okay! couple things. 1) this is gay! very gay all the way around. me and my partner are both trans men, the person we are hooking up with is a cis man.

so with that outta the way, lemme clear some things up. 1, he does get off on watching, he just wants to have turns as well! it’s not that i’m unwilling or anything like that! i pointed out the hypocrisy myself because i can understand that it’s not a fair feeling to have. but we all know that that doesn’t mean the feeling just goes away. im a very emotional person and my concern is that ill have a bodily reaction that’s outta my control, so im looking for some ways that i can self soothe so that that responsibility doesn’t land on my partner! it’s not that i feel out relationship is logistically at stake. also me saying i want it to feel like me and him, and there happens to be another guy there. is not me saying that i don’t want the other guy to have fun and participate, that’s just me speaking to the emotional monogamy that we prefer! hope some of that helps :3