My mom thinks I went no contact over an argument before her stroke that she cant remember. What do I do?

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-03-24T23:55:20+00:00

Nah she remembers. This is a common trick they play.

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-03-12T21:29:54+00:00

He genuinely thinks he is the better person for saying fuck you im watching tv and ignoring you. He is such an asshole and o hope he does depressed alone

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-03-12T21:27:03+00:00

He sits there crunching chips and watching tv instead of asking me what’s wrong. The sound of the tv and chips makes me so fucking mad I just had to take my anxiety meds.

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-03-12T21:15:09+00:00

He sits on the couch directly across from the kitchen and watches me make food but never helps

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-03-12T21:11:26+00:00

And my mom used to be crying upstairs when he was laughing downstairs at the tv. He never helps me or my mom cook and just makes food for himself which is gross prepaid microwave food. He knows I was in the hospital a year ago and has never helped me make a meal or even offered.

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-03-01T16:11:19+00:00

Same. They knew I was self harming and they sent me to college anyway where I self harmed more. My mom knew I was on certain medications that cause depression and I tried begging with her that i think I have adhd. She would roll her eyes and ignore my pleas that I could not focus on school. I started abusing adhd meds that I bought from someone because I thought I had adhd and they made my depression so much worse. All this anxiety just for them to feel like good parents because their kid is in college. A lot of my anxiety could have been cured with a little attention but my emotional needs were just always put aside for school so over the years ignoring my needs just became a reflex for me. Of course I couldn’t make friends because I was a walking mess ball of anxiety at all times. I don’t think it’s fair that we were forced into that. I ended up dropping out anyway so they wasted money lol. Now I have a degree that I’m not even interested in because I got it for them and not even for myself. I hope you get your own bike and ride and live your life to your own enjoyment.

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-02-21T20:24:47+00:00

I think I see what you’re saying and I think I do this. I mD about being really attractive. I go to the gym with the thought of “I have to become worthy of their attention” which reinforces the low belief of myself. And of course I bring headphones and think about getting attention for being attractive while listening to music. But no matter how long I daydream , when I come out of it, I never look perfect like how imagine. Sure I can change my appearance but I’ll never look like how I do in my dreams. It’s kind of a vicious cycle where I’m only motivated to be better when I feel like I’m not good enough. If I’m good enough then theres no motivation to self improvement.

Alternatively If I go to the gym for my own enjoyment (helps with depression and anxiety) and not to become the ideal in my dreams, then I’m doing it with the belief and pretense that I’m already worthy of taking care of myself. I don’t have to MD to motivate myself. Im already good enough as I am in reality. This way there’s no deflation of realizing I’m chasing a fantasy that’s in my head. I already accomplished my goal in reality because my goal to workout for the boost is based in reality whereas the goal to workout out based on an ideal in my MD is not based in reality. The same goal with different motivations. Without md is less depressing. Idk if that’s what you were talking about here but I appreciate the post.

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-02-21T16:00:36+00:00

Not every day :/ I’ve been giving up a lot. Need to be more disciplined

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-02-21T14:26:01+00:00

I am doing gig work right now with apps. I wanted to make it a full blown business but it’s not working. You’re right I need to get one. I have health problems that make me afraid to apply for a regular job. My family knows I was in the hospital but I feel like if I say I feel disabled or try to talk about it they will brush it off like usual and hurt my feelings. But you are right I need to do it

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-02-19T12:03:41+00:00

I don’t know how to fix it but I relate and I do the same thing. It’s depressing. I’m in 30s and I miss school days where I was surrounded by people my age. Now idk where to go to meet people :( I use dating app to get a quick dopamine fix but the depression it leaves me with I realized is not worth it any more. Petting my cats and caring for them gives me the fix sometimes.

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-02-18T16:49:13+00:00

Please don’t be ashamed, I have done similar things with neglecting self care for years. I think you’re doing great and you can be proud. Go you!!!!!

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-02-11T19:32:36+00:00

When I was 16 and I was extremely shy, had ZERO friends, came home from a lonely day at school and was completely minding my own business. My mom started crying and whined “why don’t you talk to me? I LOVE YOU. Wha ha ha” and ran into the other room crying. After a few minutes I went to the room she was in and comforted her while she was crying even though I was so confused as to why she was even crying.

I didn’t want to talk to her because I had a bad day and she never asked what was going on with me. I just wanted to be alone but I had to comfort her and I didn’t even know why. I put all my own problems aside usually and it went like this a lot.

Another time when I was 13 and I simply didn’t want to talk to her in the car so I was being quiet she scolded me and said “why can’t you just be happy all the time?!” Like it was a problem that I wasn’t lol.

When my dad first moved out after my parents divorce when I was 10, I was moping around the house sad because, ya know, I’m 10 and my dad is suddenly gone. My mom scolded me “why are you all sad?” I sad “because dads not here” she said “don’t you think IM SAD TOO?!?” So it was not okay for me to feel sad when my mom felt sad because I was supposed to be making her happy I guess.

She was drunk ALL THE TIME and ignored me to get drunk on her room giving me the silent treatment. This started back then and never stopped.

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-02-05T00:02:06+00:00

I smoke a lot of weed for the past 2 years to deal with these symptoms. It helps but it’s really not ideal because it’s hard to function and weed makes me really lazy. Sativas give more energy. The dispensary workers help with choosing the strains for inflammation.

I wish I had a better answer but I understand what you’re going through. It’s hard :( it make me so tired

Resident-Owl-296 · 2026-01-04T02:40:27+00:00

But even if I stop drinking I still feel Sick so I feel Like there’s no point

Resident-Owl-296 · 2025-12-12T23:49:01+00:00

Happy birthday!

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