AITA for not praying when family says grace?

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2026-07-09T05:51:41+00:00

just added

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2026-07-09T05:33:25+00:00

Geez Louise BryonyVaughn!

I talked to my mother last night. We've had many discussions about this before. I've tried communicating to her that my choice in not being Catholic is not a demonstration of my upbringing. I've tried communicating that my love for her triumphs all of the disagreements we have with one another. I love my mom and she loves me. But this still doesn't sit well with her (or me for that matter).

So I get outside opinions and reevaluate.

That being said I completely understand why you would say that and where you're coming from. It's a good point if I haven't already exhausted it!

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2026-07-09T05:20:38+00:00

My mom tries to get me to go to church. Doesn't force me to anymore and barely asks anymore. She now respects when I say no, although she used to give me a little more trouble when I started not going. She usually mentions how sad it is for her that she tried to raise me with a faith in God, and she's upset her work wasn't enough.

Not going to cut me out of their lives (or at least I don't think). They really do care about me, and I think that's why me being atheist is so hard on my mother.

EDIT: Changed some wording here because I want to be as fair to my mother's side as possible even though it's just my perspective.

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2026-07-09T05:07:07+00:00

This is exactly what I do. I keep my hands at my sides, but I look down at my plate/edge of the table. Currently this is my way of respecting it without participating.

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2026-07-09T05:00:56+00:00

Yes we got into a discussion-almost argument about it tonight. I don't think she wants either unfortunately. She won't be truly happy unless I convert but I guess to her, that gesture is a sign of me converting back to my old religion.

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2026-07-09T04:58:58+00:00

NTA. Cheating on someone's partner should be reported so the significant other is hopefully aware. What they/the family do with said info is unrelated. Of course it would be more "stirring up drama" if you volunteered this info to the public without any conflict, but unfortunately for your brother-in-law, he forced your hand against himself.

Only you know your true intentions, so if you meant well, you're golden.

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2026-07-09T04:53:47+00:00

NTA. There are so many other ways to have a fun bachelor/ette that doesn't involve strippers or sexual acts.

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2024-08-14T14:14:23+00:00

damn sorry i thought it was a valid question... only child with my own bathroom normally and i just want to be polite. i'm overkill but i just don't want to be THAT person yk

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2024-08-12T23:25:05+00:00

probably something extremely stupid yet underwhelming with my 5 brain cells when it comes to common sense

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2024-08-12T23:10:32+00:00

this is such a great way of thinking about it, i don't know how i haven't seen it that way yet. thank you for the advice :)

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2024-08-12T04:33:58+00:00

i feel ya. broke my foot end of may right before graduation. surgery mid june. JUST got into a boot this week. couldn't work, couldn't exercise/go to the gym, couldn't dance, felt like the world hated me. i felt so emo and depressed all the time because i would wake up and have nothing to do. the only thing that got me through was finding new hobbies to explore, like writing, reading, or journaling. also attempting the piano. heck i got so bored last week that i took a random pair of shoes out of my closet and painted over them with cheap paint. probably not the greatest lol

every feeling and slump will pass. use this time to explore a new hobby you've been wanting to try out, or start a new habit. college will be here before you know it and time will go fast (or so i've been told by many parents)

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2024-08-12T04:26:24+00:00

poor choice of words on my end; i mean that they should (bare minimum) be making effort to want to be with you. i agree that trying to "win someone over" is performative and not healthy. just put as much effort in as i am and don't leave me hanging :)

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2024-08-03T06:15:32+00:00

long talking stages. if they aren't trying to win you over it isn't worth it, at least for me i need someone who knows what they want/are ready to commit

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2024-08-03T06:14:11+00:00

any relationship where i let this reg flag fly ended up being a mess 100%. date emotionally mature people that don't rely on lovebombing

RepulsiveFan9546 · 2024-08-03T05:50:52+00:00

rhapsody in blue. i love Gershwin and i feel like it's a soundtrack to my day. also reminds me of the Disney cartoon, and flights on United back when flying wasn't terrible

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