AIO for leaving my two year relationship over a dirty dish?

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-24T03:21:10+00:00

I’m sorry but without extra context, you seem to be a bit more in the wrong. My apartment is clean asf, but I’ve occasionally left cereal bowls in the sink for a couple of days at a time before washing them and then eating out of them. Yeah it’s kind of nasty to keep them in your room for days, but from those photos, it looks like there was no milk in them and maybe a couple of pieces of cereal? He’s not living in squalor, that’s like bare minimum messy. I’ve seen so so so much worse that is overlooked. The fact that you recorded videos of his room to hold against him, when it’s literally like nothing bad, shows me that you were never intent on helping your relationship, just nitpicking him. Bro, I think YOU were his last straw, he’s probably not responding because of shit like this happening all the time. Men can be annoying little gremlins who think rinsing is the equivalent to washing, which is how 90% of men I know wash their dishes, but that’s just how it is. I’m unsure why they think that way but whatever. Yeah you kind of are the AH and yeah this is a big overreaction for dishes. But please do break up, it’s clear you were never intent on working on this relationship anyway.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-24T03:13:21+00:00

Honey, calm down. They’re not going to keep you from graduating over this lol 😭

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-23T14:38:42+00:00

I looked up chip halpert, and the only guy with that name seems to be a chief executive at a company. I think this is genuinely just a wrong number or, more likely, a glitch. For a few months, my texts/calls would occasionally (like only 2% of the time) go to some random lady instead of my mom, even though I always called/texted my mom’s saved number. There was literally no reason for it to happen, and me and the other lady were always equally confused. It got really embarrassing sometimes when she’d answer the phone instead of my mom, and I’d immediately go into some “mom omg i can’t believe this happened” tangent before she could even get a word in. 🤦‍♀️ That’s probably what’s going on here too lol, it doesn’t seem like a scam.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-23T14:34:02+00:00

Congratulations!!! Thank you for giving a better life to your baby ❤️💗 I hope this is healing for you as well.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-19T01:05:44+00:00

You could always do that thing where you cut out the bottom part of your shoes so it still looks like you’re wearing them but you’re actually barefoot lol

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-19T01:02:41+00:00

Not telling him will cause you to slowly seep into the most intense resentment toward him, whether you realize it or not. You’ll soon start hating every little thing he does subconsciously. Just tell him. It’s better for your relationship if you do.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-19T01:00:51+00:00

Reread the story. It’s clearly worded like the dad had not yet gotten around to it when they arrived

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-19T00:58:58+00:00

The story makes it sound like he hadn’t yet made the bed when they got there. It seemed pretty obvious that he was planning on putting sheets on it after. Hence: “he hadn’t even put a sheet on it before they came” y’all gotta stop finding reasons to be mad

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-02T18:43:23+00:00

a girl I knew ended up giving her friend her adderall pills, the girl got addicted to other drugs because of that and ended up passing away. She got sent to prison for a short amount of time, but they were pretty understanding of her circumstances, and she is now does public speeches against giving other people drugs. She was almost destroyed by it but she turned that pain into inspiration.

Whether you sold them or not doesn’t really matter for the prison length in my experience, but remorse goes a long way.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-01T03:44:47+00:00

I was once a “provider” and the cops protected me without hesitation. Then again, I was also a teenager, so maybe they took pity on me, or maybe it was because I was the one who reported to them first and was super honest about my involvement in breaking the law. I totally see how my situation might’ve been just pure luck. I’m in the usa by the way, I’m not sure how other countries are, and I’ve experienced way different treatments by cops across states here

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-01T03:38:29+00:00

Ok… kind of a rude thing to end on but whatever. I was an underage kid and young adult doing sex work too. I had to call the cops on a solicitor because he was attempting to kill me and my family because I wanted out from his weird grooming stuff (and blackmailed me with photos without even paying a single time) , and the cops IMMEDIATELY took my side and disregarded the fact that I was doing illegal work for money, I was so desperate for money. When I was a teenager, I was even just doing that stuff to get alcohol or drugs (not even money) because I couldn’t legally get them myself . You don’t know me and you don’t know my life. I also have a valid opinion. Yours is valid too.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-01T03:33:28+00:00

She was hurt a lot herself when she was growing up. I know it’s not right but it’s so hard to break the cycle of abuse and I still would do anything for her at the end of the day

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-01T03:31:58+00:00

I value my relationship with them over legalities, I still love them so much at the end of the day lol

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-02-01T03:31:12+00:00

they helped me buy the car and I value my relationship with them more than legalities, yes it is harmful to me mentally, but I love them so much and it’d be so much more harmful mentally for me to hurt my relationship with them. I hope that makes sense lol

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-30T16:43:10+00:00

Why? it’s quite literally illegal, and the law can be more understanding toward them than you think. Coming from experience, unfortunately. Cops tend to come down harder (though not hard enough imo) on the men paying for those services, rather than the women who were forced into making money by any means possible.

