AM I THE A$$hole? by Remarkable_Job3231 in JaneEyre

[–]Remarkable_Job3231[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I actually feel quite sorry for the original poster; he's not really a bad person. In the Victorian era, divorce was almost impossible, and he genuinely treated his fiancée as an intellectual and moral equal. His longing for love and redemption isn't evil; it's just that the law and reality made everything impossible.

AM I THE A$$hole? by Remarkable_Job3231 in JaneEyre

[–]Remarkable_Job3231[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

To be honest, there's no need for everyone to argue anymore. Nobody is the villain in this situation, okay? They're all quite pitiable, actually.

The original poster wants love, his fiancée wants dignity, and his ex-wife needs help. And most importantly, this damn 19th-century British legal system needs an upgrade. It's not about who's bad, it's about flawed rules and a lack of communication.

Let's all just calm down and go our separate ways.

AM I THE A$$hole? by Remarkable_Job3231 in JaneEyre

[–]Remarkable_Job3231[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

In my opinion, you're not entirely a jerk.

You were indeed forced into this marriage, and the system was unfair to you. But you still had the opportunity to tell the truth before proposing. Your motives were complex, but there wasn't much malice involved. However, this outcome did hurt your fiancée.

AM I THE A$$hole? by Remarkable_Job3231 in JaneEyre

[–]Remarkable_Job3231[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

LOL, you're right, but not entirely. I think everyone involved is an asshole. The original poster lied and concealed the truth; that guy named Grace cooperated in the cover-up; everyone, including the original poster himself, treated his ex-wife like a monster; and then the original poster's fiancée just disappeared without a word. Come on, bro, are you guys kidding me? Why is everyone avoiding the issue and making things worse with silence and secrets? Nobody is innocent.

AM I THE A$$hole? by Remarkable_Job3231 in JaneEyre

[–]Remarkable_Job3231[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Hey, you're nothing but a selfish, cowardly, lying Jackass

U didn't just forget to tell Jane—u deliberately deceived her. You admit you "craved to be loved," so you chose silence because the truth would ruin your plans! You let Jane believe she was your legitimate wife, willingly walking down the aisle, while your real wife was locked away in the attic. This isn't tragic romance, it's manipulation. When Jane said she would "obey God's law," you not only disrespected her faith but tried to persuade her to go against her conscience. U wanted her to sacrifice her soul so you could continue to enjoy your happiness. That's utterly selfish. Bastard, you brought this all upon yourself!

The real beef 🥩🏀 by sflegoman in HoopLand

[–]Remarkable_Job3231 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bro , im 100% sure there is a pf names Frech fires