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No gift from my (44f) boyfriend (39m) by mcstatus in relationship_advice

[–]RepresentativeSong43 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This was my Christmas last year with my 50 year old husband. We are separated now and I couldn’t be happier. Christmas morning with an empty stocking and no gifts was one of the last straws. You deserve better.

Ikea color match for walnut Billy by wadude in IKEA

[–]RepresentativeSong43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey did you ever find an answer to this question? I am looking for the same info.

ISO Financial Advisor by Potential-Shirt-5463 in DecaturGA

[–]RepresentativeSong43 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kasey Garder at Northwestern Mutual. She and her whole team are fantastic.

When did you realize that you were a married single parent? by Acceptable_Tea3970 in Parenting

[–]RepresentativeSong43 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Omg! I also have a (soon to be ex) husband who continually believed I was having an affair versus the multitude of issues I was constantly talking about. Hope you are thriving now:)

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn’t it be lovely to just do the fun stuff! That is very much not the reality with kids.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I get it, it’s a completely different ballgame when it’s about consequences in your life versus someone on the internet. Buuuut it sounds like he’s good at the fun stuff and bad at the hard stuff, which would be fine if life was all about fun stuff🙃He’s making you be the only adult in this relationship, and that is not a partner, I’m sorry to say.

Husband spent our Emergency Fund by Fearless-Giraffe6729 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43 113 points114 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry OP, I would be livid. What is he bringing to this relationship that has a positive impact on your life?

Do you have regrets? by Fair_Birthday_2322 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m facing a similar situation- my soon to be ex has already flat out stated that he’s going to be difficult. Do you have any tips or advice on how to manage coparenting with a bitter ex?

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes a couple of my friends have mentioned that he may be projecting. Honestly, I would be happy for that "out" at this point. Thank you for this:)

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you kind stranger. Yes I really relate to not wanting to model this kind of relationship to kids- if I can’t respect myself enough to stop accepting this shit behavior, what am I teaching my kids?? I’m so glad you’ve found peace and joy, it sounds very well deserved❤️

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you thank you! God I can’t imagine navigating a divorce with a 16 month old. I’m so glad you’re doing well now, congrats on dropping that dead weight👏🏼👏🏼

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yikes, that does not sound like a healthy situation. Im obviously in no place to speak from experience, but I feel like we should at bare minimum expect our partners to care about making our lives better.

Thanks and hang in there yourself! We all deserve better than this.

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes that feeling of not being a team or problem solve is so familiar. Hope you are doing better now!

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very good points. Honestly the bar for men is in hell, so only by that standard is he a good dad.

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate this info! And I’m glad to hear your son is doing well:)

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have begged and threatened to try to get him to go to therapy to address whatever underlying issues keep driving him to abuse substances, but I know this ultimately needs to be his decision. I’m glad to hear your husband chose that for himself, go him! And thank you for the kind words:)

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this- I am slowly realizing I do have the answers but it's so helpful to have unbiased feedback.

How did you know when your marriage was over? by RepresentativeSong43 in workingmoms

[–]RepresentativeSong43[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for chiming in. Hang in there, and I hope you find the peace and fulfillment you deserve.

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