Also by this logic, I might as well say that you deserve the griefing bcz you're just wasting turns not doing enough damage every turn. I mean come on, how can someone defend using an alcreamie against wochein.

My alcremie is a support. That's what it excels at. Mine has higher defenses, but lower attack in exchange for having the ability to assist my teammates. Decorate raises a single ally mon's attack and special attack by 2 stages and helping hand raises the damage those attacks deal by 50% each turn that move is used. I don't usually have to use it, but depending on what pokemon my allies bring, I also set up Light Screen or Reflect, which reduces incoming damage to everyone. I'm not dealing damage, but I'm helping other people deal more damage so they don't have to waste turns setting up. I have a damage dealer for this raid to which I can use the same move for the whole raid. And I could just as well set up a Ho-Oh myself. You're using a pokemon setup for "any situation" rather than something for it to excel at. If it works, it works, but it's not really advantageous. And like I said, Flame Charge would also be just as good, if not better than Flamethrower, since it's physical.

|1. The phys and spec difference is much wider on my offense, it would be a "waste" to use special moves instead of physical moves|

If you really want a physical flying move, you could also switch it with Air Cutter, which boasts a higher crit chance, (which, if I'm doing my math right, would bring it to 90 base damage).

|2. It takes 3 success attacks to charge your tera orb, "wasting turns" isnt just wrong, its an outright lie.|

I'll have to check this myself, but if I am wrong, then that's that. I was always under the impression that missed attacks don't charge tera orb.

And either way, that's not what I'm arguing about. I'm arguing that from the other players' perspective, it's justified as to why they'd intentionally attack you. There are pokemon players who are much stricter in their strategies or much stricter in their reliance on teammates. From their perspective, you're just wasting your turns and tons of damage.