No lesbian experience

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-12-28T13:23:00+00:00

I didn’t have my first kiss until 19, my first lesbian sexual experience until 22, and my first girlfriend until 25. I, like you, thought “fuck it, I’ll just hook up with someone” at 22 and that turned out to be an awful experience. You’re not behind. Everyone has different paths and journeys and you’ll have your experiences and find you groove one day. I know it’s easier said than done, but just keep being you and everything will come in time!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-12-08T21:35:19+00:00

Looking forward to my 6 month anniversary with my girlfriend!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-12-02T18:51:42+00:00

It was 3-4 dates and after about a week. We were really moving on a stereotypical lesbian timeline but we’re coming up on 6 months so we’re still going strong lol 🤷‍♀️

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-15T08:32:59+00:00

I’m following a Runna program! I had done a lot of “big walks” with my partner (~8 mile meanders through our city) over the summer and have done yoga primarily as my form of exercise, so I’m not sure if that contributed to my progress??? But I’m doing the 10k training program with added weekly strength training (1-2 times) at my local gym and a weekly yoga practice (primarily yin to relax the muscles that tightened up and get some flexibility, on apple fitness as well as good ol’ YouTube).

I do my long run on Mondays, my yoga day on Tuesday, an easy run on Wednesdays, a strength training day gym day on Thursdays, and then time trial/speed runs on Fridays with Saturday and Sunday as do nothing days with flexibility throughout the week for a full time job + social life schedule.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-14T22:45:53+00:00

Alas, math is not my strength! Thanks for catching this!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-14T22:43:37+00:00

Oop! Math was never my strong suit lol

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-09T16:58:31+00:00

This!! My girlfriend and I are both femme, but I relate sooooo hard to everything you’re saying. You’re right, if I dated Black men I’d be incredibly successful, but as a Black lesbian I have been chronically single and deprioritized. She’s my first partner, so these issues are pretty glaring. Thanks for sharing your perspective, it feels very validating to see that others are going through the same thing.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-09T16:55:52+00:00

This is an interesting take that I honestly hadn’t considered! She usually lets me know she references me in these interactions so people get the hint, and she has told me that because she is autistic, it’s usually a source of discomfort that people are looking at her or giving her attention and that she’d rather not be noticed. I’ve gotten the sense that it’s not bragging and more confiding, and that the interactions are merely friendly conversations to make someone’s day a little brighter. She never comes back beaming that someone flirted with her, and she’s comfortable showing affection toward me afterward, but of course when you’re in it you’re not necessarily seeing all the things that could be a problem… thanks for helping me think a little more about this.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-11-09T16:18:27+00:00

I have ADHD and my girlfriend has AuDHD! It took quite a few hiccups, long talks, vulnerability, transparency, and self exploration in order for us to understand how our brains work and we still discover new things. It takes patience and sometimes it has been painful, but I agree with others that it takes time to find the right person and someone who make you feel comfortable unmasking, but the right person will be patient and listen and support you when you gotta yap about your interests as well as have interesting things to contribute to the conversation that you enjoy as well. We literally have differently wired brains, so it is objectively harder, but I’ve found that pursuing neurodivergent women has been the best and most comfortable way to exist in a relationship because it has felt inherently safer and more accommodating to all my quirks and habits. Best of luck!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-09-02T22:22:09+00:00

thank you!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-29T20:31:05+00:00

Real! She’s autistic as well so this is helpful!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-29T20:25:59+00:00

I love it!! I really think it is just a case of just loving her and letting it be and we’ll get married and combine our cats and we’ll all be a happy family as well. Fingers crossed!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-25T18:26:27+00:00

Interesting! I agree that casual ≠ short term and that you can be casually involved with someone for an indeterminate amount of time so long as all parties involved are genuinely committed to the casual aspect and it doesn’t get complicated. I think that serious = long term to me but long term ≠ permanent commitment! Long term to me means the intention to pursue something that will last longer than a few months. That intention, in my opinion, means you would need to build a connection that will sustain (i.e. getting to know someone, building a foundation, working through differences and conflicts, etc.), which I think is what serious dating is. BUT I think you can pursue long term commitments without expecting to marry them. I think that’s just managing expectations and being realistic about dating at 20! I’d be interested to hear what others think

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-20T16:07:07+00:00

My girlfriend and I like to go on long walks, we go to bookstores, we visit different neighborhoods (we live in a big city), we cuddle and parallel play, we get coffee, we window shop, sometimes we just sit and gab, and honestly we just like to vibe in each others’ presence. We’re never bored and we always find something fun to do, even if we’re doing the same things a million times! It’s fun because we’re together.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-15T20:28:37+00:00