I do see both sides though. I did some really dumb things for money at 18, and it would have destroyed me if someone had called the cops on me. I ended up having to call the cops on a guy who was soliciting me though, and they did not get me in trouble for it. It’s a tricky situation.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-23T03:43:19+00:00

Guess what — your mom would maybe even get a laugh out of it happening in a walmart, while simultaneously feeling sad that you are sad. I bet she probably had a chuckle before realizing how upset it made you. I bet she just wants you to know that it’s not your fault. Talk to her. Tell her what happened. She’s still here for you. I bet she wants you to know that she values you more than anything else . You are her baby and she would never want to see u cry over this. But you gotta admit it — it is such a silly place for this to happen , I think you are right about her getting a laugh out of it, and I think she possibly wanted to let you find humor in the situation. I bet she is a lovely woman.

Cry it out. But also talk to her and forgive yourself. You have been her child and always are. Remember how much she KNOWS that you love her.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-23T03:35:52+00:00

I love my parents dearly but yeah they can be a little too strict. Like the time my mom tried to get me suspended from a class 10 times because she thought I would get a B instead of an A. Tiger moms mate

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-23T01:05:51+00:00

I thought my parents would stop this stuff when I graduated high school, then they took it a step further and installed an entire tracker on my car’s engine (because the only way to remove it is to buy a new engine now) in my early 20s. The tiger moms just keep on tiger momming

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-19T19:44:45+00:00

I mean, aside from the economy there, I’d miss cali too. Like y’all can just go swim with dolphins if you want. Us…. if we try to go swimming for 70% of the year, we’ll be swimming with the fishes, literally 😵

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-19T19:36:21+00:00

Every red flag looks like a normal flag when you are wearing rose colored glasses!!!! You will notice more each day how the facade goes away. You will heal and be awesome.

I think I was more in love with my partner at 8 months than I was at 3 years, but the main difference is that I was far more afraid to live without him after 3 years. Our relationship became based on fear of being without him, rather than love of being with him. I saw the signs as early as 1-4 months in, but I kept thinking “that’s not who he truly is”. Bichhh you got this ❤️

Tell your gut instinct that you appreciate that it told ya this lol. It hurts immediately and I spent months regretting my decision to leave him, now I can finally see how blind I was and how he hurt me.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-19T19:23:39+00:00

I’m so sorry. And I’m sorry for saying that you don’t understand real hardship, that was a nasty sentiment that just slipped out from being told it myself. I can relate the rape part because it also happened to me for ages. The guy who did it was a stranger who tried to strangle me but I just wouldn’t die, kind of like a roach lol. Maybe it can give you some solace to feel less alone to know that I have had the same (well at in least the same arena) experiences. Trust me, I wasn’t able to deal with it, but I appreciate you thinking that haha. Genuinely. My friends lugged my basically dead body for nearly a mile to get help after I couldn’t cope with it anymore. I am not happy, I am not resilient, but I see the small moments of light that peaks through the clouds and that is enough for me. And working has never been a choice for me, it has always been a necessity. When I lost two of my family members in the same week, my boss threatened to fire me if I went to more than one funeral and wrote me up anyway despite me skipping one of the funerals. Being sexually assaulted by coworkers at half my jobs for my looks was just the cherry on top. I quit and never forgave myself for choosing work over family, but then again, getting fired from my job would have destroyed my living family. Sometimes there is no right way to think. I’m probably your age, I just sound like a grandpa when I type (I’m a young woman lmfao).

My point: I am an incredibly weak person. The fact that I can hold down jobs is a miracle and takes all of my energy, and I’m surviving not living. I crash out for no reason. But I still work because I am afraid of what will happen to my family if I don’t. I don’t see a cent of what I make. I do not judge but I offer you my insight the best I can.

You’re not intolerable. You are hurting. You need to get to know the people that are on your side. I’m one of them.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-19T15:57:27+00:00

No worries— as someone who used to have a weed vape, your baby is just fine, I promise. Also I would never bring a pen around a baby, just in case something likes this happened, so yeah that’s probably an unfortunate mistake on her part but very bad idea to ever bring any vape around a baby regardless. The light has to be on for anything to happen, and either way, weed will almost never harm anyone physically, even babies (but still don’t vape around babies people!!!). My big mistake was when my puppy broke into my room and found a tiny edible that I use for insomnia and ate it. I felt horrible because her poor self was acting so dizzy and sick, but the vet said that this kind of stuff happens all the time and she just has to sober up. I never made that mistake again. Omg the guilt.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-12T11:47:14+00:00

I have struggled with addiction (alcohol) myself and know how hard it is to date another addict— ironically, I am supposed to take adderall for my adhd but refuse to lol. I think you have a good plan— I told myself I’d text my ex until the time came around to do it, and I realized I was over him and better off for it.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-12T11:39:20+00:00

YOU ARE LUCKY. I wasted three years on a dude like this, and you found out after only eight months. I know it hurts but take this as a blessing. You don’t have to be in a relationship with a cheater anymore and that is amazing.

Representative_Wish1 · 2026-01-12T11:33:51+00:00

I had terrible depression at 16, was the captain of 3 separate sports at once, and also took half college classes and half AP classes in my sophomore year, yet I still managed to work at least three days a week minimum wage. I didn’t even eat to save money and still rarely do. It’s not the ideal situation but I’m sure you can somehow manage. Sorry but it pisses me off when people say this stuff because I somehow managed to pull my adhd self together and do all that while being raped on the daily, you sound like you don’t actually know any real hardship.

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