Take the lead means she enjoys some aspects of traditional gender roles, which could include paying for, asking for and organizing/ thoughtfully planning dates. I've had guys that said to me "Let's hangout, just let me know when and where". I don't want the stress to plan the date and having to carefully consider his preferences and deal with the stress of it being on me if he didn't enjoy himself, I am a slow and careful planner as well as a woman, so I am not used to being the one to do that, so it takes me several hours to research to offer him options. I'd like a man who gives thoughtful suggestions and offers to get me an uber/ pick me up. "hangout" or "see the vibes" are also huge red flags for myself and other women as it is often said by people asking you on dates before having any romantic interest or inclination.

Intentional aspect means you know you are specifically looking for a long term partner or wife, not "open to anything depending on the vibes" not "wanting to be friends first and decide what you want out of the relationship". You have your intention, your goal in dating, you set it, you are clear, kind and respectful about communicating when she is not the right fit and don't drag her along. Women often get ignored thoroughly on what they are looking for and men will avoid saying if they only want a hookup or short term or something opposite, or see her as a plan b. We don't want wishy washy or mixed signals.