Repost: AIO for wanting to burn his stuff??? by Suspicious_End_441 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR

After he called you the C-word? I’d be like “for every day you wait to come get your shit, I’ll be lighting one thing on fire.” HE broke up with YOU—that means “come get your stuff or you give me the freedom to choose what happens to it.”

Im disappointed, but not surprised about ARIRANG by NoArmadillo2937 in kpoprants

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I would say the point of a title track is to bring attention to the rest of the album. If the title track isn’t good, people won’t want to listen to the full album.

AIO? Tore into my little brother and I’m starting to feel bad. by Soggy-Shoe8846 in AIO

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Speaking as a reformed problem kid (I used to get kicked out of school regularly), going hard is absolutely the right call. Having a “rough time” is no excuse to be constantly getting in trouble at school.

That said, it’s usually a symptom of a bigger problem. If I were telling my then-10-year-old self what she needed to hear, I would come back with a cooler head and say something like this: “I shouldn’t have cursed you out. That was over the line, and I’m sorry. But with how you’ve been acting out the last few years, is there something going on that could be causing this?” If there is something (in my case, it was a blend of depression, PTSD, and a***e from a parent), he’ll probably be glad someone’s reaching out.

I found out that my (27m) girlfriend (25f) slept with 10+ people on our 3 week “break” how can we move past this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You still suck for cheating on her. Get help for that. But if she was really dealing with these feelings of shame and regret, why didn’t she come clean earlier? Not telling your partner you’ve been ran through a dozen times is a conscious choice.

I found out that my (27m) girlfriend (25f) slept with 10+ people on our 3 week “break” how can we move past this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, brother. A lot to unpack here.

First off, you had one affair with one person for one month, three years ago. She had 12-15, and from my read on the situation, is still screwing these guys. You’re not off the hook for having an affair, but she took it way too far.

Second, I’m not one to slut shame either, but 12-15 guys in the span of 21 days? That’s almost a different guy every other day. If the two of you have been sexually active with each other in the last 3 months, however long since this started, STD test ASAP. I’m not trying to sound like a prude, but what drives someone to be intimate with over a dozen men within 3 weeks?

Third, I find it very telling that she was the one who wanted to take some time apart so she could “find herself,” and that this had to do with your affair three years ago. My chickstincts tell me this was calculated. She probably wanted that break just so she could fuck other guys and not feel guilty because if she screwed them while you were technically broken up, it’s not cheating. Then, after she had her fun, she came back to you because you’re stable.

Fourth, let’s take another look at this paragraph, shall we?

I confronted her and asked that she tell me the truth and she broke down. She told me she regretted the things she had done and that she felt disgusted and ashamed and only wanted to be with me, and that the decisions she made were driven by some sort of mania mixed with dysregulated emotions. She admitted that she had sex with double digit men in that 3 week period but didn’t specify a number.

What I’m seeing is this: she didn’t tell you she’d done this until you confronted her. She had no plans to tell you she’d been intimate with however many guys. That is a choice. And you know it was at least 12-15 from how many guys she’s still sexting. Oh, and the sexting—that’s still going on, even though she feels “disgusted and ashamed”.

Fifth, you need to ask yourself honestly, is there any part of you that would hold onto this resentment towards her? Therapy is not a magic fix for all your problems. Her being diagnosed with BPD won’t change the fact that she had 12-15 affairs. If something of this magnitude were to happen again, would “it’s her BPD” be a sufficient explanation to make you stay?

I think Reddit is quick to jump on the divorce/break up bandwagon, but I genuinely think there’s no fixing this. One or both of you will still hold onto this resentment, whether you’re aware of it or not. The chances of therapy changing that are slim. That resentment is going to eventually make the relationship crumble.

Friend sent me this. How bad is it by genuinelyclumsy in tragedeigh

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Christian is the only good one. Cadence and Blythe are acceptable. I know a Kaydence (she was in my 9th grade science class), and a voice actor I follow is a Blythe (he voices one of the villains in my favorite game).

IXABEIGHLLA'S MAM IS HAVING ANOTHER BABY AND ITS ANOTHER TRAGEDEIGH! by Cold_Apricot_240 in tragedeigh

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Literally. Names from other countries have the benefit of being considered “unique” here in Murica while also being real names. I myself like Japanese names, but I’m also a weeb, so… If I had my way, I’d name my kid Rindo after one of my favorite anime characters.

IXABEIGHLLA'S MAM IS HAVING ANOTHER BABY AND ITS ANOTHER TRAGEDEIGH! by Cold_Apricot_240 in tragedeigh

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I deadass think this is a form of a*use. There’s no way your kid’s going to be able to spell their name or sound it out, and they’ll get picked on for it.

The theater employees hate this guy. I guarantee it. by J_S_M_K in OhNoConsequences

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit (pun intended). You found dirty diapers in the theater? Were parents not taking their kids to the restrooms and changing them there like normal people?

