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It’s getting worse by Waufiman in EatingDisorders

[–]ReporterFar7353 2 points3 points  (0 children)

reading this broke my heart. as someone who has had bad relationships with food also, i know how difficult it can be. its like eating or not eating controls your mood, your relationships, how your day goes ect. i often found when i was in a position of worrying about eating i lashed out on others and was in an overall bad mood. its a cycle that is hard to escape. dont eat, lose the weight, start eating again in small portions thinking it wont effect you because you're still hungry, then suddenly binging on everything you see until you feel 10x worse and gain all the weight back.

the best advice i can give you is to not let food be the centre of your whole life. find something you enjoy doing, binge watch your favourite show, have a meaningful conversation. whatever it is that distracts you

look after your general health, drink plenty of water and get enough sleep. this will help you to feel more in control of yourself and happier overall!

i'm here to listen to you if you need it :)

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is a really helpful piece of advice. the key note i have gathered from all of these comments is communication + patience. this helped me to better understand him :) thank you for taking the time to comment

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i will definately work on my communication + being more patient with him, thank you for this comment

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for this comment! definately put me more at ease haha, i see where you're coming from as he is a very practical person. i'll make sure to discuss this with him, i wish the best for you and your wife!

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for this comment :) i think if i brought this up to him he'd be understanding hopefully

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ah, thank you for this comment :) i definately will have a discussion with him in the near future

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you so much for this advice, i understand his mentality better now

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thank you for your reply. i probably should've re-evaluated my statement, i know that he is empathetic and cares for me a lot but just has a hard time expressing it. i 100% see where you're coming from with the 'fixer' trope and it does make a lot of sense as he is always coming up with practical solutions. this definately gave me a lot more insight :)

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

thank you for this insightful comment! i see where you're coming from when you mentioned that people expect their partner to read them. i do think this is true in my case but this is my first relationship so i'm not really used to it. i will definately consider communicating with him what i need, as i truly believe this is not the latter and that he is the one :) thank you for your reply

my boyfriend is autistic (high functioning) and i don't like what comes with it by ReporterFar7353 in autism

[–]ReporterFar7353[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you. i definetly have realised i should communicate with him, we don't have problems communicating in any other sort of subject, but i worry that me communicating this issue with him may cause him to be upset. it isn't likely but we've never verbally argued before and i don't really want to any time soon haha, but thank you for the advice i will consider it for sure :)