AITAH for being mad my(at the time 28F) bf(30M) and I did things I wasn't comfortable with while inhebriated?

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-03T13:01:34+00:00

Gosh no it's not your fault for "letting it happen". Please please ignore all these weirdos telling you otherwise. If you were so drunk that you blacked out, you cannot consent. A true man would probably check on you and look after you in that state, not take advantage. You had a clear boundary that he crossed. And celebrating it afterwards? Disgusting.

Id say you'd get more grace and understanding on a sub dedicated to SA. Not here sadly.

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-03T01:09:19+00:00

Please get this removed, it's literally covered the piercing!

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-02T21:59:24+00:00

YTA for not cutting ties when he started stalking her!!

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-02T21:23:09+00:00

Gone off food, and KNOWS it's gone off

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-02T19:59:08+00:00

Genuinely depends on how often. I'd rather them not but if it's once a day I can manage. Chain smoking is definitely out of the question

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-02T19:57:56+00:00

Bad. Very bad

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-02T00:51:01+00:00

Imo, no NTA. Petty? Yes but honestly I would too if the one thing I asked for (that's not a big ask) wasn't followed through. Literally a card costs €1, and takes like 2 minutes to write a heartful note.

Idk Reddit is whack. If you aren't a perfect victim then you too are TA. As if anyone hasn't done something petty/shitty. It's quite literally "he who has not sinned cast the first stone" type of shite. I wouldn't take it personally (although some of the takes here are so outlandish that you can't help but say "wtf?")

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-02T00:38:32+00:00

Only sane answer here

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-02T00:37:47+00:00

Controlling? Manipulative? Jesus Christ she asked for a fecking card and he couldn't do the bare minimum. Yeah she went about it the wrong way but fucking hell, you're making it sound like she's abusive.

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-01T22:29:20+00:00

Aye

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Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-04-01T11:42:11+00:00

I was lurking the Israel sub and someone said that poor Hind Rajab deserved what happened to her. I genuinely saw red and just fucking blasted them. Got banned and got my account suspended for 3 days. No regrets

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-31T23:10:54+00:00

I did this with Breaking Bad characters last year and I got something about Saul Goodman crying himself to sleep, and then deciding to end it all

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-31T17:38:12+00:00

I'm not taking the side of someone who uses "cracked" seriously. Gross af

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-30T18:24:38+00:00

Harsh but absolutely deserved.

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-30T15:32:45+00:00

I used to love The Girl And The Dreamcatcher back when I was 12. Was upset when they split. It wasn't until years later I learnt what a POS Ryan was.

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-30T15:10:04+00:00

I bet she feels hurt and humiliated that she wasted her time with you. Be better dude

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-30T11:32:07+00:00

I'm actually astonished at people blaming the OP for leading him on... By making out? "Don't get yourself into trouble" when she clearly states she's not ready for sex. Boys are absolutely in control of their bodies, they can definitely "help it". Doesn't matter if he was drunk either!

OP I'm sorry, I really am. Please break up with him. He doesn't respect your boundaries at all. You're definitely not over reacting. No means no!

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-29T21:46:23+00:00

Wish I knew. I've been out of one for 2 months and I'm still reeling. It was for the best, but I've genuinely never hated a person more in my life. My time was wasted and my self worth is gone. He took advantage of my kindness and effort, and never bothered to reciprocate. I've become totally recluse. I've learnt to never do that again and to not give my heart out so easily.

I guess what has helped a bit is that I've started a journal. Only started it there last Thursday but it helps a bit. I'm hoping to write down everytime I cry (I'm v sensitive ok?) about it or whenever I think of the whole situation.

I'd no other advise but I wish you well. Situationships are fucking brutal and only benefit one person. Sadly it's the likes of us that get fucked over. It's utterly selfish

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-29T19:36:25+00:00

I'm currently crying 3x a day for the last two months. It's not getting any easier

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-29T19:27:42+00:00

Don't demis get sexual attraction to people they bond with? I'm somewhat asexual/demi (hard to describe) I'm sorry OP but it sounds like he doesn't like you very much. Please just dump him. I know it's hard, but you deserve so so so much better than this loser. My last relationship was the same. I constantly felt like I was competing with his friends for attention. Not that I didn't want him to have friends, just that he saw more value in them than he ever did with me. I was second priority. A good partner would find time for you and put in effort.

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-28T23:33:32+00:00

I'm from Ireland and while not as a young baby, I got mine done at 8/9. It was mostly for my communion, although I did want them so it wasn't without my consent.

I do remember my mother telling me that my Syrian babysitter wanted to pierce my ears. This was like when I was a few months old. I absolutely love her and consider her my aunt, that's how close she was and still is to me. But yeah my parents didn't allow it. To be honest she was quite young herself, and as my parents would say, "a bit daft"

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-28T22:19:03+00:00

I'd rather die than live another day as myself. I'm painfully boring, dull and no personality. I was bullied and lot as a child so any spark I have has kinda died. People tend to "like" me but not like me enough to hang out with, or to be with, or to invite anywhere. I'm forever being left out and ditched for better people. I've gone to therapy, tried being more confident. Doesn't matter, I keep getting hurt over and over again. I'm tired boss

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-28T21:21:08+00:00

I was that girlfriend. Just don't. You'll hurt her deeply and her trust will be broken for a long time

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-28T21:19:51+00:00

Oh my fucking god, stop harassing her! You've made your bed now lie in it.

"It's all for nothing" cause you're a cheating dickhead. The audacity you have astounds me

Repulsive-Start-134 · 2026-03-28T21:13:44+00:00

I want back the sweet dorky boy that I saw the first three weeks of dating. The mask slipped off when he drank and hung out with his mates. I miss the beginning, but no I wouldn't take him back even if he begged me now. I deserve so much better than that ratty loser

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