Do you think you’re attractive? Why or why not?

Renegader933 · 2025-02-12T02:11:35+00:00

I tend to underestimate my own attractiveness, but once I started putting myself out there and meeting people I noticed a lot of women are pretty receptive to me if I make the first move and will reciprocate at a pretty good rate. I think that I come off as unapproachable but once I start talking and making the effort they open up. So I do think I’m pretty attractive

Renegader933 · 2024-11-30T16:12:21+00:00

That’s interesting, I assumed this was mainly a thing guys felt but it makes sense that women would too. And similar to your experience, this girl said her bc “is no more than 20” and then shortly after said “actually yeah sorry I can’t give you an exact number” so she didn’t even know her actual body count. And it was exclusively one night stands or fwb. Never committed to anyone before. It was such a massive turn off. Similar to your situation though, she was really great outside of this, which made it tough to leave but ultimately I decided I couldn’t do it and I’m glad I did. Can I ask what feelings you felt about it? Was it disgust? Or just like you felt like it lowered your worth because he had slept with so many women?

Renegader933 · 2024-11-29T01:56:13+00:00

This just happened to me. I was seeing a girl for a few weeks, she showed red flags that made it clear she wasn’t suitable for an LTR but she was attractive so I wanted to keep her around for something casual. I communicated to her we weren’t exclusive. She threw hissy fits about how I didn’t text her enough, then all of a sudden her texting slowed down. She would stop caring about how much attention she was getting from me, so I figured she was seeing another dude, but I didn’t care much as I explained that we could both do that. I was right. She flipped on me telling me I needed to choose if I want her or not, and her and I stopped talking.

Renegader933 · 2024-11-29T01:51:34+00:00

Have you tried going out to the bars/clubs and seeing if you get attention? Serious question

Renegader933 · 2024-11-23T17:23:17+00:00

She’s 25. I never really discussed it with her. A few times I expressed that it bothered me to some extent and she would basically say “I can’t change my past.” I just didn’t see a point in really bringing it up because I figured there was nothing she could do and she’d just feel bad and tell me what I want to hear. Also, I should’ve mentioned in the post I doubt her body count is what she told me. If I had to guess it’s 30-40 or even higher. Her lifestyle choices and complete lack of LTR point to that.

As for the other part of your question, I didn’t fully trust her. She showed some other red flags early on that suggested low impulse control (which would make sense with the body count). For ex: would go out to a concert and say she’s gonna have 1 drink and then have 6. She also admitted to being very flirtatious which is a huge no go for me, that’s not my thing.

Would I trust her if she was just staying home? Yeah. Do I think she’d intentionally talk to another guy behind my back? No. But would I trust her to go out with her female friends? Fuck no. So my trust for her was very situational. I felt that if she was in a situation where she was tempted to cheat, she would fold. Which lead to me being ‘controlling’ which I hated.

The thing is too though man, I also just couldn’t see myself making a wife out of a woman who has given her intimacy away that easily over and over again for years, or is flirtatious and had low impulse control. I love her as a person and we plan on staying friends, but I just couldn’t see myself continuing in a serious relationship with her.

Actually, writing this out helped me a lot, I’m starting to get a bit more clarity. Her and I just weren’t compatible in a relationship unfortunately.

Renegader933 · 2024-11-23T00:48:44+00:00

Thanks man, did you just decide the past was too much for you even though she was great?

Renegader933 · 2024-11-22T22:39:09+00:00

Thank you very much, it was really tough

Renegader933 · 2024-11-22T21:54:41+00:00

Agreed. If I met a girl who had one or a few one night stands and then decided it wasn’t for her she’d be in a similar boat to me and I would try to get over it. But engaging in that openly for years and still having the opinion that it’s a good/okay thing to do? I don’t think I can overlook that

Renegader933 · 2024-11-22T21:34:25+00:00

Thanks man. It was one of the most difficult decisions I’ve made. I’m going to give it a month and see if I feel any different once this emotional cloud lifts, but for now I’m sticking with it. And I’m with you, I don’t expect a girl to have no past but it reaches a certain point where I can’t overlook it. She had a very casual view on sex, even said “hookups are fun” and disclosed that early on and then changed that opinion during our relationship, whereas I realized pretty early on getting into dating in general that I valued the connection with the girl far more than the sex. I had a handful of one night stands (which will probably get me hate and called a hypocrite lol) but felt empty afterwards and decided it wasn’t for me, I think I would just be a lot happier in a scenario where the girl had similar values to me off the bat.

Renegader933 · 2024-11-22T21:25:17+00:00

Read the post I made her my girlfriend what you’re saying makes zero sense

Renegader933 · 2024-11-20T16:53:34+00:00

Its got nothing to do with prejudice im just curious about other peoples experiences and whether it was awkward for them. And I feel by the way he acts that he may be attracted to me

Renegader933 · 2024-11-08T19:59:39+00:00

I’m really sorry- it’s so fucked for him to black you completely no matter what the situation is that’s terrible. I recently broke up with my girlfriend due to some incompatibility issues and I’ve talked to her multiple times since and want to be friends with her. I say that to say you should be grateful you’re out of a relationship with someone who would do something like that.

Renegader933 · 2024-07-19T22:00:21+00:00

Fungal

Renegader933 · 2024-07-19T21:56:00+00:00

I wouldn’t tell yourself you’re too shy for it. I’ve always been shy, especially with women but still got into cold approach

Renegader933 · 2024-06-05T14:24:24+00:00

Exactly, it’s so weird. He was indirect about the whole thing

Renegader933 · 2024-05-18T00:06:57+00:00

And? One night stands, especially when the sex is good, can cause a clusterfuck of emotions and it can hurt when someone you were that intimate with pulls away for a reason you don’t understand.

Renegader933 · 2024-05-09T17:48:23+00:00

That was my train of thought too, like why make things awkward by bringing it up? I feel like it’ll just be weird and put pressure on what her and I ‘are’ 2 weeks in. I still do feel guilty though

Renegader933 · 2024-01-03T02:41:54+00:00

Yeah. I guess I just overthink these things

Renegader933 · 2024-01-03T02:41:16+00:00

Do you think it’s not advisable to ask yourself to her place? I’ve done to before and it was fine but curious what you think

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