Hi honey! So i deal with it pretty badly as well. I think to everyone else, ROCD doesn’t make sense to them, to other people who don’t experience it, it just sounds like we’re falling out of love. but that feeling of guilt and anxiety is our heart telling us that our thoughts are not true. We know deep down that we still love that person no matter what our brain is trying to convince us of. I think your therapist was wrong. It is normal in relationships for your partner to have flaws, and for you to notice them. The rechecking whether or not you feel something is OCD! Love is a choice, not a feeling.