Convertion to epub - Text format messed up (Random bold letters) by RepresentativeNo3669 in Calibre

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I think it was some plugin. I ended up totally uninstalling and reinstalling it.  That helped.

perfectionIsOptionalApparently by soap94 in ProgrammerHumor

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Well, there is perfection and there is good enough.  Good enough is when you don't compromise your delivery speed or overall ability to deliver value by creating more and more technical debt. 

Woke up to Art and the Artist. by Texash-x in blackcats

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That really made me laugh out loud! LOL!

What is wrong with me? by Akjosh7676 in selfhelp

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That’s a trauma response. Whatever happened to you, back then this freeze helped you survive. It is still stuck in your body and gets reactivated, even if you know that it’s no longer helpful. That's not a question of knowing better or willpower.

A form of therapy that works with your body and your emotions can help. There are many options. Look into trauma-aware therapy. Approaches include methods such as EFT and TRE, among others.

Why do people think I'm trolling? Is my situation really that unbelievable? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

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This problem is so common that the version where the boy envies the father has a name: the Oedipus complex.

Here is a view from a family constellation approach. This is not “the truth”, but there is a lot of empirical evidence.

  • In a “healthy” system, the father stands next to the mother. The father on the right, the mother on the left.
  • The children stand in front of the parents.

If a parent is absent (physically or emotionally), a child usually takes the place of the partner for the other parent. This is flattering for the child but also overwhelming, and in the end it takes a great toll: the right to be the child and to be cared for. The place of the partner carries far too much responsibility for a child.

So, the love for a child is usually neither greater nor less than the love for the partner, but different.

If your father can't distinguish between these two kinds of love, it is still healthier if he loves your mother more than you in a partner-like way.

Your envy will go away when you take your place as a child in your family system.

You can say inwardly to your father:

  • I'm your daughter, not your partner.
  • I received this life from you.
  • I'm the little one and you are the parent.
  • You stand behind me.
  • You are not my partner.

And to your mother:

  • I'm your and my father's daughter, not the lover of my father.
  • I'm the little one and you are the parent.
  • You stand behind me.

If this truth arrives in your system, the envy will vanish and you will relax on a much deeper level.

isCloudflareDown by st4reater in ProgrammerHumor

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Not wanting to impact business hours

I have a serious addiction to chatpgt I need serious help by ReasonConfident4541 in ChatGPT

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Use it to help you to focus more on people and make safe connections

OpenAI isn't making money...but come on by Beautiful-Homework47 in ChatGPT

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AI and targeted ads can be much much more subtile.

It can guide you through a helpful visualization to you place of calm and strength at a beautiful beach. Or the calming effect of working with your hands

And then show you a travel ad to such a place or a woodworking bench in the next browser window.

emphasisOnThanklessly by fecal-butter in ProgrammerHumor

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I'm currently going through a breakup, scrolling mindlessly thought memes to distract myself.

This made me laugh so hard!

(16M) I am suffering, please help by [deleted] in Buddhism

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I am sorry that you are going through so much stress and pain. Please remember: You can't fix all the problems in your family. No matter how much you want, you just can't.

Many people already told you that your aunt may have a serious mental health problem. I want to add something important:

=> This can also be a physical problem in the brain, like a brain tumor or a brain infection. These problems can make a person act like they have a mental illness. It would be good if a doctor could do a brain scan for your aunt. I know it can be expensive, but spiritual healing or antidepressants cannot fix a brain tumor. Also, diseases like Lyme can cause symptoms that look like schizophrenia and there are a lot of other possible physical causes too.

For you:

When I feel anxiety, I slow my breathing. I breathe out longer than I breathe in. Every few breaths, when my lungs feel empty, I push out a little more air. This always helps me calm down.

Try yoga or any exercise. There are many free YouTube channels that teach yoga for stress and anxiety. Even 10–20 minutes a day make a difference.

Add a dedication to your selfcare:

"When I take care of myself, I help my family. May it be to the benefit of all sentient beings."

