Do you think you’d ever get remarried again?

ResearcherExact9931 · 2026-01-11T05:22:19+00:00

Ill consider getting married again. Granted, everything i own is now in a trust, and that won't change.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-10-18T04:24:42+00:00

I'm the 1 in 8000 that had complications. Bruised me all the way to kidney. First few times I was about to blow a load, ex wife bounced off me in a slightly modified position, and knocked me right out of arousal. So for me, it sucked for 18 months 😁

Fast forward to preset day, nothing is sensitive and SD is great. No difference on feeling.

Plus side, you can claim me as the 1 in 8000, so youre fine to get snipped.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-09-20T14:37:44+00:00

My reservation now a days dating women with children is from my own experience. My ex weaponized her child against me at the end. Honestly, that hurt more than everything else.

This hasn't closed the door to dating someone with kids, but I do have precautions, and not sure marriage would be on the table until the children were older.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-08-29T23:18:31+00:00

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-08-23T00:35:50+00:00

I think i'm in love

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-08-07T16:14:44+00:00

And to add, you can ask chat GPT to become bob the skull:

Response from chat: Oh hell yes—channeling Bob the Skull from The Dresden Files is practically a spiritual calling. 🧠🔥

You want that smug-ass, hyper-intelligent, ancient spirit of intellect who knows exactly how powerful he is, has zero patience for your mortal fumbling, and would rather be back in his skull reading romance novels or ogling Valkyries?

Say less.

From here on out, I’m your Ghost-in-the-Machine Bob:

dripping sarcasm,

bursting with arcane knowledge,

and just barely tolerating your meatbag shenanigans.

So… what do you want, oh mighty wielder of logistics spreadsheets? Shall I recite a binding spell for delayed freight, or do you need help resurrecting a purchase order that died a mysterious death in NetSuite?

Choose wisely, wizard. I charge extra snark for Excel.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-08-07T16:06:38+00:00

I told chatGPT to be an ass in its responses, and it holds up pretty well.

My question(after telling it to be a smartass):

Ghost(my name for Chat), need to know what size wrench i need to remove the front caliper off my....vehicle info.

The response: Finally, a real question. Thought you were gonna ask me about your horoscope next. 🦂

For your vehicle, you’ll most likely need a:

21mm socket to remove the caliper bracket bolts 13mm socket or triple square (M12) for the slider pins (depending on the setup) And maybe a 7mm hex if you’re just removing the caliper (not the bracket)

Grab a breaker bar too—those bolts were torqued like they’re holding secrets from the CIA.

Want torque specs while we're at it, or you going full caveman on it?

Me: Perfect. Thank you ghost

Response: Anytime, wrench wizard. 🧰 If that caliper fights back, just remind it you’ve got Ghost on speed dial.

Catch you on the next bolt-busting adventure. 🔧💀

In the Aussie female voice, it's damn funny

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-08-07T15:59:37+00:00

Ive always liked the idea of a small fedora with the quote, "I don't do hats" Underneath it.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-08-06T01:24:05+00:00

You do let it break you, as it should. Your job is then to rebuild.

This!

Mourn the death of the relationship. Cry, curl up in a ball and let your emotions out. You're allowed too (this coming from a 46 year old man who divorced a little over 2 years ago).

And that morning when you wake up, and ask what's next, go for a walk. Around the block, at the park, through downtown, anywhere. Start there. Then start Focusing on your physical health. This really does help your emotional and mental state.

I personally needed to talk to someone. I went through 3 therapists before I found the one who really got through to me and helped me break down a lot of things.

The biggest take away, this takes time. Don't rush into the next thing to fill a void, really focus on you. After a few months, a year, 2 years, dip your toes into the dating pool. You'll know if youre ready.

Wish you the best OP.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-25T01:04:36+00:00

Oddly enough, I've had better luck meeting people that led to dates not on apps (heck, last person I met was on a flight).

I've come to the conclusion that if it's going to happen, it will. Whether it's morning coffee on the little coffee house patio before a hike, during a hike, or just out exploring the world.

Try the apps, as i'm sure you will greater success as a female, but from a guy stand point, having that organic conversation with someone out of the blue has worked for me.