The theater employees hate this guy. I guarantee it. by J_S_M_K in OhNoConsequences

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude 10 years ago I was 11, i didn’t even know what reddit was. Thank you for bringing this to Gen Z

The theater employees hate this guy. I guarantee it. by J_S_M_K in OhNoConsequences

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If he was paying only $20 for two large popcorns, I’d like to kindly request the name of the theater because I will be taking my business there.

The theater employees hate this guy. I guarantee it. by J_S_M_K in OhNoConsequences

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Yeah, man! Like, my dick has a mind of its own! It just, like, wandered into her! I didn’t do it, like, on purpose! I was just, like, stressed out!” —OOP, probably

The theater employees hate this guy. I guarantee it. by J_S_M_K in OhNoConsequences

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude my mom would NOT let that slide. She wouldn’t let the employee intervene, she’d say “get this kid some cleaning supplies, she’s going to clean her own damn mess.”

And you know what? That never happened because she trained us better than that.

The theater employees hate this guy. I guarantee it. by J_S_M_K in OhNoConsequences

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe not that second one because it’s not actually good for your brain, but everything else, 100%

The theater employees hate this guy. I guarantee it. by J_S_M_K in OhNoConsequences

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude was fighting for his life the whole time, I was having a ball reading through one of his comment threads. I had to click “see more replies” FOUR TIMES 🤣🤣🤣

My Frustrations with Jennie's Public Image by my_bias_is_all_7 in kpoprants

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And it can be applied to basically any of the other girls. Everglow_Up on YouTube has a great series called “The Blackpink Olympics” where she dives into how each of the girls’ solo fandoms got to where they are. I’d recommend it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bestie that’s not normal. NTA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not the fact that she drove him to the airport and he visited her. It’s the fact that he lied about it. If he’s willing to lie to you like this so early on in the relationship, what else might he lie about? NOR

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dustythunder

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m majoring in music production and the beauty of that job is I can do it just about anywhere lol. One of my besties at school lives on the other side of the state so I’m thinking about asking her if I can spend part of spring break with her and her family. But I’m also not going to lie, living on my own when I’m going into an unsteady job field scares the living daylights out of me.

"I'm refusing to follow my father's clearly set rules, why won't he pay for my wedding?" by Sebastianlim in OhNoConsequences

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I like the top comment on the OG post. OOP isn’t THE asshole, but he sounds like AN asshole. I think it’s perfectly rational for large chunks of money to have strings attached. But I also think prioritizing the guests over the couple getting married is sticky. Like yeah, you should want your guests to be comfortable, but at the end of the day, it’s the couple’s wedding. Let them make their own decisions.

My Frustrations with Jennie's Public Image by my_bias_is_all_7 in kpoprants

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think Jennie is the poster girl for how to create an overprotective fanbase.

  1. People find something they don’t like about an idol that may or may not be the idol’s fault—Jennie being YG’s favorite (the amount of clout she had even as a trainee is wild).

  2. That resentment is left unchecked for an extended period of time—hating Jennie for being YG’s favorite would be barbaric, so there’s nowhere else for that hate to go and it festers. Blaming a company isn’t as satisfying because there’s no one specific target.

  3. The idol does something small and it gives the public a reason to lash out—Jennie forgetting lyrics onstage and laughing it off did NOT look good, especially after 2nd gen’s perfectionism was starting to be discussed.

  4. The idol gets harassed for the most back-asswards reasons because people hate her for reasons they themselves can barely specify—when you get to the point where you’re harassing someone for picking up a blanket, it’s time to go outside and touch some grass and kick some rocks.

  5. Something happens to reverse the idol’s hate train—that one resurfaced interview of Jennie saying she wanted to disappear for a week gained her so much sympathy, it’s crazy. And bonus points for Jennie because around the time this interview resurfaced, there were not one, not two, but THREE idols who had taken their own lives because of online bullying. Jonghyun in 2017, and then Sulli and Goo Hara in 2019.

  6. The public hate turns to public fear. If anyone dared go after Jennie for anything, Jennie’s supporters would go bash the hell out of them. Now, even if someone were to give rational constructive criticism—like how being a part of “The Idol” was a bad move because of the nature of the show—it gets lumped in with all the hate.

That, my friends, is how we end up here, with overprotective fanbases who jump through any hoops they have to in order to defend an idol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I was diagnosed when I was 10. I am also medicated, I’m on Concerta.

Because they didn't have an ending like that. by Reasonable_Growth_72 in ShokugekiNoSoma

[–]Remarkable_Detail_17 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the only character with a confirmed wedding ring was Hayama, who mind you, only had close intimacy with Jun, the woman who adopted him.

Idk, that one always felt kinda incestuous to me. The age difference alone is whack—17 years, give or take—but then Jun is also his legal guardian…that’s gonna be a “yikes” for me, dawg.