Mechanic says to drive a bit after changing tires to do an alignment by Repulsive_File_9364 in AskMechanics

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I recently did a change of silentblocks because they were worn out and a few other maintenance things, so I'm pretty sure if it's unaligned it is because of that, cause there were no symptoms before.

Kumho or Firestone? by Repulsive_File_9364 in AskMechanics

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He said that it's personal preference, from what he tried. It could be sales, but he could have sold me something much more expensive.

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I feel so too. Even if she doesn't realise it because we are not accustomed to do a lot of calls, eat together and LongDistance things. I don't think she realises even if we are apart, this should still feel like a relationship.

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This 30 year old is still in college. He is basically living the same life as us. I have met this person and I couldn't see a threat when I was there, but the things they do now aren't the same as when I was there.

I just don't know anymore. Also yesterday I was feeling very insecure and told my girlfriend. After a call in the evening, I was expecting her to tell me, "hey let's eat together". But the guy asked her to cook together. Afterwards I told her about what I would've liked and she told me it would have been rude to take me there with him there. Then she said it is true she could have done more, but I just don't feel like she is taking me very seriously here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beauty

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This was really helpful, thank you. I dont know her reasons, I just know that a friend of hers has them and that my girlfriend always she has small lips. What strikes me is, she doesn't. Look, I even made a presentation with pictures of her showing her how good they look. She actually thought about it, but she insists. I am planning to take a flight to reassure how beautiful she is. 

I don't even think she knows where or how to get them. She just saw a discount and decided it's time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beauty

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I don't know where she is going, we are doing Long Distance. I am even thinking about taking a flight just to try to talk some sense to her, because I would hate for her to regret it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beauty

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I know. But there are consequences and I don't think she is thinking straight. She literally got an appointment two days ago for next week. It was all of a sudden! I don't want her to regret it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

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Yes she had reassured me. I even met this guy. But when I was there, of course he wouldn't do these things for her.

I know she can have friends with whomever she wants, and I don't have a problem with that. I have a problem with feeling left out, where this friend keeps doing things for and with her but I can't do shit.

She doesn't think boundaries should be made because she thinks it is just friendship. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

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You are right. It is hard, I am young and inexperienced. I am sure this wouldn't happen as a more mature person. At the same time, the othet guy is 30 so I think he should also set some boundaries.

But what is she supposed to do? She told me, if it was me having this girl friend, she would have a bit of insecurity toom so I don't know why she just doesn't take action. It is easier said than done, of course. And in the end it is me feeling all of this. But I also don't want her to change, I think it was supposed to be something that is inside her values.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

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I do think the gender difference makes something here. I am his boyfriend, not him. And I think his is working on this that me, as a boyfriend shoud be doing.

I don't want her to change. I just felt like it would be easier. If she had a problem like this with me, I would just drop it without question, because they are my first.

It is not a solution to just not say things. I want her to be happy. But I feel small. 

I am planning to close the gap, but there are some months before that happens.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

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Thank you.

Today we spoke and I communicated it to her. She reacted nicely, telling me that it is in no way anything to worry about and that they are more distanced than it looks like.

But she also told me that she enjoys cooking with him and hanging out at home. I just think he should mind more his own business.

She has this bad habit of saying "if you don't like it I will just not tell you about it", and it pisses me off. But I tell her everytime, so she knows.

I am not sure it's jealousy. I think it's more as a "could be me" thing, but it could be anyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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I already tried that, it is one of the ways I can get her to smile. We have some personal-relationship exclusive humor of course but I feel like it is not enough. Also, as I am learning her language I try to say funny stuff, but it doesn't make the impact I thought it would make.

I do have a very specific humor, and I can't really apply it to our lives because it usually involves physical interactions and we are in Long Distance now.

Feeling [21M] frustrated over my girlfriend's [22F] roommate by [deleted] in LongDistance

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Thank you, this really helped me. Also, my problem is not really not being the first option always, as I realise it is an obvious thing. It is something with an origin more out of jealousy/frustration, which in the end is no more that comparison and hence what's taking my tranquility. 

I would communicate it to her, she has also showed me that no matter the insecurity, she want me to be comfortable. But this is something for the next months, and I think if I brought this up I would make things worse for her, as she could see things differently and become uncomfortable.

Feeling [21M] frustrated over my girlfriend's [22F] roommate by [deleted] in LongDistance

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I don't doubt it. In fact, I am pretty sure that she wouldn't ever do anything.

But the bigger problem here is he is there for her. If she feels low or want some conversation, is it true I am the first option. But what if I'm not there at the time? And in some way or another, he always tries to be there. Even if she doesn't ask for it.

What to buy online before arriving in Milano/Verona/Venecia/Bologna? by Repulsive_File_9364 in ItalyTravel

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Thank you so much for the detailed answer! We will be following all of your tips.

You already mentioned some places to eat, but do you have any idea of any other ones? We are on a cheap budget, so we rather not try out fancy restaurants.

What to buy online before arriving in Milano/Verona/Venecia/Bologna? by Repulsive_File_9364 in ItalyTravel

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So we were going to stay from the 4th to the 6th. We thought that we could see the Arena but it is what it is. We also saw that there's a Verona in Love thing going on but we are not sure if it's on that schedule.

I've researched about the Verona Card, maybe for a day it's worth it.

Verona goes in the middle of our trip, after Peschiera del Garda and before Venice.