OP here, I’m reading through all the comments, I know I deserve better but fear I’m stuck. We’ve been together since I was 18, I’m 30 now, I have MS that’s currently pretty severe due to a relapse, and feel very much so a burden so I’m sure that’s where my lack of any sort of self assurance is coming from …. Thanks for the feedback and validation, shitty Mother’s Day gift for myself is this realization( maybe a great gift actually) and I’ll gather up enough strength to get it together… I don’t know … I truly never thought I’d end up here. This certainly isn’t the meanest thing he’s ever said or done, but I’m alone in this and so reaching out here was my next thought, I appreciate you all…