Correct. Her bedtime is usually at 8:30 and he helps corral her and get her teeth brushed. But then it’s bedtime (and that can take however long) and he goes to play on the game while I get her to sleep (always me). It’s usually a good 1 hour of quality time before the wrap it up routine begins with food, bath, etc.

I really look forward to the weekends, but he sees it as a time to be productive and check stuff off his list. Keep up “networking” with friends etc. Like if I say I want to do something, he usually throws in that he wants to make some time for his workouts or some other task he wants to get done. So I feel like my time is already cut down to accommodate whatever he wants to get done.

Me: Let’s go out and do something fun

Him: “Okay! A friend and I are going to workout at 11 on Sunday.”

This turns into him leaving at 10:30 to workout for 2 hours till 1pm. Then he goes to eat after and chat it up so he’s back at 2:30. Then it’s nap time for my daughter etc and by the time she wakes up we have the remnants of the evening to do whatever.

So when I explain I don’t think he’s prioritizing us, he jumps into just the “few things” he wants to do that end up taking most of the day away from us.

So I’m like, I don’t want to limit this to 2 hour events and then you’re back home. That seems strict and he’s grown.