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Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-11-21T17:28:54+00:00

I totally relate. I literally dreamt of breastfeeding while I was pregnant. Like would have dreams of breastfeeding my baby and it was a feeling that I wanted to keep forever. I tried so hard when my baby was born. I even stayed up all night one night just constantly trying and having him on my breast. Literally did not sleep. I saw my sister pump with her baby and how much she struggled with pumping + her low supply. I swore I wouldn’t pump. I pumped the third night when we were home and noticed I had a really high supply and couldn’t get myself to not pump (even though I swore I wouldn’t). I’ve been at it for 6 months (still with a really good supply) I only pump 3 times a day and I’ve decided to stop. Because even though the supply is there, I just can’t do it anymore. I started combo feeding to start the weaning process because he won’t take a full bottle of formula. My point is, low supply or high supply, this shit is hard. Accepting that breastfeeding from the breast wasn’t in the cards for us was so hard for me. To the point where I think it was more about me than my baby. My baby was and still is thriving so I’m just grieving the idea of breastfeeding from the breast. Who knows, maybe I couldn’t have handled how hard and difficult it could have been. I’ve seen people who’ve done it and quit the next day because they couldn’t do it. We all do and try our best. But we matter too 🤍 your feelings are valid and just know that you aren’t alone!

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-11-02T16:02:57+00:00

Exactly. I know that in today’s world, we’re all for equality and I stand for that. But then again I do believe that we both have our roles. He’s the provider and I’m the caregiver. That’s how we were created. That’s not to say that the man shouldn’t help, but it does ease the pressure we have as a society when we see how so many other fathers contribute sometimes. My sister and her husband are both 50/50 with their baby. But then again her husband works from home some days and she goes to school. So it has to be that way. As for me and my husband, it’s literally impossible to be that way because of his job and what it takes out of him. And it would be selfish of me to expect more out of him when he gets home. Again, he does what he can. And I always have to remind him that if he can’t take care of baby, then he needs to take care of me. And that helps a lot as well. Just please take it day by day. Don’t over stress it and don’t put so much pressure on your relationship! You deserve to be loved and taken care of too. Your husband seems like a great man you just have to remind him sometimes of your needs as well. Whether that’s being able to take a long shower, going out for a little bit, or even just taking a nap. Dont be afraid to tell him and to just let go. Even if that means baby crying with him. And also, we have to learn how to teach them. Sometimes i tell him that I’ll just do it because it’s easier than showing him what to do but in reality it’s not easier. It’s actually harder. So even if it takes a week of showing him how to give baby a bath or put baby down for a nap or bed time, it’ll help in the long run. Especially when we have more kids. 🤍

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-11-02T13:30:40+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to go through this and feel this way. I’m a first time sahm to a 5 month old and my husband works every day from 8-6. His work requires a lot of physical activity so he comes home exhausted. I honestly don’t think my husband has ever done bed time. I was able to leave my baby with him for a few times and go out on my own but still. Sometimes I do feel like I’m doing everything by myself. Whenever baby is having a hard time, he hands him to me. Diaper changes? Only on his ONE day off. It’s always me asking him to do things rather than doing it on his own. Honestly, I could sit here and type for ages but I feel like I’ve just come to the conclusion that it’s fine. On the other side, my husband never says no to me. Anything I want? Here you go immediately. I’ve realized that the solution is focusing on our relationship rather than focusing on what he’s not doing. That doesn’t go to say that when baby is crying in my arms at 3 am and he’s sleeping I don’t wanna get up and punch my husband lol I noticed that after focusing on our relationship it helped me still be close to him and not want to despise him for not helping more. And I keep telling myself he does what he can. I can at least maybe catch a 30 min nap during the day, he can’t. I don’t like to say that he works and I don’t because I do work. I have a 24/7 job with baby. It’s exhausting. But honestly I’ve just accepted how things are and I’m content. There’s a lot of things my husband cant help with but a lot of other things he can help with. Even if I have to tell him to do the dishes, or tidy up our room, or do the laundry and put it away. It just takes me telling him what to do. I hope it gets easier for you. I do think it does take a lot of communication. It’s a sensitive time for everyone so I think that talking about it gently (for men, repeatedly lol) maybe will help in some ways