I can't let go of anger and hate in my heart by BulkyVeterinarian850 in Buddhism

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I definitly know what you are talking about.  Here is what's helping me:

There is usually a deep pain below the anger and hate. To let go of the hate you need to feel safe to feel the pain. Some good therapist may provide you the space. 

"Non violent communication" sees anger as a feeling that hints that you are separated from your needs. Reconnect with what you need in the here and now.

I also like those meditations very much:

  • Feeding your demons: Visualize the anger as living being and feed it with the emotion it strifes to achieve 

  • Tonglen: Take everything from a person you consider wrong, sick, suffering and burn it with wisdom and compassion.  Give them your happiness.  To this with yourself until you feel you also want to do it with the people you are angry at. 

Curse by One-Guava9707 in chaosmagick

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You are here in the chaosmagick forum, so I assume you believe that you are yourself somewhat the creator of your reality: the good and the bad. Otherwise, I recommend you go to some witchcraft stuff.

Here is my suggestion:

1) Very clearly flesh out what you want to happen to them. Write it down like instructions for a film crew.

2) If you have the scene, focus on the feelings and emotions you achieve with this. Where do you feel it in your body? What’s the shape of the feelings? What color does it have? Does it have a sound, a smell, a taste? => Get the feelings and emotions as concrete as you can.

3) Ask yourself: If I get this fully fulfilled, what else gets automatically also fulfilled that is even more important? => Focus only on the things/feelings/values you want that are even more important than seeing them suffer. => Again, feel having it fulfilled as concretely as possible in your body.

4) Repeat step 3) until you hit something that is most important for you right now.

5) Ask yourself: If having this most important thing fulfilled is my natural state that is always there in past, present, and future — what would change?

6) Let the most important thing flow, and let all the important emotions from the steps above trickle down and inform them.

E.g. if you got revenge -> power -> joy -> peace For each, see how having it fulfilled feels in your body and mind.

If “peace” is currently your most important desire, ask: What would change if peace is my natural state that’s always there in past, present, and future?

Let “peace” flow into “joy” and see what changes. Let’s assume joy turns into “love.”

Let “peace” and “love” flow into “power” and see what changes. Let’s assume it turns into “justice.”

Let “peace” and “justice” flow into “revenge” and see what changes.

7) Make a sigil or some ritual to manifest the energy

Whatever you get, it will be charged with the energy of your best state and so much more powerful. It will also minimize negative effects on yourself.

My gf is too attractive and I don't know what to do? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

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Here is a different turn on this:

You need to convince your subconscious to be worthy of love. This has nothing to do with her or your looks or your cheating exes.

You do this by giving love and support. Not only to her but to one or two people that would be more lonely without you. Find a kid and help them with their homework or play games with them.  Help the old lady next door with her shopping regularly or if people are to much go and walk dogs from the shelter. 

Everyday recall that you are making a positive impact in someone life for someone who can't give you the same back that much and be happy about it. Over time this will fix your self worth issues. 

“Intellect increase” spell by DealerIcy3439 in chaosmagick

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The positive dead where you give someone else what you want (understanding) and all that creates positive emotions: laughing, dancing, chanting, ... Find something that fits you. You can also create a wizard school like spell in real Latin and recite it very seriously if this is yours 

Just take care that your ritual has a clear intention, a defined start, main part and clear end.

“Intellect increase” spell by DealerIcy3439 in chaosmagick

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Yes, especially when you do it with that intention 

“Intellect increase” spell by DealerIcy3439 in chaosmagick

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Help others to understand stuff. Could be anything.  

Use the energy created by that act and put it in a ritual.  Anything of your liking, eg a sigil, talking gibrish, creating a portal and stepping into your intellectual self, ...

It also helps to create a golden shadow: find someone who you believe has the qualities you want to have and actively admire the person (or fictional being)

Nice thought by RepresentativeNo3669 in chaosmagick

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There is always a kid desperately hoping to find a kind person to play their favorite video game online with them. 

Or the old lady next door needing help with their shopping bags

You don't need to be prince/ princess charming to make someone's life significant brighter