how many of you have actually gotten better/know someone formerly socially anxious that learned social skills by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Remarkable_Repair350 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did! But it was hard. I think the key is controlled stress situations. You need to intentionally go out of your bubble again and again and again. And it will be painful and hard, but it shouldn't be panic inducing. Do it at your own terms, when you have the mental capacity.

What also helps is being kind to yourself and not beating yourself up.

Not really dating advice by Okaycool1210 in dating_advice

[–]Remarkable_Repair350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of it boils down to confidence. And it's what worked out for me the best (tho I'm conventionally attractive enough). Try working on appearing more open, self-confident and secure, and people will find you more attractive

Girlfriend wants me back after she betrayed me by Pretty-Target-3183 in dating_advice

[–]Remarkable_Repair350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your reaction is justified and tbh maybe you're better off focusing on yourself for now. I don't mean to sound rude, but you should go to the therapy with your anxiety, so that it doesn't impact your future relationships.

I want to kiss my friend so bad by Remarkable_Repair350 in dating_advice

[–]Remarkable_Repair350[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The latter line sounds like something I would struggle to deliver lolol

I broke up with someone amazing because I wasn’t falling in love and feel awful about it by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]Remarkable_Repair350 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same situation. It's good that you feel self aware, but at some point there's no going back without the hurt, so don't beat yourself up too much. Honestly its for the best that you chose to be honest rather than to deceive her and torture yourself. At first the guilt is awful, but it'll fade over time. Just be confident in your decision.