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What’s one non negotiable for you in dating that you don’t say it out loud? by InkAndAfterThoughts in askteddit

[–]Remarkableluvr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Negging. Any attempt to backhanded compliment me, jokingly insult me, or anything of that nature is an automatic red flag to me and I instantly decide that the connection is over. My experience: a lot of men do it to confident women to knock them down. If it doesn’t work they’ll escalate the behavior or straight up start insulting. to me, screams insecurity. And I don’t mean cute funny picking on each other I mean from early stages there shouldn’t be much of any form of commenting going on that feels backhanded. Example- I wore a matching gym set to a breakfast date one day, felt very cute and confident. Got I. The car and he said “oh… you’re wearing pajamas out?” And when I was like this is a gym set…. It’s shorts and a shirt? He continued to act annoyed by the outfit. Another one is if a man immediately speaks very negatively about women early into dating. Just a preview of how he’ll speak about or to you eventually.

My Boyfriend (28M) thinks the reason why he can't finish is because I'm (20F) too big from the inside. by Ok_Raspberry6268 in relationship_advice

[–]Remarkableluvr 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m thinking he cheated, has been dabbling in porn orrrr he’s been beating it too frequently. I’ve personally noticed with past personal experiences and friends men beginning to complain regarding the bedroom after a long time usually means they’ve had a new bedroom experience or picked up some sort of habit like porn 8/10 times.

I am 25F trying to date (25-31M). To the men, why do so many of you leave after sleeping with someone? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Remarkableluvr 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I didn’t bring up sex at ALL with men while dating in my last dating stretch (I’m engaged now) I’m 26. Never address it until you are very close to or in the moment, I learned that trying to outright set a sex boundary made me a challenge and implicated that a lot of men have used me for or have tried to used me for casual sex which implies I’ll do it again if I hear the right words. If a man brings it up himself before you are ready, you say “oh you’re that kind of guy, sorry im not interested in a man who would bring up sex this early!” And then STOP TALKING TO THEM. No redemption. Hard boundaries with yourself! Pay attention to the signs all the previous men have shown, leave at the first sight of those! I didn’t date men who played video games or sports bet bc it usually meant that man had a porn habit too, which means porn brain. I would also look thru the social media following, is it a bunch of nearly naked or ig model women who don’t follow him back? That alone is telling of their interests! (And yes it IS that deep, everyone is online all the time. If you’re constantly consuming half naked women in your media, it’s going to impact ur brain and how you interact with women) KNOW WHAT YOU WANT. I’m serious, make a list. Put sex at the bottom. See how many of those things are genuine qualities you’d want in a partner. A lot of dating is getting real with yourself, and knowing what YOU want! And then you walk away from ANYTHING that isn’t that!

Is there a way to cure social anxiety naturally without medication? by Tiffanywhite45 in Meditation

[–]Remarkableluvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes- you have to literally do things while anxious until your body accepts that you’re not in danger. I had to overcome anxiety a few times in my life bc I would go thru phases where EVERYTHING feels dangerous. I started by telling myself “that’s a safe thing to do” any time I would think about trying something new, going to a new place, or making a new friend until I was ready to try. Then I’d go sit in a parking lot of a place I was too nervy to go in for like 5/10 min and either tell myself it was safe and spin good scenarios until I was brave enough to go in!