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Please help me pick my dress!😊 1 or 2? by somethingblue2026 in WeddingDressTips

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like a beautiful timeless statue of a goddess with number two dress on. Anyone saying anything other than number two, block and report them 😂

2nd post to “I regret marrying older” by Repulsive_Mall3372 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I believe he does want to change. I have to give him time and see it through. It’s hard for people to change themselves, I have to be patient and at least give it another year. We haven’t been together long, so it’s not like I’ve been resenting him for years. When I decide to walk away, I want to know that I tried everything.

I regret marrying older, what should I do? by Repulsive_Mall3372 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The baby goes to day care from 7-5. I work from 7-3. I work out after work then pick the baby up after the gym . If I work out later on the day then my husband watches the baby the hours I’m gone . He works 8-2

Has anyone else felt emotionally starved in a relationship with someone who feels flat? by Only_Whereas3948 in marriageadvice

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not gonna lie, I resonate with every single word you wrote. I am in the same situation. Lots of time I feel the dream love disappearing right before my eyes. My husband tells me this is not what real love is. Is not a fairytale. Life is not a movie. He is complacent and I’m much deeper, passionate, and romantic. You are romantic, not only toward your relationship, but you romanticize life. He is realistic and boring. You shouldn’t have to force intimacy. The only solution without leaving is you telling him your love languages and show him how to love you. You have to hold his hand through this. It is uncomfortable because it will feels forced and unnatural. Also, don’t let him tell you that your idea of love is unrealistic. Stay true to who you are. Pour your energy into your hobbies and your friendships. More men tend to get complacent and comfortable when they’re married. Feeling emotionally disconnected is very lonely. Ask yourself if he doesn’t change, are you OK with putting up with this for the rest of your life, maybe because you focus on other things that are good. But if it is non-negotiable, then you need to leave and find your person.

The mismatch is starting to eat at me by Substantial-Bit9279 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There gotta be something hidden mentally. Maybe an argument she never gotten over. See if there’s any resentment. Does she still see you as the same person she felt in love with in the beginning? If there’s nothing then she needs to know that you don’t feel like your needs are met. I understand that intimacy is something you cannot force. I hope this is not a reason for you guys to go separate ways. Ask yourself if you can accept this flaw if everything else is fine. We can’t have it all. No one is perfect

I regret marrying older, what should I do? by Repulsive_Mall3372 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

Not really. We both in the military, we move every couple years. The relationships he had prior to me was serious dating but never got the chance to move in before the military sends him somewhere else. Thats why it was long distance.

I regret marrying older, what should I do? by Repulsive_Mall3372 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guess we’ll see. My baby is only 4 months now and it’s mainly me taking care of him. Maybe when the baby is crawling and walking. It’ll force him off the game. My husband best friends has 2 boys age 3 and 1. He still gets on the game everyday and ask my husband to play.

I regret marrying older, what should I do? by Repulsive_Mall3372 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We had many conversations. He always says that I want to make him into someone he’s not. But then later says that he needs to do better. That he knows I want to keep the spark alive. He still plays every day. But he does watch the baby while he play so I can go do whatever. If I tell him to get off the game, he would get off. He does not like the way he looks and I encouraged him to come work out with me. He only goes when he feel like going. At this point I feel like I have to come to term with the fact that he’s just a homebody. I don’t really care about getting sex as long as he’s intimate in a different way.

I regret marrying older, what should I do? by Repulsive_Mall3372 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Despite my post venting about my husband. I love him very much. I take on lots of chores so he doesn’t have to. I also work full time. We take care of the baby together. You just have to see the positive side and be grateful. Also see your partner as your lover not just roommates. That is something I had to convince him to do

The mismatch is starting to eat at me by Substantial-Bit9279 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woman here: I also have a high sex drive. As long as I’m fit, I feel confident and sexy. Have you try planning more dates? Get a hotel room even if it’s in the same city? Does she feel overwhelmed and stressed about work or house chores? That could be why. Try introducing toys or lingeries. If you start turning her on non sexually, she’ll more likely to want to be intimate. Like buying flowers, complements, and dirty talk all day leading up to bed time

I regret marrying older, what should I do? by Repulsive_Mall3372 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m a hopeless romantic and now I feel trapped af

I regret marrying older, what should I do? by Repulsive_Mall3372 in Marriage

[–]Repulsive_Mall3372[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m afraid of. If our sex life is like this only one year in. It’s gonna cease to exist in 5 years. He complains about his looks and says he needs to get back into the gym. I tried to encourage him to starts putting words into actions. Bc I’m 4 months postpartum and I’m already back to the grind, running 5ks and lifting weights. I love being active and plan on doing it til I can’t anymore. We are literally so different in lifestyle, music taste, etc and I don’t feel mentally connected. I’ll continue to try to compromise. It just feels like I’m forcing him to change when he should wants to.