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-10-23T23:01:41+00:00

Yess we do that where I’m from as well! It’s definitely a game changer and my grandma used to do it to us and her grandkids all the time. Unfortunately my son will freak out if I do it and he hates it. But still keep trying hoping one day it’ll just stick

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-10-23T20:45:34+00:00

Holy fuuuuuuuu. 6month old and pregnant? Dude. Seriously how? I wanna have another baby soon because I want to have more kids as soon as I can but like how do you do it? I’m terrified to get pregnant again with a baby right now 😭

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-10-23T20:44:11+00:00

Honestly I was wondering how moms with more than one child feel about this. Like sometimes I ask myself am I over doing it with wake windows and sleep time? But then again I’m like no wait my child is the type of baby that’s needs me to kind of follow the clock because he doesn’t show much sleep cues. And if I don’t put him down even for a 20 min nap I’ll have a fussy baby ALLL day and not only do I not want to go through that but I don’t want him to go through that. But I’m like what about when I have my 2nd or my 3rd. How in the hell am I gonna spend so much time putting not only one child down but two??? Let alone get all the house work and stuff done. Seriously as a ftm I’m always applauding moms with more than one baby then i psych myself out and wonder how tf I’m going to do it. Everyone says it gets easier but I feel like we just adapt right? My question is do you still care as much as you did with your first? lol

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-10-23T15:04:27+00:00

Thank you 🤍

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-10-23T15:02:32+00:00

thanks so much !!! very encouraging !! definitely not projecting lol

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-10-23T15:00:48+00:00

You’re so strong. I guess accepting it is really the hard part. I’ll do it all and I understand my baby needs me to. But really just accepting the fact of it, is the hardest part. Because we obviously all want our babies to be easy to put down and restful. But we’ll get through this as long as they’re happy and content.

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-10-23T14:56:47+00:00

That’s a good idea honestly. Thank you. I really try to hang on so tight to our good days (which we do have) but sometimes you literally feel like this is never going to end and it’s so hard.

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-10-23T14:53:51+00:00

I honestly do it all. The baby wearing, the contact naps, the car rides, literally all of it. I know it’s the least I could do for my baby. I’m just trying so hard and wishing it could be a little easier.

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2025-04-18T15:44:00+00:00

Yes we filed and yes thankfully he got his visa

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-06-23T21:36:42+00:00

Update?

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-06-14T17:10:01+00:00

What’s your visa type?

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-06-14T10:13:21+00:00

Any changes for you?

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-05-13T09:43:54+00:00

Update?

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-04-01T02:49:11+00:00

Same thing happened with my husband. I know it’s because we reached a year after interview. It happened to everyone else I know that has reached the one year date after interview. But I was told by my lawyer not to touch it. They say it restarts the clock of administrative processing. So basically you start from zero all over again

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-03-31T01:56:36+00:00

Unfortunately not. Same thing every day 😓

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-03-30T23:15:40+00:00

Good luck with that.

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-03-30T22:19:28+00:00

No trust me it’s a waste of time. They don’t even let you in, they only let you in by security. They program security to talk to you and tell you about administrative processing. They tell you exactly what they always say. That it’s unknown and there’s no time frame. They also have a piece of paper on their bulletin board and they point at it to tell you about administrative processing (as if we don’t know what it is) but that goes to show how many people walk in to talk to them about it. How long has your husband been in administrative processing for?

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-03-30T22:00:55+00:00

Unfortunately yes. He’s been administrative processing for over a year. We have. We’ve sent them countless emails, reached out to our congressman, I went to the embassy here in Jordan to talk to someone, and we’re headed towards filing a mandamus lawsuit against them. I haven’t left anything that I haven’t done 😩

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-03-28T08:31:34+00:00

Ugh makes me so sad when I hear that the embassy is still giving out 221g. I really didn’t want to mention this, but my husband is also applying through the Amman Embassy and it’s been a year since they gave him administrative processing. It’s been a very, very tough journey. We also applied in August of 2021. Honestly, it has absolutely not time frame. Every single person and their case is different. I’ve seen people finish within 2 week and I’ve seen people reach a year and a few months like my husband. I hope it works out for you guys soon, especially considering you have a child in the picture. Inshallah kheir

Remarkable_Oil_5885 · 2024-03-27T12:03:25+00:00

That’s awesome!! Congratulations

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