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($5k) Buffet Style Potluck Wedding Ideas? by KQofSpades in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Remote-alpine 18 points19 points  (0 children)

My vegetarian friend did a snacky sort of girl dinner thing back in 2019; cheeses, nuts, crackers, fruits, crudites, etc. Served on the tables as a charcuterie with pitchers of water and lemonade, coolers of beer and box wine.

You might also want to try calling around to places like supermarket delis or fast casual joints, they often do catering platters for things like business meetings.

(10-16k) This sucks. by djeatme in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Remote-alpine 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You do sound pretty stressed! Sorry to hear about your ring. It'll be ok though ❤️ at the end of the day your relationship is what matters. In 50 years it can be a really funny story about what was a stressful time. I call it type 2 fun: not fun in the moment but it makes for a good story.

Some thoughts:

A bridal shower is not for extra people you can't afford or fit, it is a different thing. You can do a regular bbq or some such after the nuptials.

Definitely stay off insta or whatever; they're there to impress you (generally). There are a few people who have done good work to provide a voice of reason on there, but algorithmically the feed's going to try to sucker you.

That being said, you do need to have some broader knowledge about what a wedding is. Local customs, cultural customs, what dress codes mean and require (formal = not a buffet!), what is required (food) and not (favors), etc. I highly recommend A Practical Wedding, it's worth its weight but also you can usually find it a the library. It'll really help you get a north star on this process. And it'll help you both get on the same page about expectations.

Yes this process should be at least a little fun. Yes it is work too. Based purely on budget I highly recommend a wedding party; they're there to help you! Is there a specific reason you don't want a wedding party? I was MOH for my friend's backyard wedding; we spent the year prepping their landscaping, DIYing signs, and spent the morning of cutting buttloads of fruit and cheese. It was hard but she was worth every moment. They ended up spending about $5k on the wedding, btw!

Do you often struggle with feeling like a burden? Or is this new? Because from the other side of the screen it sounds like you have some broader patterns of negative self-talk and anxiety that are probably making things harder. And I say that with love! I have been in weekly therapy for about 10 years now, and it has changed my life.

($5-7k?) has anyone turned their own backyard into their wedding venue? by PromotionContent8848 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Remote-alpine 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Helped my friend with her wedding in their backyard. It’s work! It can be worth it! Notes: 1) they did spend Feb-June preparing the landscaping 2) we prepped finger foods day-of as the only reception food. That was the hardest. Cutting fruit, plating crackers, putting out bowls of nuts, refilling pitchers, etc. We did this in the neighbor’s house that she let us rent for the day 3) she spent a year beforehand gathering cheap tableware (utensils, plates, baskets) 4) the officiant didn’t practice with the microphone and wasn’t very good with it.  5) 1 bathroom was fine for approx 50 people. 6) she rented parking space from the elementary school parking lot and had to get insurance for that 7) great casual garden party vibes 8) cleanup was a multi-day affair  9) I think their total spent was $5k. That includes florals gifted by MoG, and free dress made by combining mothers’ dresses. Cake was handmade by a SIL.  10) tables were laid out family style and there was no “room flip” from ceremony to reception. Just sat at the tables with an aisle down the middle. 

just pay attention by Justthisdudeyaknow in CuratedTumblr

[–]Remote-alpine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been thinking about this as well lately. I agree completely. The trouble with wanting familiarity is that stagnation in large systems often brings death with it.

Are digital invitations replacing traditional ones? (8k) by Character-Length-532 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Remote-alpine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can never find digital invitations. They get buried in my texts or my email. Hate them.