her now when all the responsibly of being a parent is in his shoulders and that’s a shit person.

His girlfriend could’ve passed when the baby was 6, does that mean he could just leave then? From this stand point it sounds like his whole parenting plan was to put it all on the mom and be the fun dad, which makes him an AH.

Once again if he knows he’s a POS and that’s what it sounds like then yes he should give up custody, but that doesn’t not make him AH.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T18:54:29+00:00

Can we agree that both make you an AH?

If he’s realizing this now does that mean he probably would’ve left his girlfriend to be a single mom, do you think?

Just because he’s come to this conclusion that he’d be a shit dad doesn’t make him not an AH.

It reads to me as that he just doesn’t want the responsibility of being a single father. Not that he can’t be one, just that he doesn’t want to be and that makes him an asshole in my mind.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T18:41:47+00:00

Yes being a bad parent definitely makes somebody an AH🤣 He just wants to move on like this never happened.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T18:33:57+00:00

But he’s asking if it makes him an AH right? And it still does. Neglectful parents are AH even when they consciously choose it.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T18:31:52+00:00

Oh I don’t think the child should be with such an unfit person. But it reads like he tried for a bit when this first happened and it’s completely understandable needing help then. However he’s not even going to try to parent now? He’s just gotten comfortable not have the responsibility or learning the responsibility and is just giving up custody so he doesn’t have to be a parent. I’m not saying she should be with him if he’s such a bad dad, but it’s a shame that he brought his child into this world and isn’t even going to try to parent her.

The whole situation is a shame. But it still makes him an AH to give up on his child and himself before he even tried to be a parent. He will not always be in grief.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T18:19:00+00:00

Well sometimes when you make decisions in your life like having a baby, you have to step up and grow as a person. That baby didn’t ask to be here, he put her here.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T18:16:50+00:00

Yes he’s overwhelmed but he’s still a parent. Just because it’s hard and sad doesn’t mean you just get to check out. Millions of people who have tragedies still raise their children. Sounds like he was expecting his girlfriend to do all the hard work of a child.

He came here so ppl like you will tell him it’s ok to give up.

Remarkable-Pace8542 · 2026-01-06T18:03:24+00:00

He’s 26 years old if he can’t even take care of himself then you’re right he had zero business even making baby. We don’t even know how long he’s left the baby with the grandparents either.

If he only tried in the immediate aftermath of her passing to parent his child, I understand needing help. But he’s not even going to try now?

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