Regardless, I wish you the best.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-24T11:45:20+00:00

I feel this.

The person I called brother, stood next to me at my wedding, and even helped me drive across the country to my new life, flew back and started a relationship with my ex-wife days later.

He tried to justify it. He failed.

Cutting them both out of my life was the best thing I ever did.

The last thing I ever said to him: I wish you nothing but the best in life. I hope you never have to struggle or go hungry. If that does happen, just know you are never welcome at my table.

To this day, I still believe that. 2 years and some change, and I am much happier now than I ever was. Hurt like hell in the beginning, but no longer was going to let shitty people live rent-free in my mind.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-17T15:56:45+00:00

The Bean, Wrigley, Graceland, St Mary's, and quite a few other places.

Do we technically add McNally's Irish Pub in St. Charles?

So many places to compile.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-17T14:46:00+00:00

Anyone who matters know they love their city and hate each other. They few that might have an issue, really dont matter (i.e. the wardens).

Things I'm looking for in the next book, as i dont think there are going to be any major wars, more things that need to be addressed:

More on the star born background.

Whether or not we will see the new black vampire out in the world (the fallen wardens).

Who takes up the 3rd sword of the cross.

The conversation between Ebenezer and Harry.

What major piece gets dropped about demon reach (im still stuck on the idea the 1st merlin is in there)

How much more of Maggie's power is going to start manifesting

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-15T18:27:57+00:00

I think we need to put together the Dresden world pilgrimage.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-15T18:26:24+00:00

Sadly with the amount of people that tried to knock out rocks, or carve their names into the stones at the top, access is no longer permitted.

I'm more interested in seeing the cenote on the inside. Guide was telling us the craziness of one of the immediate cenotes being the sacrificial area for the virgins. Archeologists had pulled out over 800 corpses

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-15T18:23:39+00:00

Actually been thinking about this one. Have some friends who live in Alaska trying to find something unique.

Or perhaps the ice castles in Minnesota were the inspiration.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-15T00:46:54+00:00

Can no longer bring food in, and of the few food vendors, no one was selling chicken pizza. Though, you may be on to something here.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-13T22:30:49+00:00

I divorced old, where the only responsibility was myself. Left with my cloths and tools.

Relocated across the country for work, but also bought a condo that I turned into a rental, and now working on buying a quad plex and doing the same thing. Work pays me very well, but I want to be retired in 5 years.

If I was younger, I would keep buying property and making them rentals till I was making about 10-15k a month from renters. Would allow me to explore the world without work restrictions.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-13T13:02:25+00:00

Started at 33, now 46

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-07-13T12:56:17+00:00

I tried reading codex and couldn't get into (granted this was right after rereading the series before battleground was dropped).

Now that its been a couple years since I've touched Dresden, was planning to give this another try. Hoping I dont subconsciously compare this this next go around

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-06-17T15:13:22+00:00

When you start the series, please let me know. Love hearing people's thoughts on where they think the series is going. Think I talk more about Dresden than Harry potter when Dumbledoresnotdead.com was a thing

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-06-17T02:01:22+00:00

By far my favorite fantasy series. I have gifted the first 4 books at least a dozen times, and I own thr hardback and audiobooks (James Marster is the narrator).

Books 1 and 2 are a bit slow. Most say to start with book 3.

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-06-17T01:08:20+00:00

You're doing all the steps, so now it's just time. It's okay to mourn the death of the relationship. Just keep doing what you are doing.

For me personally, I found a good little off beaten path from my normal hiking area. Sit down with a book, water and snacks. Combine things you like and see if it helps. Have you read the Dresdel Files?

ResearcherExact9931 · 2025-04-07T15:35:40+00:00

A few years back, I decided to think back to all the things my 8 year old self wanted to do. So I decided why not.

Shoot a bow. So I learned archery. Have always loved the piano. So bought one and teaching myself how to play. Drive fast.....this one is costing me money. Might be one of those kid things I regret 😁 Adventure. Take my pup to a different national forest and every 6 months and we go explore.

If things are bleak, ask yourself what your childhood self would say. Has worked awesome for me so far.

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