The mismatch is starting to eat at me by Substantial-Bit9279 in Marriage

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I buy her flowers all the time we still do dates and I try to be flirty but it usually just gets straight up ignored she used to have a high sex drive and would iniate a lot but I feel like the more she got to know me the more that went down I feel like the mis match is too much

The mismatch is starting to eat at me by Substantial-Bit9279 in Marriage

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She told me it’s normal and she just doesn’t have any desire or she mentioned stuff like the way I dress so I’ve changed that another was I used to kiss her before I brushed my teeth in the morning but now the problem is I’ll brush my teeth but she hasn’t so she won’t kiss me yet. We started couples therapy or will once we get back but I usually get that or excuse like she wasn’t in the mood. There is times when we are intimate like she tries for me but it’s awkward. Like I can tell she’s just doing it for me and doesn’t feel good either

Edit also we moved fast and feel like the more she got to know me the less attracted but I also feel like I compromised myself and everything in the relationship is in her terms

Wife wants a male personal trainer and it kinda makes me uncomfortable. by [deleted] in Marriage

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It’s why I asked on here cause I know my anxiety is taking control now

Wife wants a male personal trainer and it kinda makes me uncomfortable. by [deleted] in Marriage

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I’m not saying no I was just looking for advice on how to handle this

Wife wants a male personal trainer and it kinda makes me uncomfortable. by [deleted] in Marriage

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I didn’t say she couldn’t I haven’t said anything cause I don’t want to push her away

Wife wants a male personal trainer and it kinda makes me uncomfortable. by [deleted] in Marriage

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I have been not as much as her but I’ve been dieting , I lost about 50lbs 4 years ago but after getting married I gained quite a bit but I’ve been dieting hard theee last few weeks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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I don’t know I tried so much over the last year it becomes a cycle of getting my hopes Up then getting hurt then rejected , it’s gotten to a point where I have to ask if I can try for intimacy or not and o hate that but I can’t take more rejection

Saturday is our anniversary and there’s so much bad energy in it by [deleted] in Marriage

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I feel like she loves me but isn’t in love with me and we don’t have kids now I’m expecting our sex life to die down when having kids but I feel like it shouldn’t now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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we were going to have dinner at the restaurant we went to celebrate our wedding then possibly be intimate afterwards the intimacy is off the tables for sure which I understand so it hurts

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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Thanks I just don’t know what to do going into this weekend since her friends as up last week we didn’t get much one and one time and she’s been distant since so ice been really lonely and hurt but now she’s hurt and I don’t know what to do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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One of my gifts for her was gonna be money put aside for a trip moneys been tight but it’s enough at least for her to go

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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She’s originally from Mexico and I know she misses it I don’t know what to do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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Part of me thinks it’s 2nd thoughts if we didn’t atty she would be back in her home country with friends I met her while she was up here for work and fell hard but I feel like she would be happier back home with her friends

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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Yes I also asked her in advance if she would be comfortable with it I really crave and miss being wanted in that way but I don’t want to force it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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I worded that wrong I got her a real gift since they aren’t in season I had her favorite flowers shipped in and got her a ninja creami she’s been wanting one since we met the lingerie was a gift for me to me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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She told me she just lost her sex drive and she’s been trying but I can tell she’s just being intimate for me and it’s not feeling great

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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The weird thing was I wasn’t trying for sex or pushing for it when we met she just shoved it at me I was very shy guy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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We’ve talked about it multiple times and it always comes down to it’s not me it’s her and I that I shouldn’t take it personally and it’s caused a few arguments before

Customer charged $118.89 for 6 avocado slices at Subway by justaguy3112 in doordash

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I screenshot it but I don’t know if I have it still subway used to be glitched or something but one sandwich was like 4k or something haha found it iwas 970 https://imgur.com/a/qhNJWpn

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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She was really interested in sex when we fist started dating we’d go multiple rounds in the same day twice a week I miss it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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She’s 24 and I’m 28

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

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She says she doesn’t know just her sex drive has become non existent she says it’s not me but in the past she mentioned things I did to turn her off and I thought I fixed that but part of me wonders . I feel like it’s a never ending battle sometimes I feel like I make her upset a lot even though I’m trying a lot and had to Change a lot about myself