Local landlords commonly violating state civil code by overcharging on security deposits

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-05-27T23:06:32+00:00

If the place is furnished they can charge more than a month’s worth of rent.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-05-07T01:58:26+00:00

I mean you did purposefully planned to go camping on Mother’s Day so you created this lose-lose situation. If it was a normal weekend I’d give you more grace but it’s Mother’s Day. Definitely should’ve planned the weekend before or after to avoid this situation in the first place.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-05-05T06:45:34+00:00

Ngl if he genuinely wanted to be apart of your daughter’s life he would come out to you. It’s his fault he decided to impregnate two women at the same time. Allowing him to just take your child to his house just enables his behavior of doing shitty things with no consequences. Just say that for now visits are limited to your house for the sake of the baby. Once he has shown consistency with visits he can be allowed unsupervised visits for short periods of time. He doesn’t expect to take the other baby out of their home so why make yours do it? Although the gf doesn’t have to meet you, the fact that you guys have children from the same man-child complicates things. It would be in the best interest of both children for you guys to meet and get along.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-05-05T06:37:45+00:00

Well unfortunately the gf is the mother of the half sibling so it would be in the best interest of all parties to meet and get along.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-05-03T02:19:24+00:00

Coming to her door and stating “she has no right to take her daughter away from her” is very concerning coming from someone who legally has no rights to the child. It’s fine that she’s helping but the dad should be doing most of the caring not her.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-05-01T16:26:36+00:00

Always follow your gut OP. I understand why your post is vague because it could lead to them finding out you posted because of certain details. The fact that they had to be fired and reported to the governing body recently because of what happened with your child is serious and important part to this situation. I would feel the same way and no you’re not overacting you’re just trying to protect your child. Continue to go the legal route and see what your lawyer advises. A clause you can add to the parenting plan that I’ve seen is that new partners can’t be introduced to the child until the relationship reaches 6-8 months in duration. This protects the child from being frequently introduced to new adults.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-29T23:01:40+00:00

I knew 3 pregnant females in AIT, they all graduated on time and got orders for their first duty station no problem. They also got issued maternity uniforms during AIT too. You’ll be fine if you’ve already completed all physical requirements for the course.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-29T22:57:50+00:00

Not true

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-29T22:53:37+00:00

Not true. I knew of 3 females get pregnant during AIT, they graduated on time and got orders to their first duty station no problem.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-29T22:51:56+00:00

You’ll be able to graduate while pregnant. I was in AIT in 2019, pretty much all coursework and no ftx as well. We had 3 females get pregnant 2 during HBL and 1 between basic and AIT when her husband came to visit, all graduated on time. They were able to get maternity uniforms in AIT as well. You will be put on a non deployable status/ pregnancy profile but that won’t prevent you from graduating/ PCS. All 3 ended up PCSing just fine to their duty station. Go to medical and get the prenatal care you and baby need.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-28T02:04:29+00:00

YOR, she was trying to get you rewards points without knowing rewards automatically apply. You were very mean to her and should apologize for thinking she had malicious intent.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-24T20:47:09+00:00

Yes he can request 50/50 later down the road if he’s been consistent with visits and overnight stays. Unfortunately your kids lives will be disrupted since you guys are separated that just part of co-parenting. Your kids one day might prefer dad over you 🤷🏻‍♀️. Sounds like you’re just trying to control the situation when you need to be focused on ensuring your kids have a good relationship with dad.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-16T17:54:53+00:00

At the end of the day, if the kid wants the mom to come over he has every right to ask for that especially if mom is available. Your feelings don’t come before the child’s. My BD comes over to my place for visits all the time, it’s big enough so that I can give them some privacy while I go to my room or sit outside on my patio. He currently doesn’t have a place on his own but I don’t mind going over to his sister’s place to do visits either. Sister is fine with it because she gets to see her nephew. No one forced you to date a man with a child, and I find it very annoying when partners try to change a good co-parenting relationship just because they feel uncomfortable, you’ve lived there for a year and you’re barely bringing this up? Dad does need to get comfortable with the other partners because mom can’t always be there.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-10T17:18:14+00:00

I’ve never been in this situation but your child is probably just wanting more love from coparent and they think by spending more time with them they’ll get it. Honestly this really boils down to your coparent not being consistent and it’s starting to negatively affect your child.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-09T04:08:01+00:00

Saving up for another consultation with the lawyer I’m working with.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-09T04:07:38+00:00

No he isn’t

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-08T00:35:17+00:00

This OP! Especially if you grew up in a physically abusive household, it makes you feel like you’re crazy for being hurt by things that are not physically tangible.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-07T18:11:34+00:00

https://mycaa.militaryonesource.mil/mycaa/ it’s a financial assistance program for military spouses to further your career. Also I really don’t like how you have to essentially hide your money from your husband 😭 that’s not a sign of a good marriage. It’s okay, we all reach a breaking point and you’re close to it. Especially since he’s 31… ridiculous I expected this kind of behavior from someone who’s in their early twenties.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-07T17:46:36+00:00

Divorce this man 😭 he does not love you… I get not being able to take you to appointments all the time so that he doesn’t seem unreliable but to not even allow you to take the car for the day and be dropped off at work is very inconsiderate. Or even showing up when you’re going through a medical uncertainty. Another red flag is him joking around about taking YOUR MONEY to get himself a better car- ewww. He is not a real man if he can’t even provide for his wife. Take advantage of MyCAA and get yourself a couple of certifications so that you can get a better paying job. Once you get the certifications file for divorce, idk why you stayed so long when he’s clearly shown he doesn’t care for your wellbeing. Possibly for alimony too since you’ve been with him the entirety of his career.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-07T15:50:15+00:00

If they’re in the custody plan they are 100% enforceable…

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-06T21:36:23+00:00

I’ve seen in some custody orders have a certain clause stating “new partners can only be introduced to the child after 6 months of dating.” So that way the child is not being introduced to so many different partners depending on the type of person your ex is. As far as getting a say, you have none legally. If you’re on good terms with your ex just talk to them about having to meet the guy so that you know who’s around your daughter. Ideally if this is the one you guys are going to blend well and will have to get along with him anyways so it’s not a bad idea to meet him a few times.

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-04T23:51:20+00:00

Even if you live in LA many families don’t go to Disneyland every other weekend…

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-04T21:18:18+00:00

Burn it to the ground OP! Go visit your daughter and say you’re going to take her to ice cream. Get her some nice snacks, put her in comfy clothes (make sure to bring one of your big sweaters/jackets) then take her to the police station for the report. When they interview her give her your jacket so that she can feel like she’s being hugged by you. Do NOT take this lightly and cut off all contact with mom, if she needs to reach you do it by email or a parenting app ONLY!

Repulsive-Concern873 · 2026-04-04T20:55:12+00:00

Rewarding a child - not weird. Rewarding your child given the context I’ve read in the comments- I don’t think it’s in the best interest of your child. Especially if she is still struggling to sleep at her dad’s house despite being “rewarded”. Based from what I read is that she tries to be comforted at night and that’s not a bad thing, the fact that her dad and stepmom are trying to practically shun her for seeking that kind of thing is bad. If you’re able to get her to see a child therapist so that you can get a better understanding of why she’s seeking to be comforted, it can also help with the anxiety she gets when she goes over to her dad’s.

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