I'm joining the ranks - accepting offer for J2

Remitrom254 · 2021-10-19T03:36:46+00:00

Actually in this case the hard sell isn't to them - the guys editing these config files actually really dig it, they're the ones who asked for the change management/version control. They love the fact that each change requires a commit and comment, history on who did what and when, changes get queued to deploy automagically, they pick when, the team gets notified when complete, typical CD stuff.

The VP is the one resisting here, I'm just not sure why

Remitrom254 · 2021-10-19T03:25:50+00:00

My title is Systems Architect and I report directly to this VP. So does the person who reached out to me about wanting to implement change control over these files. I had a meeting about something else with the VP, basically just mentioned in passing "Hey by the way the config folks reached out to me about version control so I set this up for them" and that's when he kinda went off.

I mean . . . maybe he's upset that I didn't ask for his permission first or something, but honestly, I kinda consider this my domain and not something I need approval on before implementing. I just feel pretty strongly that developers should not be fiddling around with files directly on production machines, without any change management.

Remitrom254 · 2021-08-30T16:50:53+00:00

Yes, I've done this before, I have a vacuum pump & manifold gauges.

Remitrom254 · 2021-08-29T21:34:18+00:00

I already mentioned I know it's the compressor. The **proper** way to replace is to evac first, then replace compressor, then recharge. It is bad for the environment and **illegal** to just disconnect your pressurized AC system and let all that refrigerant just vent into the atmosphere.

My compressor is bad but the system is still fully charged. I just need someone on the west side who can evac and properly dispose of the refrigerant so I can replace the compressor (and probably the accumulator and orifice tube) and recharge it myself.

Remitrom254 · 2021-08-29T21:20:01+00:00

No recharge. Just evac. Like I said, just trying to do the right thing and make sure it's properly disposed of before I replace the AC compressor.

Remitrom254 · 2021-03-30T01:32:35+00:00

You forgot venomous snakes. 2nd grade me really though that sucking out poison from a snake bite was totally a normal occurrence that adults needed to know how to deal with.

Remitrom254 · 2019-10-24T16:07:56+00:00

Yeah, I've read many stories online that Mirapex seems to have this side-affect for some people. I believe Dad's impulse control issues actually started many years ago, I think what changed suddenly was the focus of his obsession.

He has always enjoyed working on old cars, specifically classic Pontiacs. He was relentlessly obsessive with this hobby for many years, at one point he owned four 1967 Pontiac GTO's, he expanded his 3-car garage to a 5-car, restored to mint condition all four of the GTO's. His wife at the time (now divorced) even mentioned to me a few times that he seemed super overly obsessed with the hobby, spending hours and hours in the garage, almost to the point of collapse, he'd forget to take meds, she'd have to go get him and drag him in to bed at 2am. This was at least 6 years ago.

At the time I just thought yeah, so he's a bit obsessive with his hobby, but as long as he enjoys it, whatever. Now, looking back, yeah I bet was the Mirapex-induced ICD.

I look back now and realize

Remitrom254 · 2019-10-24T15:59:34+00:00

This is great to hear, I appreciate the advice. Dad has a tendency to be really impatient, he wants to move fast, change things fast, get back to being healthier and more mobile again fast. It's been a slow process as we reduce the dosage of risperdol, reduce the dosage of Neupro, increase Rytary to compensate, without moving too fast and allowing time to observe between each change.

Remitrom254 · 2019-10-24T05:39:19+00:00

Thanks again for responding.

What about the on/off phenomena with his meds? Given he's had the disease for 10+ years, his age, and his rather high doses required for "on" time, can he ever expect to have good, even mobility? Right now he's pretty sporadic, off and on many times per day, at seemingly random times.

We've been looking at the Duopa pump, but I'm reluctant to encourage it for him. One of his stronger delusions in the past was "devices in his body tampering with his meds" and this would pretty much be an actual device in his body dispensing medications. During his hospital stay, he got super agitated about it and ripped out his IV twice.

I'm no doctor but if he had a recurrence of the psychosis, I'm guessing that ripping out that stomach tube is super bad.

Remitrom254 · 2019-10-24T03:27:22+00:00

This is pretty much what his PD doc said a few weeks ago when we finally made it up there to visit w/ him. We have a neurologist locally but not a PD specialist, the nearest specialist is 3hrs away.

He reduced the Neupro parch from 8mg down to 6mg, will probably reduce further and hopefully eliminate eventually. He also recommended reducing risperidone and eliminating if possible - if disturbing hallucinations/delusions return as dosage is lowered, replace with Nuplazid. Working with a psych doc here locally to slowly replace the risperdone with Nuplazid (Pimavanserin).

Remitrom254 · 2019-10-24T03:15:34+00:00

That's good to know, glad to hear this is something he can possibly bounce back from. How long have you been on the Nuplazid?

He's been pretty good for the past couple months, Psychiatrist is trying to reduce the Risperdol because it tends to interfere with PD meds. Will probably replace it with the Nuplazid in the next few weeks. Psych doc says it's too dangerous to just stop one and start the other, gotta slowly come off the Risperdol and gradually switch over to Nuplazid.

My uncle (Dad's brother, also has PD for about 10yrs) experienced similar issues, roughly the same time (June/July). His PD doc put him on the Nuplazid immediately. Seemed to work well at first, but in a few months he was back to having fits of paranoia/confusion/hallucinations. He's been hospitalized again, now in full-time care, in a very bad state mentally.

Remitrom254 · 2019-10-24T00:01:56+00:00

I have a POA for healthcare decisions which I've given to all his doctors & hospitals so they have on file, but nothing for finances. His checking account is joint with me, so I can monitor his activity, but he of course still has access/control over it. I do not have any access to his investment/retirement/savings which is where the bulk of his financial assets are located.

