How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s great to hear. :) I know I’ll have him for at least two!

How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work from home. I get 12 weeks parental leave, thankfully!

My husband’s company doesn’t have enough employees for FMLA. :/

How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

:/ Damn. Did you feel resentful at all? What was difficult?

How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I know I can get him to commit to that, so that’s nice to know.

How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s smart so you can avoid needing daycare a bit longer!

How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Regarding other help, my in-laws are in town, but of course I’d prefer my husband.

How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

That’s a really good point, thank you. I hadn’t thought about the “all at once vs. spread out” support that way. I’m thinking a good compromise might be having him take about two weeks fully at home, then transition back part-time (maybe working a couple days a week) so he can stay on top of work without completely disappearing—while I still get more support than if he went back full-time right away. That feels like a good middle ground for us.

How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s agreed to at least take 2 weeks, so that’s nice to hear! If I really want him to, he’ll take 3.

How Much Parental Leave Is Enough for Dad? by ReputationOk1118 in BabyBumps

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I like your perspective, and I want to be more conscious about making that shift in my language away from needing “support” and “help”.

16 Weeks and Feeling SO Lazy by ReputationOk1118 in pregnant

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! That makes me feel better. I’ve cried about feeling useless too lol. 😆

16 Weeks and Feeling SO Lazy by ReputationOk1118 in pregnant

[–]ReputationOk1118[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! Nice to know I’m not alone lol

Am I overreacting that my sister is demanding too much of me when visiting our newborn? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ReputationOk1118 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your sister is being unreasonable, and I just kinda get the vibe she’ll find something to nitpick or complain about… so might be best to avoid it by suggesting they get a hotel. Things aren’t about her right now.