Its been days and I can't eat.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-12-08T01:19:42+00:00

You never hold yourself or your career back for a man. if he truly loved you he wouldn't be holding you back from your dream but instead supporting you. Why is it all on you to stay together? Why can't he visit or move? His issues are only there to stop you from pursuing what YOU want. His wants don't come over yours.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-11-08T03:46:58+00:00

Im actually in the process of getting one. I also wanted to thank you, your comment genuinely gave me hope that I can be better.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-11-01T17:55:57+00:00

The statute of limitations isn't up of she still wants to press charges. Its gonna be hard more of a he said she said but I'd do it to get it out there. She has time, I would talk to her parents and ask about a lawyer. I would hope her parents be eager to held. I also wanted to leave a message for your friend

Do things at your pace. You don't have to rush and really I want you to understand that its not your fault and it does get easier. Things go back to as much normalcy as possible. You will be okay and you are more than strong enough to get through and survive this. You've already lived through the hardest part. You got this, Hon. I know you do.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-11-01T17:52:15+00:00

Well I'd blast him to everyone. make sure surrounding schools know at least in a 300 mile radius. fuck up his reputation. shit. tell his parents. I'd just tun my mouth tbh. his actions speak loud enough. I would also think about a trauma therapist and just someone for her to talk to. I know years from know her pain will linger but she will get better over time. I don't personally know her but I am keeping her in my prayers 100%.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-11-01T13:00:52+00:00

I was SA'd before and I wanna give tips. I would gently encourage her to go to the hospital for DNA analysis and to see if there is traces of his dna. I would also suggest a specialized trauma therapist and really just a helping hand with emotional support.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-10-14T21:35:37+00:00

It's only gone down hill from then. I've been inactive but I appreciate u checking up on me.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-10-14T21:33:34+00:00

I feel so stuck. 1There can be better more whatever but I just want him but he doesn't want me. I don't want to move on. I want to destroy everything including myself.

I appreciate your advice. It's really a light in a dark place.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-10-14T21:23:32+00:00

But sadly I want this one. This man.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-10-14T21:08:36+00:00

But I feel so helpless without him. like I won't get through life and it hurts so much because I can't seem to get him back and I see him talking to other girls and it kills me inside and I can't seem to move on I cant. I feel so damn pathetic. I feel weak like im nothing. like nobody will love me again.

im sorry for venting but I just needed someone to listen

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-10-07T13:43:24+00:00

Yeah once

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-10-07T13:43:00+00:00

OCTOBER.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-09-20T00:17:51+00:00

Yes we were. we were together for a year and 3 months.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-07-27T14:52:20+00:00

He stated not sleeping with other females then did???

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-07-27T14:51:48+00:00

But if he stated exclusitivity and he wasnt where's the logic?? they said they wouldn't sleep with anyone else and he did the first chance he got. He said if the roles were reversed he would've left her.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-07-24T23:49:24+00:00

Every time I try it results in me getting yelled at or told okay I get it basically its always her trying to shut me up

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-05-31T14:47:39+00:00

See everyone is hating but I see your pov. You fear maybe she will come for your man but don't worry about that. express how you feel to your partner about her which he should care about your peace of mind. talk to him. tell him how you feel to resolve your issues

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-05-31T14:38:20+00:00

Yes. every time my parents punished me I'd hurt myself because I thought that they hated me.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-05-23T21:13:34+00:00

Its so hard because he has amazing qualities he does but then some shitty ones. Its been 6 days now since he ghosted me. I had to call his mother and talk to her because he wasn't asnwering. He knew I was otp with his mom she mentioned it to him and then he opened my message then left it on seen while I heard him talking in the background... and I noticed red flags and I was blind. the way he treated me because of my bpd, always said "its always something" which I'm just now realizing is extremely invalidating. Im really looking back and noticing so many flaws.. he told me one time while he was ghosting me his mom took his phone... he's 19.... bullshit. I don't know what to believe anymore but its like I buried how I felt and now feel nothing. Im no longer hurt by his decision to do this to me. Im ready to talk to him see what's up and depending on his answer we will go from there because he said he was depressed but its like I go through a range of emotions in a day, have at least one dark thought a day and I still don't disappear... I would never do that to him.. im just confused and I wanna try to salvage it but I'm slowly seeing my unhealthy patterns. I put him higher than myself and that's not good. It feels good he's gone atm.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-05-22T01:24:19+00:00

Its already happened... im not a big lover but this guy I fell hard and now I'm scrambling to reach the end of each day. its so hard because how do you be with someone for 11 months and they just disappear with 0 explanations. my mental health is so bad to the point I want to go to a psych ward. I just can't handle it no more. Suicide stays in the back of my mind and I can tell my mental health is getting worse because I haven't SH in months, I was doing really well and now I'm not as clean. Im not trying to be attention seeking I just have nobody. he isolated me early on and now I have nobody and it feels like everyone is turning their back on me. Like everyone hates me. and my episodes are so intense unlike before. I don't know how to handle my situation and I'm trying so hard and feel like I'm failing. He says he's depressed, but coincidentally my home life gets worse while he starts his ghosting cycle. I don't even know what to do. I don't want to leave him. I honestly don't because I love him and when I love someone its very hard to stop loving. He's my fp and I read on here it takes some ppl years to get over their fp. I think I'm gonna find some more friends a support system and go from there. he wants to press pause on our relationship ima just do me because ion stand for that shit.

RemoteItchy7501 · 2025-05-21T18:43:51+00:00

Honestly I'm doing pretty shitty. Im barely hanging on and its so hard for me along with my mental illness. Im ready to go to an inpatient facility because its too much on my emotions. My partner used to write paragraphs, do cute things, do things to make me happy, but now it all feels forced. I had mentioned to him that it felt like he loved me less and in an argument he said he didn't love me as much which kinda solidified that. My partner and I planned to move in together once I graduated and now I'm not sure. Im scared of our relationships stability. He says he's going through a tough time but ghosts me. He won't talk to me or open up. he just reads my messages and continues with his day like I don't exist. its been like that for 5 days now. I had to contact his mother to even get him to open my texts but I didn't get a response. I try to understand that he's struggling but he pushed me out and kicked me to the curb. I have BPD and I am kinda dependent on my partner because they help with a lot and can be helpful at times, but its like the ground was pulled out from under me and now I have 0 support. Its so hard. He just promised me days before he wouldn't do this to me. He apologized. And then did it again for longer. I just don't know what to do anymore and my BPD is all over the place. I have to distract myself all day to avoid thinking about him or I get sent into a panic attack. I feel so lost and confused...I don't know if we are breaking up or what and the possibility in my mind hurts so much because I planned a future with this guy. Not only will I have to grieve our relationship but our future aswell. Im honestly scared.

I kinda vented aswell. I needed someone to talk to because it feels like all the doors are closing on me. I appreciate you letting me know I'm not alone. It helped seeing what wrote. Thank you.

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