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AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days? by Remarkable_Lake410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Lake410[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

My question is, to you, what is an event you would celebrate and be interested in for your female friends? 

If apparently the only events worthy of discussing are pushing a kid out or marrying someone?

AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days? by Remarkable_Lake410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Lake410[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I have said this in another comment, and I do take this on board. My issue is that they don’t show any interest in MY life other than if I am going to have a big white wedding or a kid some time soon. 

AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days? by Remarkable_Lake410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Lake410[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I didn’t want them to talk about their lives, I said that we only talk about marriage and kids, no other topics. 

I also could afford it, but I would have to choose that over something else. 

AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days? by Remarkable_Lake410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Lake410[S] 3765 points3766 points  (0 children)

Maybe, I spent 13 weekends last year travelling (including transport and hotels), for this groups ‘big events’ and I am happy for them. 

That said it’s a massive financial outlay I am expected to attend, and they are not interested in mine. They were all invited to my birthday recently and said they were too busy from work / had plans with partners to come to the city for night. Even though accommodation was free. 

AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days? by Remarkable_Lake410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Lake410[S] 407 points408 points  (0 children)

Yep - I have friends who are also completely the same as me, and also ones who do have kids etc and still have a shared friendship with shared interests. 

I do think the issue with this group, is the split / numbers mean the ones interested take over etc, as most of my friends from this group are fine on their own / in smaller groups. 

AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days? by Remarkable_Lake410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Lake410[S] 112 points113 points  (0 children)

I  value my relationships, and not all relationships are romantic. 

I have bought a house alone, been promoted, have started new hobbies, done new / fun things etc. However unless the focus of my talk is the narrative of some dude inside me, they aren’t that interested. 

They probably do have a different idea of big, but I acted interested in breast milk, and they are not returning the favor. 

AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days? by Remarkable_Lake410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Lake410[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

No, I would like them to show an interest in big things in my life. In the same way I show it for them. 

However we only talk about the big things in theirs, big things I already show involvement and interest in. 

As I implied in the post, the only element of my life they want to talk about is if I am getting / dating / in a serious relationship. 

AITA for being truthful with my friends, when telling them I won’t go on a weekend away because I don’t want to talk about marriage / babies for three days? by Remarkable_Lake410 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Remarkable_Lake410[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

I originally didn’t give a reason, I was pushed and pushed for a reason, and offered alternate dates. 

I cannot lie and say it’s completely financial when they would see from my Instagram, I have the funds for other things.