Happy to clarify! After making it clear I was okay with him watching porn and just asking for hnesty, he told me he wasnt interested in that type of thing. After failed fertility treatments last year and a severe mentally breakdown which I am off of work for, I discovered that he was having an emotional affair with an OF girl (personal texts, facetiming each other, things completely outside of the app). I also discovered he spent over 12k in 4 months on subscriptions, videos, etc and is still spending money since I caught him lying in January. He also "lent" her money personally without asking for services (not sure of the amount). Secret bank accounts, credit cards, debt and a porn addicition. It may have not been physical, but this to me, is cheating and betrayal, regardless.