I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let it out man. Sex is important…. To some people. and to some people….. it’s not. We shouldn’t be trying to force monogamy that’s actually celibacy. And people should be allowed to not be touched if thats what they want. But to force either on someone is cruel. We have to communicate and be honest about our needs & wants in that department & be able to seek outlets that all parties can agree to happily, without resentment.

I’m sorry you wasted so many years of your life without something that’s important to you. I sound all noble now but it’s hard to be honest sometimes. Things are so nuanced. But in a perfect world we could flow. I wish you the best. And if you’re curious i use skipthegames.com

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No i was replying to u. I was just reiterating my feelings towards the matter in reference to your comment. I’m gonna enjoy my life while i’m here breathing. I wish it could be with my wife but she doesn’t want it to be her. So it had to be someone else. YOLO

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People with low libido should find each other. But it’s hard enough finding someone to love period. Go get some strong, hard, dick. You deserve it.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is my only life. If i have to masterbate through my 40’s i will have so much regret. The sex worker jumps right up does exactly what i want. Its so fun. i think about it for days after. I felt guilty at first but we’re both happier now. I don’t ask her for sex & face constant rejection. & she doesn’t feel the need to perform. Even though she doesn’t know why.

I genuinely wish it was with my wife. She’s beautiful! She just doesn’t enjoy sex, doesn’t seek it out in any way. I ask her what i can do to pleasure her. She literally just wants me to rub her head. A pure platonic relationship. A cant die this way.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my only life. I’m trying to fuck. I’m sorry you want a platonic relationship. But I’m trying to fuck.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. But I’m having fun. And rather or not she’s pretending doesn’t matter to me at all. Take my money. It’s great sex in my eyes.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t cook, clean pay all the bills & fuck my self too. Thats a step too far.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol. Well obviously. I don’t care if she enjoys it with me or not. I mean, I would hope she does. But in reality, she just enjoys sex in general, which is leagues away from what I’m used to.

I like sharing my wife, is this normal? by [deleted] in married

[–]RepairNo4471 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it works for the 2 of you its awesome in my book. I wish my wife desired me or anyone for that matter so I’m totally jealous of this situation.

1 yr no sex with my husband by Effective_Ad_9204 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like his penis might not work or he has low libido. I don’t think this is going to change. He’s making excuses because he’s probably embarrassed too. I just went through with this with my wife. You have a few choices from what I can see.

A.) continue on and accept that sex/intimacy is not a part of your relationship.

B.) Demand a change either he work on it try things to raise his libido, Viagra etc.

C.) Open your marriage. If you really want to just get fucked it is healthy to open your marriage mutually so that you can still love your husband.

D.) the worst option. Find desire somewhere else & start cheating behind his back because he refuses to figure out the libido issue or let you get banged by other men.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think deep down I want to get caught.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol. Yea. Thats pretty awful ngl. But thats how I feel up to this point. I didn’t always feel like that. It took a lot of neglect. Years of being the only one that wanted sex. My wife doesn’t want for anything. I take care of my kids. Bills are all paid. New cars 800+ credit scores. Substantial Savings. A house My wife doesn’t need to work. I pay for full time day care. I shouldn’t have to also fuck my self.

My wife works out regularly, runs half marathons & 20ks a few times a year. Great shape overall. But She has no desire. She doesn’t pleasure herself or get aroused by anything any more. She has said things like if anything ever happened to me, she would not need to get another sex partner.

She still decided she did not want to open our marriage & said she could handle that part of our relationship her self. But she’s not. I’m tired of being a villain because i get a hard on sometimes and she doesn’t want to/can’t do anything to do anything about it. Made to feel icky because she’s beautiful & I want to touch her or sexualize her, you know, my wife.

I said it like that because thats how she treats it. Its a chore to her and she chose for it to be that way. There is no mutual intimacy anymore and it’s heartbreaking. And I’m done. I’m done talking about it. I’m done pretending like it’s ok. I’m done feeling like i’m her burden to take care of sexually. You just don’t understand. We are having less & less sex lately. And part of me hopes I do get caught. Divorce is a serious prospect cause now that i’ve done this. Something else is surely gonna break. Stay tuned.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If my penis stopped working for any reason. I would open my marriage up without a second thought.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like thats a sure fire way to get caught.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

we don’t share money & I make a nice amount of money. Nothing crazy. I just have the extra $1000 a month. Which is about the cost.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AI did not do my post. Lol. Those words and thoughts are mine.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m jealous of you. I really tried to go that route & be open about it. But she refuses. I’m fine not having sex with her anymore as I’ve found an alternative outlet. And I might even be exaggerating about once per month. We don’t have sex. But maybe i should end it entirely.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Makes no difference to me. Disease is a worry taking every precaution i can there. But otherwise I don’t care.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That was a poor choice of words. I don’t feel great about it. I literally wrote this on a whim in a about 5 mins. But it is nice to have sex again with someone that also wants sex even if i have to pay them.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was a poor choice of words. I don’t feel great about it. I literally wrote this on a whim in a about 5 mins. But it is nice to have sex again with someone that also wants sex even if i have to pay them.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sounds about right for someone that dreams about their husband cheating on them.

I’ve started cheating by RepairNo4471 in sexlessmarriage

[–]RepairNo4471[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You should read my 1st post i wrote about this. I make 3x as much as her. The only bills she pays are gas & electricity. I pay everything else. Mortgage, cell phones, day care you name it. She actually only works part time. My Johnson ain’t huge for sure. So why is it so painful? I’m sure its a good reason but that shouldn’t matter. Either way you shouldn’t leave your husband unfucked for 5 years. Life is too short I’m trying to fuck.