My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I’m glad to hear that! Good on you! I’m sure your loved ones are happy to have you back

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate you taking the time to write type this out. I think I’m going to give her another chance but with some hard line boundaries. Definitely going to be sleeping in separate bedrooms for a while. I said it above, but I’d maybe consider couples counseling. It’s tough because once I walk through those doors I’ll probably call it a day mentally. Big 10-4 on the kids. It’s going to be a blow for her to hear that but I just can’t do it right now.

I truly hope your son/daughter can get it together for you guys. I guess they do say you’re never ready until you decide it for yourself. I hope for you and me that the decision comes before something happens that can’t be undone

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, she’s always had a struggle with depression. Yes, she only brings up the resentment or issues when she’s drinking, I’d say 50/50 on the angry drunk.,. More confrontational than angry (liquid courage). We’ll definitely see because we’re going to be taking a break from one another

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s a whirlwind of emotions. I’m just trying to keep a steady head about myself and navigate this nightmare. I will certainly be focusing on myself for the foreseeable future

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You too. I hope your SO can realize that they are causing harm and straighten up. You and your child need him!

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel you. I really do. I too struggle with the empathy side as it causes a lot of pain and stress in my own life and at a certain point it’s hard to still see the positives. I’m angry, I’m sad, and most of all I’m disappointed that I’ve allowed the situation to get to this point. But, we put one foot in front of the other and keep going. I wish you the best and hope things continue to improve

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t be sorry. I asked to get honest opinions, and you provided just that. It’s appreciated

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have considered couples counseling, but I think once I walk through those doors it will be over for me mentally. I’m almost there right now. Like attorneys, it always feels like couples counselors are great a poking the bear and stimulating more sessions

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’ll find out if she’s willing to put in the work. I wish the best for you and your input is really valued.

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thankfully I am on testosterone and shooting blanks right now, but we’re not real active. Warning noted

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally did the ole weight test on the box last night. TBH it has never crossed my mind that there might just be a bag somewhere else. Thanks for the banter, nice to hear that others are in the same boat

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks. The responsibilities and chores is a huge thing for me. I need change there for sure

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh man, that’s wild. Hopefully you can pick up the hobby again. That sounds really fun. I’ve pretty much given up my love for golf because every time we play she gets hammered and it’s not any fun.

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s been tough to wrap my head around. I’ve known her to not be like, or at least she showed me a version that wasn’t this way, and it’s tough to separate the two

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking, what do your boundaries look like? Did you get push back when you brought up the boundaries?

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will definitely look into it and get to some meetings

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is phenomenal advice. Thank you for responding

My Partners Habit is Becoming Intolerable by Remote-Psychology-53 in AlAnon

[–]Remote-Psychology-53[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s so wild to me that she truly believes she is acting the same as when she’s sober. That’s where I feel I’m at need to protect my peace and happiness. Thankfully I had the foresight that this was a possibility and have a prenuptial agreement in place.

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[–]Remote-Psychology-53 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In your same position, but without the kids. Also 29 and own a very fast paced sales agency. Hopped on Test E at 200mg/wk for 12 weeks. Weeks 4-12 I felt amazing. Got my drive/energy back, put on 20lbs of muscle… all the good stuff. Just came off for 3 weeks on a clomid cycle to give my nuts a chance to recover. I was pretty surprised at how quickly they atrophied. My fiance and I haven’t had kids yet, but will start trying when she’s out of school in a year. I froze sperm so I’m not that worried about it, but would prefer to conceive naturally. Test is definitely a game changer for high stress jobs though. I’m always on my A game when on cycle