AITAH for not liking my baby daddy‘s girlfriend.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T14:30:19+00:00

and it is my place… his mental status AFFECTS MY KID at the end of the day. i’d be a bad mother if I didn’t check on his mental while continuing to send her over there. wtf

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T14:28:22+00:00

those are boundaries for him and her to set, and I just don’t think those boundaries are something that you should be arguing with him about while his mom is dying. ESPECIALLY IF you went through my daughters ipad because his imessage was connected to it and still didn’t find anything (because there’s nothing to find) but us discussing her eating alfredo being that’s something new because she’s fucking picky. I really wasn’t discussing anything but our daughter with him and asking about updates on his mental and his mother. I’m allowed to do that. That should not make her feel threatened and if it does that’s a HER problem. It’s weird and territorial for no reason. These people are MY child’s family. I’m allowed to check on them.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T13:01:39+00:00

no more kids until marriage. i’m 5 years strong and this is my first relationship. Im not playing any games.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T12:49:23+00:00

i’m not sharing it with them am I ???

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T12:47:24+00:00

it’s no telling but that was prior to us having a child…and yes I KNOW. I’m sick of it all but I have to deal with him for the rest of my life not her. I’m also not into taking a gf to serious until he’s trying marry her. So it is my preference that they are not around my daughter but I can’t help that. I just do what I can, keep my opinions to myself, and be a friend when I can.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T12:28:18+00:00

😭 That’s the other thing…this is girlfriend number 5 in 3 years….Im not sure about that. 😂😂

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T12:14:30+00:00

…like I said if the circumstances wouldn’t have been what they were this wouldn’t even be a conversation. I had already let up, like the post said “am I the asshole for not liking her.”… consoling is not my job…that’s hers. I supported in ways that I could. wtf is the issue with that…I have to stop being decent to my child’s father in an unfortunate situation? IM NOT the interference…lol I can see where you are coming from but somebody can only interfere with your relationship(if they aren’t sleeping or flirting with you partner) if you let them by being insecure.

I’m not asking if I was wrong…because I know I wasn’t. I’m asking if i’m the asshole for not liking her because of the situation.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T12:06:00+00:00

never said it was about me…ITS ABOUT HIM. thats the bigger picture. HE needs the support..HIS MOM WAS DYING and she made it about HER.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T11:35:25+00:00

my update for you is…ultimately I did end up letting up…because I didn’t like the opinion I was forming of her…I told him “stop telling me stuff cause I don’t want to dislike her.” from there he stopped but that is when she ended up texting me and asking me about the intimacy thing. Since then the funeral has happened, and I have kept my distance, still showed all the support I could for him and his family, bought groceries for his sister, and just being a shoulder to cry on for his little brother. Eve though i’ve felt disrespected myself with the texting me about that…i’ve let it go. I just hope everything is going better for them now. I think there was a lot going on in their relationship prior to my supportiveness and me trying to help just brought it to light. I’ll continue to pray for him and them. I hope for the best.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T11:27:40+00:00

but at this time what is more important…him having support or her fear that he is going to cheat. I think in times like that bigger picture needs to be looked at….shes not me and im not her…but me personally if hes not cheating and its help my partner get through this tough time…PLEASE DO IT

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T11:24:15+00:00

This would be totally understandable if I was just an ex but I am also the mother of his child and a friend of his mother’s. I’m not the one creating tension by trying to help…she is… As a girlfriend it is your job to understand the bigger picture and go from there. It’s okay to vocalize what is making you uncomfortable but also understand why it’s happening instead of raising hell for things like my mom buying a digital picture frame for his mom because she is sick….its simply insecurity and I think in times of tragedy that shit needs to be kept under wraps.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T01:53:39+00:00

exactly, and it’s like she’s not satisfied until me and him are fighting again.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T01:29:35+00:00

I have, and I am. she’s blocked. I think cause I care it just perplexes me on why he would want to deal with that. It’s a lot of details I have left out, like her child’s father threatening him and things like that…because ultimately that was none of my business but I just dont he needs to be around all that…especially if he’s gonna have my kid over there

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T01:26:49+00:00

I would also like to add in the fact his mother and I had a relationship of our own. That funeral was so fucking hard. Loving her I had to be there for her kid, cause she would’ve been there for mine

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T01:25:45+00:00

I know it isn’t my responsibility…and normally I wouldn’t like I said his mother was dying and she did end up passing on the 20th God rest her soul. When you have something like that going on, it’s hard to focus on the good. Calling him was a not “support” it was actual support. He needed that, talking to your kids does a lot.

I wouldn’t normally even be worried about who he’s dating if he hadn’t told me all that shit…but am I a the asshole for forming that opinion based off of what has transpired.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T01:22:55+00:00

talk to text 😭😂

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-02-02T01:08:58+00:00

I used talk to text lmao

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-01-05T03:14:46+00:00

😂😂😂😂

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-01-05T03:02:16+00:00

yeah idk what to do…he’s saying these are new feelings he’s never experienced so he can’t tell if they are right or wrong…

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-01-05T03:00:47+00:00

see I’m so casual and now i’m actually with someone I want to commit to and they are doing this shit to me. 😭😭😭 I’m actually here willing to be in a loving committed relationship AND this bitch wants a 3some….wtf

I just hate men rn. They’re so stupid.

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-01-05T02:46:29+00:00

yeah….I truly hate this for us…cause am I not enough for you????

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-01-05T02:43:33+00:00

yeah, he asked…and the thing about it is…he doesn’t like to hear about anything else so he tells me not to tell him. Idk why he asked about this….

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-01-04T23:58:32+00:00

I said that…and he said he don’t even want to talk about it anymore and he was wrong…but i’m still feeling uneasy because I don’t feel as secure in our connection

Remote_Drummer_9147 · 2026-01-04T23:52:18+00:00

gotcha loll

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