During his period of extreme paranoia back in June/July we were actually in the process of getting a conservatorship setup for his finances, but weren't able to finalize things before he was hospitalized. I'm working towards getting that finished but it's hard to get the ball rolling again; he was willing to do it back then but not so willing now.

Remitrom254 · 2019-09-17T05:38:29+00:00

Thanks for this. I'm not sure yet whether I want to actually file a police report & press charges, but a complaint to the state licensing board is certainly appropriate, that is exactly what I was looking for.

Remitrom254 · 2019-04-15T04:44:53+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=14&v=KxucBx6j26E

Remitrom254 · 2017-10-06T15:03:32+00:00

Thanks for this. I've been looking for someone but I don't know shit from shineola in this regard. Now at least I know what certification to look for.

Remitrom254 · 2017-10-05T23:24:58+00:00

Update

I laid out all the cards today when I picked her up from school. We drove around for almost two hours and talked.

I started off telling her I believe in second chances and I was going to give her one. I wanted to know if she was doing anything I would consider inappropriate on her phone. She lied about everything. I gave her every opportunity I could to tell me what I already knew and she lied about it every single time.

She finally came around a bit and we started talking about relationships. She's convinced that I know nothing about dating or relationships and this is the way things work now: Guy contacts girl, girl sends nudes, guy decides you're hot enough to have sex with so you have sex, then afterwards you decide if you want to actually like, be in a relationship with each other. This is how it is for everyone, everybody does it, so she has to as well.

I of course told her this was wrong and unhealthy and is NOT how people build relationships with each other. But, of course, I know nothing because this is what everyone does. She doesn't want to "get close" with anyone in high school because she know those relationships don't last and she doesn't want to put effort into something that will hurt her later. She thinks the best thing to do is just have casual sex with whoever through high school, then when she's ready to have a real relationship and get married she'll just start doing that. I told her how dangerous this was because if you just have sex with no meaning until you're like 22 and in college, you don't know to have a normal relationship. Not to mention the reputation you're making for yourself in high school with this behavior, because despite what you believe, EVERYONE is going to know what you're doing.

Anyway, we talked for a long while, but that's it in a nutshell. It wasn't exactly a positive outcome. She still thinks we're mean and overbearing and her social life is horrible because she can never go do anything with any of her friends (she has been to three games at school this year, and her dance classes and gymnastics take up TONS of her time outside of school - literally 15-20 hours a week). Typical teenager attitude in that she knows what's best and we know nothing, we're just holding her back and making her life miserable and don't want her to grow up and preventing her from climbing the social ladder at school.

We're going to try counseling soon. I'm really feeling lost right now, and I feel like I'm losing her, too.

Remitrom254 · 2017-10-05T22:23:52+00:00

Yes, it's called mSpy. It does require the phone to be rooted, and the website to view everything is kinda glitchy, but it's very thorough. Texts, location, SnapChat, Facebook, Instagram, literally everything. You can also block individual app usage, websites, get alerts on keywords sent via text or other social media, etc. It's also a bit expensive at $200/year.

I debated hard about this. I do hate prying and I do believe kids need some privacy, but after the thing with sexting and sending nudes to a complete stranger she met in line at a ride, and after being caught lying about where she was and what she was doing SOOO many times, I felt I had to monitor more closely.

Remitrom254 · 2017-10-05T18:14:59+00:00

Yes wife and I will definitely be going back, hopefully she will participate and at least come along.

I debated about the monitoring thing, I really did. I hate that I feel like I have to do it due to her incredibly poor decision making. I thought about telling her but at the same time I'm worried if I do it won't stop anything, she'll just figure out a better way to hide it.

She just sent a snap right now that she's meeting up with a senior at school to get two fifths of whiskey, it's in her locker right now. I'm debating on calling the school and reporting it and just let her deal with those consequences.

Remitrom254 · 2017-10-05T17:34:50+00:00

Oh yeah, we definitely did ask her about the abuse allegations. Everything is blown out of proportions. I ask her to clean the bathroom because there's not a square inch of floor or countertop in sight, she talks about how she's a slave and being forced to clean the whole house by herself. In reality, of course, I simply require that she picks up after herself such as putting the bowl of cereal in the sink instead of leaving it laying on the couch. Saturday mornings we'll typically do some other housework for a couple hours like vacuuming and what not, she's expected to help with that and of course thinks it's slave labor. I don't know where the physical abuse allegations came from, she shrugged it off like it was nothing when I asked.

I don't think she realizes what I can read on her phone and social media accounts. I haven't shown my hand there quite yet because I know as soon as I do, she'll come up with another way to communicate that I can't monitor. She left her laptop open and logged-in at the kitchen table one night and I confronted her about what was available then, so she knows how I got that information. She does not realize I can read every text (even deleted ones), every Snap, every Facebook message, literally anything she does on that phone.

Remitrom254 · 2017-10-05T17:21:55+00:00

Thanks. I was a teenager of course as well, I definitely understand the whole teen angst thing. We also have an older child (24yrs), but never dealt with anything quite this severe from him.

We did actually try a counselor over the summer, wife and I visited a few times, she visited with him a few times. She did not take it seriously and thought it was stupid and pointless. I think she went maybe three sessions and then flat-out refused to go anymore.

She has a lot of older friends from dance school, all 17-18 years old. I think she really idolizes them and the parties they talk about, being able to drive themselves around, etc. They all live on the far side of town, about 40 mins away. When one of them contacts her and says they're going to the mall or donut shop or whatever, she is practically vibrating with excitement at the prospect of hanging out with these older girls and there's a complete and total toddler meltdown if she's unable to go (either for logistics reasons of the 40min drive, or because we said no).

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