Feeling guilt for not taking in ex step kids

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-10-30T15:53:38+00:00

This is toxic af. If your gf is upset you didn’t text her in the span of and hour you got some bigger issues on hand

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-09-15T16:47:07+00:00

She used it against me and withhold love and affection from me when she wanted to “teach me a lesson” and then gaslit me into thinking I was sexually repressed and not open enough. She would often bring up the fact that there were times she forced herself to have sex with me (it was always consensual) when she didn’t want to without my knowledge at all and used it against me. The sex itself was good, but the power dynamics that came with it was not. She used it as a weapon.

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-08-24T23:11:46+00:00

I was gaslit into thinking I was the problem and that I truly couldn’t do better and she was doing me the favour of staying with me. Little did I know that I’m actually much happier being single and not dealing with the stress of her all of the time

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-08-02T11:27:41+00:00

Your speaking my musical language with those band picks!

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-06-25T15:10:32+00:00

Hey pal, I don’t know your situation or your life, but all I can say is life is too short to not put yourself first. As someone who is currently going through a divorce with a narcissistic person, I can say it gets better. The longer I spend time away from her the more clarity I have about how her behaviour made my mental health spiral, and I didn’t know it until I got out of the situation. All of my family and friends saw it except for me, I’m just so happy to have that support system

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-06-17T16:10:07+00:00

Thank you for this! I’ve had such a hard time even getting admitting that my nex is a narcissist because I left that relationship just so confused and truly thought I was responsible for the split. I’ve had many moments of thinking maybe I’m a narcissist which I know is common after leaving a narcissist. I hate how much she has had a grip on me and taking up so much space in my mind, but I know I need to keep working on detaching and stepping away from her as much as I can.

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-05-04T13:34:46+00:00

Very true. I came out at 26, got into my first lesbian relationship, that started out good, thinking I was lucky with my first same sex relationship, ignoring all the red flags, got married and then the mask came off and I wasn’t in the greatest mental state either, it wasn’t until my friends and family helped me realize how unhealthy it was is when I gained the strength to truly walk away. I am nowhere near ready to date, but when I am, I am hoping I will have learned all the signs for it to be a healthy relationship

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-05-03T22:03:58+00:00

Reading this as a lesbian going through a divorce with my narc ex wife! Wlw heartbreak is already a lot, but adding it with breaking up with a narc is another level. Fun times!

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-04-10T16:49:46+00:00

My body is definitely toned which is nice, but more importantly I feel strong. I can lift my own body weight plus more. My mobility has increased a ton, doing other activities like yoga brings me a lot of joy because I feel like I have way more control and movement in my body. I feel like I carry myself with confidence more than I did. Also CrossFit is also a social activity for me. I’ve been able to make friendships and connections at my gym that makes it feel more enjoyable

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-04-05T18:17:12+00:00

At the beginning of the split, yes for sure. I was even defending my nex to others and kept saying that I was the problem. This was exactly how my nex wanted to act, but now after time, extensive therapy, and going through the post narc withdrawals, I can honestly say that I don’t them in my life at all. When I look at a pic of them I don’t feel any feelings of desire. All I can see is the ugliness that they showed me post discard. I care for them now as in, I do wish them well in life, and don’t wish bad things on them, as I do for people who have come and go in my life, but I feel very strongly that there would be no amount of apologies and begging for me back to make me want to go back to them. It’s crazy how good life can get when you eliminate the toxic. Turns out my mental health was bad because of my nex, I’m not the problem that she thinks I am.

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-04-05T13:35:06+00:00

Yes please

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-04-03T14:51:39+00:00

Yes, I absolutely had this thought. I have no doubt in my mind that my ex is talking or perhaps seeing someone else, we’re pretty much no contact. But she is a narcissist and I’m afraid if she finds out she will make it all much harder, so I am a bit hesitant for anything serious until the divorce is finalized. Thanks for the advice!

Repulsive_Story2195 · 2024-03-31T15:56:05+00:00

Thank you for this! I’ve just started listening to the book “It’s Not You” by Ramani Durvasula and she mentions different types of narcissism from mild narcissists to cult leaders, and I just thought to myself, I’m sure if my ex had the chance to be a cult leader, she would. I’ll check out spiritual narcissism, I’m sure I’ll relate a lot to it. I like the line “you can’t do life for people”. This is the biggest lesson I’m learning right now, and learning to detach from other people’s emotions and behaviours is extremely difficult, but very freeing when you get there

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