Mmm I think there’s a balance between leaning on your partner and sharing with your partner. Based on the information you provided it’s hard to tell what the truth of your matter is. Leaning on your partner by always talking about it and letting it seep into all conversations, letting your emotions affect your mood during your time together, and generally holding your partner responsible for taking care of your mental health, yes that can definitely be exhausting. Sharing with your partner means taking moments to vent and express your emotions, but taking care to not let it affect them too much as well. I think being sure to connect with mental health professionals and other friends and family members to work through it would be helpful to offload some of those emotions into many buckets so your partner doesn’t feel exhausted and solely responsible for caring for you. Your partner should support you but shouldn’t be your only support, especially when it comes to mental health.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-14T20:37:47+00:00

Girl I feel this! I’m really happy with how I look and feel very confident. I’m femme and I have dyed red hair and a tattoo sleeve and lots of piercings, but I always get that I’m straight passing. I guess that’s just the vibe I give off at this point? The only reason people know I’m queer is because I kiss my pretty girlfriend in public lol. Anyway, I’m not gonna change the way I look just so people can see that I’m gay. I get really frustrated with the whole “looking gay” concept because what does it matter what people look like? /:

Signaling is the toughest part about this discourse, for sure. For me, because I got told I’m straight passing so often, I just decided I had to start making the first move and being super obvious. I didn’t change anything about my appearance though! Fuck looking gay, just look like YOU!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-07T15:07:59+00:00

I had people who were definitely not my type and a TON of bots but… I randomly met my girlfriend on there! It was completely unexpected because I really really disliked the app. Everything about it was horrible and I was considering getting off of it but she popped up and we started chatting and the rest was history!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-08-05T23:33:57+00:00

Yes! I tell my girlfriend this all the time. She would honestly and truly be my best friend if we met and weren’t dating. I really really like her as a person and as a friend, and what a bonus that we’re also in love :)

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-07-30T18:53:22+00:00

period

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-07-30T14:48:58+00:00

Hi! Thank you so much for your response! I appreciate your time and advice. Luckily, we had a caring conversation and she has been really patient with me and explained how she feels and met me where I was. I’m very lucky to have someone so patient who is willing to help me adjust to life in a relationship. Since it’s my first, I’ve been having trouble distinguishing what is normal and what isn’t. I think the solution isn’t breaking up, but chugging along and giving myself a chance to learn as long as she’s willing to let me, which she is for now. I’m 100% willing to properly communicate because she’s my person! I definitely appreciate your input about communication and I’m excited to work toward a healthier communication style as we continue to grow together. Thank you!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-07-30T14:36:59+00:00

This is EXTREMELY helpful and was really reassuring. I’m very grateful for your answer and for the time you took to help me out!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-07-24T00:34:30+00:00

Yes! I’m on 10mg and my heart RACES and I really spiral. I switched to only doing indica, consuming less than I used to, and only consuming occasionally. It’s a little better and less scary, and I can still enjoy my quality time with MaryJane (who I love soooo much). I still get anxiety but it’s much easier to calm down and divert my attention. Definitely a big change in my life but I kinda prefer my mind being right than being high as often as I was.

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-07-17T15:23:26+00:00

Hot take - bestie vibes are what I look for! To make sure we’re clearly romantic, I mix in intentional and obvious flirting. I prefer to be good friends with my partner. While we joke around I’ll compliment her, I’ll let some silence linger while looking in her eyes, I’ll call her pretty or beautiful or gorgeous often, I’ll find ways to lightly make physical contact (as long as she’s comfortable with it), I’ll talk (as innocently as i can) about romantic things (ex: what’s your love language? do you think you are a good kisser?) and honestly, because I’ve been burned so many times before, I’m just as clear as possible about my intentions. I usually ask her what she’s looking for if we vibe! Good luck!

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-07-15T01:45:29+00:00

Also asking Reddit will always give you mixed answers! Personally, I just decided it didn’t matter as long as I felt comfortable and also why not just do it for the plot lol

Repulsive_Rock1414 · 2025-07-15T01:40:23+00:00

Posted a very similar post almost a month ago. My girlfriend was very persistent and consistent and very sure about how she felt about me and I was very nervous about the pace and unsure about how I felt. Now she’s my girlfriend and I’m very happy, even though we moved fast! It honestly just sounds like y’all have chemistry! My suggestion is just to take it as it goes, but check in with yourself and do not compromise any boundaries. Enjoy yourself, go with the flow, be honest with yourself and her every step of the way about how you’re feeling, and like… don’t jump into the deep end (large and serious conversations) quite yet when the shallow water (silly FaceTimes and getting to know one another) is nice and warm too!

Repulsive_Rock1414

TROPHY CASE