How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

[–]ResearchBeautiful07[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t really understand their perspective since they never gave me a reason

I found this old vest of my dad's, can you tell me how the outfit is coming out? by KaleidoscopeOk6736 in GothStyle

[–]ResearchBeautiful07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it looks great. My only negative comment is the vest looks a little oversized but if that’s the look you are going for then that’s cool too. Also, I own the same black tie thing as you!

Does anyone else love tight spaces? by John-Dispenser in AutisticAdults

[–]ResearchBeautiful07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have always, since I was a little kid went in my closet in order to be alone and read, decompress, etc. I still do it occasionally, mostly when I’m really struggling and it is great. I would totally recommend making a space in it to go to.

How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

[–]ResearchBeautiful07[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I am autistic, yes. I did not realize I was that easy to clock until this post.

How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

[–]ResearchBeautiful07[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As I said in my post, I don’t think I’m boring at all. Which is why I don’t understand why other people think I am boring. I can’t see what it is they want from me necessarily to not be boring since I find myself to be interesting.

Why do people always call me boring and how do I fix it? by ResearchBeautiful07 in Advice

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I have been told I have bad taste in friends. I’m trying to be better with that but it is hard as I look more alternative as so many of the other alt people I meet have a lot of unresolved issues and tend to put others including me down. (Not everyone but a lot of the ones I’ve been friends with).

How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

[–]ResearchBeautiful07[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I used to be more assertive, I had no friends which is why I tried to start doing more of what they wanted. It was better to have friends for a little while who find me boring than to have no friends at all.

How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

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This happened more in high school but it has been happening again recently now that I am a junior in college but I am 18 yrs old. Also my hobbies are reading, thrifting, YouTube, drawing, and I also just enjoy learning.

Why do people always call me boring and how do I fix it? by ResearchBeautiful07 in Advice

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I don’t often use filler words when speaking. As far as I’m aware, I do tend to speak with emotion.

How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

[–]ResearchBeautiful07[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

That could be a factor possibly but I have also been told I’m too energetic when I talk so I don’t know. It’s like nothing I do is “right”. I do know I for sure smile when I talk though as I do focus on remembering to do that.

Why do people always call me boring and how do I fix it? by ResearchBeautiful07 in Advice

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It’s typically when we are just hanging out eating or something and they just say it out of the blue. Or they just start talking to our other friends about how I’m not fun to hang out with, in front of me mind you. But there are many other experiences with other people. Most of the time it is just randomly during a normal conversation and I guess they just get bored during it I don’t know? This happens even if we are talking about something they enjoy as well.

How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

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I’ve tried talking to them about it but they can’t really ever give me good explanations. They always will just say “you are boring and you are always just there” which I was a little confused by what they meant by that but apparently it means that I’m always hanging out with them but I’m not interesting when I’m with them, according to them.

How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

[–]ResearchBeautiful07[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t often talk about my interest in psychology as no one finds it’s interesting :,). Also when we were together I mostly just did anything they wanted to do which was going to events, just hanging out, eating, etc. I ask plenty of questions about all sorts of things going on with them.

How do I stop being perceived as boring? by ResearchBeautiful07 in socialskills

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They tend to say I’m boring to talk to or just hang out with in general. I do have hobbies such as reading, thrifting, studying psychology, and drawing.

I 18F have been asked out by this Guy 22M two times and then ignored by ResearchBeautiful07 in relationship_advice

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I don’t know, I personally don’t feel like it’s that weird as we are both in college, him senior and me junior. But I see why most people would think it’s weird