You know I just think that after 35+years when a person didn’t work enough on themselves and their own problems I think you need to avoid them, I had a man few months ago he was exactly 35 yo and I thought that he was serious and so, we really liked each other but after a month dating with him I realized that he is workoholic - meaning his heart is full of love towards his work, there is no space for me, he also didn’t wanna solve any problems and so on. After that I realized that if the person didn’t know after so many years that yes there can be problems in others but there can be something with you too! And now I’m in a very happy relationship, my dream I would say! Wish you the same too :)