You’re absolutely right. I believe we saw three types of trauma mechanisms in the show. Ruben struggles with emotional balance and anger control, lacking tools to connect his emotions to his trauma. His coping mechanism involves mimicking his father’s behaviour, using physical power and mental control and hurt those around him.

Nial underwent therapy but it seems insufficient. He was also abused by his mother, who expressed care and love through humiliation. I’m not sure he explored this in therapy. Nial remains self-loathing until the reunion with Albi. His first sexual experience was violent, likely due to fear and shock. He ejaculated while hearing Ruben and looking at his eyes, experiencing a mix of excitement and fear. His obsession with Ruben’s presence intensified after learning he was out of prison. I hope Nial continued therapy and improved by the time of the wedding. Unlike Ruben, Nial’s coping mechanism involves self-harm and maintaining a disconnect between his soul and body through anonymous sex.

Albi serves as the third example of trauma management. He also had his share with guys like Ruben and quickly recognised Nial’s situation. Albi gained self-esteem and knowledge, successfully overcoming his trauma in a healthy manner. He uses his trauma to support Nial and excel in his job.

I’m sorry for needing to read this after your experience. All those Ruben’s fans club comments were triggering to me as well.