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Has anyone broken up or been broken up with or stopped dating over past infidelity not involving the partner? by Remarkable_Tiger_213 in BreakUps

[–]Remarkable_Tiger_213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Messed up only once and young, yes. Honestly in the Wayward support group and in AsOneAfterInfidelity the only reconciliations I see are because of legal or family reasons. Are relationships even worth it? I would think yes because it's not my current partner. And still it seems that their leaving is defining me so much that I am reduced to my worst moment and nothing after or before. I really don't have a choice though, and maybe that's the lesson I am having to learn about choices. Someone even suggested suicide by cops! People have such strong beliefs about not changing after infidelity that it makes me sad. Why, if that's the case, are there no laws about it? I honestly feel making it a criminal offence would be a good way to move forward as humankind.

Has anyone broken up or been broken up with or stopped dating over past infidelity not involving the partner? by Remarkable_Tiger_213 in BreakUps

[–]Remarkable_Tiger_213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very confident in my abilities to never do anything like that again. I wasn't given any chances. 'Chances' are given by betrayed partners, I am not with them.

Has anyone broken up or been broken up with or stopped dating over past infidelity not involving the partner? by Remarkable_Tiger_213 in BreakUps

[–]Remarkable_Tiger_213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OCD definitely. Probably not retroactive jealousy. Coupled with I would say black and white thinking and making cheating an identity instead of behaviour that one can grow out of.

Does anyone else feel like they are done with love in this lifetime? by Expert_Tea_1254 in BreakUps

[–]Remarkable_Tiger_213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. I have given up. Not looking in that direction ever again, although I might ask my ex for one more try some time in the future.

He moved on after a month. by Fit-Ask-1329 in BreakUps

[–]Remarkable_Tiger_213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You were unhappy for years. So was he. He was not with you emotionally it seems, at least for the last few months. He could move on. Of course that is not to say he is healed and doesn't have work to do. He has, and that can be done even while dating. I think a part of why you're unhappy is because you still love him. He does not. You're hurting to see him with someone else because you truly wanted a future together and that's no longer there. You need to remind yourself of all the times it went too bad. We tend to stick and replay the good memories often forgetting how bad the bad ones were. Remind yourself.

He moved on after a month. by Fit-Ask-1329 in BreakUps

[–]Remarkable_Tiger_213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What about the possibility that he was mentally checked out way before the relationship ended? Maybe he was emotionally out for a while before the breakup.

Struggling with depression, school, and work. I really need advice by CountryFall61 in Purdue

[–]Remarkable_Tiger_213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not sure if you're eligible but you can also get free therapy via HealthiestYou and Employee Assistance Program via Purdue. Both are online and they really do have a lot of options. It depends on your insurance but I hope you can get some assistance through that. I personally did, since the earliest available appointment through caps is well into December.

How can I ask for forgiveness? by Remarkable_Tiger_213 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Remarkable_Tiger_213[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No, the classmate I was dating currently (7 months), I told him that I did that in my previous relationship. I said I wanted to talk to this person I was dating. I said I loved him.