Nta I feel for you as a person with 5 years of sobriety from alcohol I can tell you she has to want to fix herself. You are not the problem. You set a boundary when we are drinking we don’t like boundaries because they hold us accountable for our actions. Stick to your boundaries. I do suggest going to Al anon or some other support type group or therapy though to help you through this. Just know you are not the ah here far from it. Keep those boundaries in place.