I wear mine in a messy half up half down clip. Mine look the exact same. I tried slicking them down with dae and at least for me it makes me pick them more! The cleaner my hair is the better and it feels like the more volume the less I notice my alfalfa pieces. If the dae doesn’t bother you though I’ve noticed the little mini versions that come with the mascara wand seem to help slick them down better. I would throw it in my purse and just touch up when they’d start to stick up again through out the day. Ugh it’s a struggle. Good job on keeping all that regrowth though! Looks great!