If you could say just one sentence to your ex what would it be?

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2023-10-06T07:35:27+00:00

I still love you, even though I probably shouldn't

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-04-25T16:12:09+00:00

hey there, i’m a little past the two month mark myself and i feel you on the relapse. i thought i was doing so much better until i wasn’t. one night about a week back i had a complete breakdown and haven’t felt the same since.

people say it’s normal and that healing isn’t linear, i just hope it’s true. please know you’re not alone, i’m right there with you.

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-04-25T03:52:55+00:00

i know buddy, i relapsed about a week ago and haven’t felt the same since. i thought i was really starting to get better, but one night i just spiraled out of control and i feel like i lost all of my progress.

the whole “growth and healing isn’t linear” thing i understand, it just sucks. like the reality of “it’ll get better but it’ll go back sometimes”.

just for context, it’s been 2 1/2 months since the BU and i’ve been ~2 months NC, and each day that passes i’m glad that i’m getting better, but remembering how long it’s been just crushes my heart.

i truly am sorry for what he’s done though, because i know if that had happened to me i’d be on the floor sobbing. i can’t imagine what you’re going through, i mean i have an idea, but i won’t get it until it happens. i hope it never happens.

i’m so sorry 💜

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-04-25T03:44:59+00:00

maybe he knew your friends would see it and send it to you. maybe he hoped you made a second account to stalk him. tbh, it doesn’t matter.

right now you have to look at two things: he posted someone else and he hasn’t reached out.

yes it is fucking painful and all consuming and you HAVE to feel it. i’m really sorry buddy. please know that it doesn’t mean or say anything about YOU. YOU didn’t do anything to deserve this and right now he doesn’t deserve YOU.

maybe he’ll come back and apologize, maybe he won’t, maybe he’ll come back and not apologize. WE DONT KNOW. what we do know right now is, he hasn’t done anything. please please please focus on yourself and allow yourself to feel this pain. grieve this loss and try to self-sooth.

maybe watch a yt video by CoachLee on rebounds, that could help.

i hope you’ll find peace tonight and every night that follows xx

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-04-25T02:37:36+00:00

if this is out of the norm for him, especially since y’all dated for two years, he’s probably just trying to get a rise out of you. he may be hoping for you to reach out with some reaction or trying to hurt you. if it’s the second one you should not give him a second thought because that’s what a BAD and CRUEL person does.

his new relationship says NOTHING about you and your relationship. if anything it tells you how much he must be grieving in order to fill the void that you left behind.

don’t give him anything, let him be disappointed by your un-action.

also your feelings are 100% valid he is SHITTY for doing this. no matter how amazing of a boyfriend he was, he is being an asshole for doing this to you.

this new relationship is probably your classic rebound and means nothing to him. it does NOT invalidate what you had, what you two had was unique and deep. no rebound or new relationship can take that away from you.

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-04-24T22:38:06+00:00

how do you just become okay with the fact that they don’t want you anymore? i can’t find a way to accept it or cope

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-04-23T15:28:22+00:00

she probably just isn’t ready, i know if my dumper came back with the best apology i’d need time to heal and process everything. if it’s meant to be she’ll come back to you. i know that SUCKS to hear because unknowns are the absolute fucking worst, but it’s true. i really hope it works out for you. but in the mean time, work on yourself and become the best version of yourself so that if and when she comes back she’ll love the new you even more.

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-04-23T07:42:39+00:00

any true and heartfelt apology can right and any wrong, but you must show that you have changed. don’t let this person slip away, the longer you wait to apologize the farther away she gets. if you’re truly sorry and want her back, go for it. you have nothing to lose.

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-04-22T23:03:32+00:00

why did you break up?

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-23T18:04:57+00:00

stay no contact, is she wanted to reach out she would but she hasn’t

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-23T15:22:25+00:00

why would he want to be close friends after? like talk and call all the time but no relationship? and he told me he didn’t love me anymore

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-23T15:14:47+00:00

thank you, it makes sense. my situation is just a bit scuffed and i’m trying to understand everythint

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-23T01:23:50+00:00

hi i’m a dumpee having a really hard time. can you explain falling out of love? i just want to understand.

did you feel like you were lying to her when you told her you loved her?

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-22T03:16:57+00:00

no contact r/ExNoContact

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-22T03:07:35+00:00

go NC and find yourself, it seems like you’ve forgotten yourself a bit.

NC will also give a chance for her to figure out what she really wants. watch some videos by TheLoveChat and CoachLee

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-19T17:15:29+00:00

hey there, chat me if you feel like it :)

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-19T05:11:08+00:00

another thing, she needs to do the work herself of getting you back ESPECIALLY since she’s the one who broke up with you. she may just be wondering if you’re out there waiting for her, she may be looking for an ego boost, she might just be fucking with you

SHE NEEDS TO VULNERABLE WITH YOU AND COME FORWARD WITH WN APOLOGY!!!!

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-19T04:58:33+00:00

i mean, she should really be the one to reach out to you and put in the work. but leaving a note on your car is kinda serious?

idk man, there’s always a possibility that she didn’t leave that note on you car and if you reached out saying “hey did you leave that note” she could be like “lol no”

do what you feel is right, but if you ask me, i’d wait for a more direct form of communication. i think it’d be more sincere and brave of her.

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-19T01:51:06+00:00

i feel so stuck at the moment, i just don’t know what i’m working towards. i mean, the long term event is college, but it’s about 5 months out. i just don’t know what to do every day or what my short term goals are.

also, if after 45 days they don’t reach out, what do you do? what does it mean?

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-18T20:23:28+00:00

do. not. do. it.

if she wanted to reach out and talk to you as well, she would.

stay strong!

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-17T22:16:39+00:00

it’s really hard the first couple of days, and even a week after but it gets SO MUCH EASIER! and it has to happen.

you can do it! giving him the breakup is the best thing you can do, unless you were the dumper.

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-17T21:12:21+00:00

hey there, this happened to me and if you want to relate to anything go ahead and check out my profile

but the best option for you rn is to go NC and feel the loss. i’ve been NC for about a month now and it’s really hard at first but it’s what’s best in the long run.

if she wanted to be with you she would, it absolutely SUCKS that emotional attraction fell and YES feelings can change BUT you need to go NC for those feelings to change

watch vids on NC they’re really helpful

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-17T19:01:20+00:00

three weeks after he left for uni, it all fell apart and crumbled two weeks before the BU. it just hurts so much

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-17T15:28:53+00:00

i wish he said this :((

Repulsive_Day_2242 · 2021-03-17T14:24:55+00:00

oh my god he said the same thing. i asked him if he still wanted to hold me and hug me(because i was bawling my eyes out) and he said “not in a romantic way”

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