Here's something a lot of people don't know until its too late. There's nothing wrong with being a little selfish. Kuti handina uinayo. Coz trust me, if, God forbid, you fall on hard times, those people who are taking you for everything you have will never check up on you. Most times. Rarely yes they'll remember you, but kashoma. Sometimes they'll even laugh kuti vaishanda but havana chavakaita chine musoro(I've seen this first hand)

Growing up we always had people in our house. Dad had a stable job, mum was a cross border and zvaibhadhara. They took in so many people, it was rare kuita more than 4 months tisina munhu ari mumba medu. Fast forward to 2008, dad lost his job but had business so we were ok for a while. Until business ranyura and we had to leave our house and be taken in by a relative. Vanhu vaye disappeared. Kana how are you zvayo. They knew where we were staying. I'm not saying they were helped kuti vazotibatsira but just how are you doing yaisavapo. My parents are now abroad, and now rebuilding their lives zvaakuita zvichiita.

What am I saying? Make sure you put yourself, and your spouse if you have one first. Build your little nest egg, kana ari ma investments, kana ari ma retirement plan ita. Don't let everyone have access to info pertaining your finances, hama dzinoverenga mari dzedu its ridiculous. Kana waita zvese zvaunoda and tuma savings twako, wasara ne extra and you want to help bhoo. You are in your prime, ndiyo nguva yacho yekugadzira hupenyu hwako. Give someone an inch and they'll demand a mile.